what is your type?
male or female! my type of guy im immediately attracted to are tall, blue eyed, and muscular. (like my husband! lol) i also love guys that are huge jokesters and can make me laugh. confidence is a big thing to but not cocky!
tattooed buff latinos. didn't used to be so, many years ago, but it is now. not that this is exclusive, of course, but if you mean "the kind of person I will turn and stare at", there you have it.
as for women it's more variable, but a feminist viewpoint is a must.
Lanky, skinny guys with pale skin. Blue eyes are a plus. Strong jawlines make me melt with a little stubble. Robert Pattinson is a good example 
Sense of humor, tall (over 6 ft), fit, employed, unattached to momma or ex-wives/girlfriends, intelligent, thoughtful, sentimental, kind, romantic, ambitious (as in NOT lazy). Any sort of mogul will do.
tall, average built, blue eyes, brown hair, and geeky.
in other words.. my boyfriend.
I tell you, I know this might sound sappy, but my husband is a total stud! Long hair, musician, strong but not super-muscly, spiritual, intelligent, funny, confident. He's got 7 ear piercings. No tattoos, but I have one big enough for both of us. 
When we met, he was single, lived in his own house and was/is still self-employed. He's creative and the perfect man for me. In the beginning I was afraid he might be too much for me. I was a little intimidated. I underestimated myself. Glad I met the challenge. Now I'm no good for anyone else cuz I have the perfect man fror me.
The guys I've been attracted to could pass off as my brothers, we'd have similar face structures and similar coloring (dark eyes, dark hair, slight natural tan)...lol...isn't that weird? I also have a thing for guys in specs and goatees, and I get put off by guys with smooth, clean-shaven faces (no idea why! I just love facial hair on men). No tattoos or piercings. Great cheekbones and a toothpaste-ad smile get my attention.
Body-wise, I like them tall, a little skinny is fine, he doesn't have to be too muscular or anything, I do tend to go for athletic types though. I love wide, manly shoulders and large hands on a guy, it doesn't even matter if he's abit on the thin side or has a little extra fat.
Sense of humor is a must...so's ambition. Ambitious men are sexy, no matter what their job description...he should be a great conversationalist as well.
That pretty much sums it for me I guess...lol.
Original Post by desert_rose:
The guys I've been attracted to could pass off as my brothers
Actually I was just saying to my friend yesterday there was some theory that quite a few women were attracted to partners who had similar facial structures and features (applies to me). Also, this could be related to the fact that subconsciously some women find men who mildly resemble their father aesthetically pleasing (sounds very weird and a little gross to hear but if you look closely you might find that has happened!)
Original Post by blondiecath:
Original Post by desert_rose:
The guys I've been attracted to could pass off as my brothers
Actually I was just saying to my friend yesterday there was some theory that quite a few women were attracted to partners who had similar facial structures and features (applies to me). Also, this could be related to the fact that subconsciously some women find men who mildly resemble their father aesthetically pleasing (sounds very weird and a little gross to hear but if you look closely you might find that has happened!)
Yep! I've read that somewhere too...I don't look like my dad though and he's more on the short side...but he does have the most amazing bassy voice (had his own band back in his hey days), probably the reason why I go for guys with masculine voices...I mean, a guy could look like Brad Pitt for all I care, but if he speaks in a high pitched or wimpy tone of voice, that's a serious turn off for me, on the other hand, a guy could be fat or skinny or average looking, but if he's got a good deep voice on him and says the right stuff, I'd find him pretty sexy.
I think we girls associate our dads (or any dominant male figure that's been present in our childhood) with masculinity, it's somewhere in our subconcious mind that 'this is how a man is supposed to look/sound/act like' before we even had a clue as to what sexuality or attraction is.
Original Post by desert_rose:
Original Post by blondiecath:
Original Post by desert_rose:
The guys I've been attracted to could pass off as my brothers
Actually I was just saying to my friend yesterday there was some theory that quite a few women were attracted to partners who had similar facial structures and features (applies to me). Also, this could be related to the fact that subconsciously some women find men who mildly resemble their father aesthetically pleasing (sounds very weird and a little gross to hear but if you look closely you might find that has happened!)
Yep! I've read that somewhere too...I don't look like my dad though and he's more on the short side...but he does have the most amazing bassy voice (had his own band back in his hey days), probably the reason why I go for guys with masculine voices...I mean, a guy could look like Brad Pitt for all I care, but if he speaks in a high pitched or wimpy tone of voice, that's a serious turn off for me, on the other hand, a guy could be fat or skinny or average looking, but if he's got a good deep voice on him and says the right stuff, I'd find him pretty sexy.
I think we girls associate our dads (or any dominant male figure that's been present in our childhood) with masculinity, it's somewhere in our subconcious mind that 'this is how a man is supposed to look/sound/act like' before we even had a clue as to what sexuality or attraction is.
I'm not too sure if the same applies to boys with their mothers though. It is definitely true that some of them immediately seek a replacement mother figure as soon as they leave home. But yeah, back on topic the weird thing with me is that I tend to favour guys who resemble my dad physiologically but has my mother's colourings of fair skin and blue eyes. Weird, but fascinating! Then again, if a guy's attractive then he's attractive. They don't have to hit every one of my criteria boxes because that's practically impossible (and almost too good to be true!).
Original Post by blondiecath:
Original Post by desert_rose:
Original Post by blondiecath:
Original Post by desert_rose:
The guys I've been attracted to could pass off as my brothers
Actually I was just saying to my friend yesterday there was some theory that quite a few women were attracted to partners who had similar facial structures and features (applies to me). Also, this could be related to the fact that subconsciously some women find men who mildly resemble their father aesthetically pleasing (sounds very weird and a little gross to hear but if you look closely you might find that has happened!)
Yep! I've read that somewhere too...I don't look like my dad though and he's more on the short side...but he does have the most amazing bassy voice (had his own band back in his hey days), probably the reason why I go for guys with masculine voices...I mean, a guy could look like Brad Pitt for all I care, but if he speaks in a high pitched or wimpy tone of voice, that's a serious turn off for me, on the other hand, a guy could be fat or skinny or average looking, but if he's got a good deep voice on him and says the right stuff, I'd find him pretty sexy.
I think we girls associate our dads (or any dominant male figure that's been present in our childhood) with masculinity, it's somewhere in our subconcious mind that 'this is how a man is supposed to look/sound/act like' before we even had a clue as to what sexuality or attraction is.
I'm not too sure if the same applies to boys with their mothers though. It is definitely true that some of them immediately seek a replacement mother figure as soon as they leave home. But yeah, back on topic the weird thing with me is that I tend to favour guys who resemble my dad physiologically but has my mother's colourings of fair skin and blue eyes. Weird, but fascinating! Then again, if a guy's attractive then he's attractive. They don't have to hit every one of my criteria boxes because that's practically impossible (and almost too good to be true!).
according to this link it seems to apply to guys too...lol:
http://jezebel.com/5044765/study-shows-men-at tracted-to-women-who-look-like-their-mothers
now, about the 'hitting every single criteria box' part...lol...you're right...I mean I'm sure the world's full of great guys (I'm not being sarcastic here, I've met some really decent guys so I know they're out there!), I just want someone I can feel comfortable with...he doesn't have to be perfect, he just has to 'fit' me somehow...I guess I'll know it when I see it hehe...right now I'm just jamming along to John Mayer's Love Song For No One...that's like my current theme song where my love life is concerned lol.
according to this link it seems to apply to guys too...lol:
http://jezebel.com/5044765/study-shows-men-at tracted-to-women-who-look-like-their-mothers
now, about the 'hitting every single criteria box' part...lol...you're right...I mean I'm sure the world's full of great guys (I'm not being sarcastic here, I've met some really decent guys so I know they're out there!), I just want someone I can feel comfortable with...he doesn't have to be perfect, he just has to 'fit' me somehow...I guess I'll know it when I see it hehe...right now I'm just jamming along to John Mayer's Love Song For No One...that's like my current theme song where my love life is concerned lol.
Ah well there we go! On the contrary, my brother is an example of someone who doesn't fit the rule. I am like my mother where we both have very cut, heart-shaped faces (high cheekbones, slender noses and sharp jaws) with full-ish lips. My brother, however, likes girls a little more on the curvy side (my mum & I are slim) and faces a little less defined than ours. So actually he's attracted to women who I believe are more like our maternal grandmother who was petite and curvy and dark (and extremely beautiful nonetheless) whereas my mother and I have a resemblence to her father who was pretty opposite to my grandmother (tall, fair and very skinny).
Meh...I think it's more likely that we attract and get attracted to people who look like us, rather than people who look like our parents, my brother's skinny and he mostly goes for delicate looking skinny girls (mom's curvy), though he wouldn't mind curvier girls as long as their hot...lol...btw, I knew a guy once who was so freakishly similar to me, people would mistake us for siblings because we had similar eyes, face structure, hair...he didn't have boobs and he was taller and skinner, but he did have a nice goatee...we even share the same birthday date (though he was a couple years older)!!! we also had the same interests (and I have some weird ass interests let me tell you), same tastes in music, movies and even food, and yeah we both love to write songs and draw silly caricatures of random people...it was creepy!! freaking creepy, eventhough I'd be lying if I said I didn't find him attractive. Funny thing is, we were so much alike that it just ended up too weird and we just remained friends...I mean, what if he turns out to be my long lost brother or something...haha.
My tastes vary. Kind of like my tastes in music. I think I have one genre pegged as my favorite, but when I start listening to more and others I tend to like a variety. Ha Ha.
I love guys who are smart( but, not egg head smart where they try to prove you wrong and correct you all the time. :P Just common sense smart.)
Artistic/Creative (I love a man who can write, draw, make music, sing, etc. Actually my fiance when we first met as cheesy as it sounds would write me a new poem almost everyday and send it through e-mail. It was the sweetest thing. :))
Caring and respectful of people (I don't want a guy who's going to crack mean comments about rather decent people.)
Devoted (I don't need any players. I need to know my man isn't a strayer, if that's the case, then I want him to break it off instead of leading me around. I don't need that Bull..S...lip. I want a man who tells me he loves me to really mean it and accept every aspect thinking this is the girl for me. Just as I am feeling that he is the guy for me.)
Honest (someone I know who is willing to tell me the truth in all aspects. It makes me feel like he trusts me.)
Mysterious (but in a good way, like he can keep you guessing about what he's going to do next. It can be kind of sexy.)
Most of all, HUMOR, HUMOR, HUMOR! I need a man who can make me laugh, god, I think having comic relief in relationship is so important. Especially in today's times. Just so he knows when to switch it to serious mode, when it is, indeed, serious. Heh.
As for looks, that varies as well. I tend to like guys with longer hair. pale skin/ sometimes slightly tanned, beautiful eyes (eyes are the biggest part that attracts me.), slim(not too skinny), slightly muscular (also not too muscular I think that is so unappealing on a guy.), or stocky. (a guy with a few extra pounds doesn't bother me.)
Pretty much I've been told the guys I like are the pretty boys with a bad boy/rebel edge. Ha Ha. :)
physically: white guys, i'm mixed--half black and half white, but i am attracted to white guys. ultimate attraction would be dark hair, light eyes, relatively tall 5'10-6'0, medium build, not too scrawny.
For the internal/personality: Well established, secure, sensitive, not a lot of baggage. educated enough to hold an intellectual conversation about a topic that might be controversial, but do so with composure and an open mind. funny, driven, and confident.
i used to really like blonde hair and blue eyes, but now im the exact opposite. i love black hair and dark brown eyes. lately ive also been becoming more physically attracted to asian guys and south american guys. ultimately though, whoever ends up being the nicest guy is going to be the one that i prefer.
skinny cute art boys or punk rock boys. No hair skin or eye color preferences so long as I somehow find you cute. Classicly cute or quirky cute.
I tend to go after black guys. Usually guys that look like they play football lol. The guy I'm talking to now played running back in high school but now he has some pudge (I like him this way better). Most of the time, I really like guys that are tall and fit. And guys that make me laugh.
A guy has to carry himself a certain way. Be confident and social but not arrogant. And have a good relationship with his family. (To me, that's a good indicator of how he will treat me.)
I have to be able to hold an engaging conversation with a guy. I don't really care about his education level as long as he is intelligent in his own way. I like for a guy to be able to teach me something new.
I'm a sucker for a guy with a great smile. And if he can speak Spanish too, I'm all his. 
I'm currently swooning over Daniel Henney, which some of you may or may not recognize from the new Wolverine movie.
Aside from my idealized male god of physical attractiveness, what I look for in someone I'm actually interested in dating is actually pretty simple. Smart, and funny. In practice, physical features are pretty variable, all they have to be is taller than me (not hard, I'm 5'0"). Oh, and they have to shower regularly.
Kindness and respect is a given.
mmm Daniel Henney. Half-Korean and all sexy.
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