Ugh. Anyone have this problem ?

So basically, my whole entire day was good, but I was feeling a little bit tired and down and I didn't feel like going to the gym. So when my dad asked if I was going to the gym today, and I said no, he asked why not. I said I was tired and I didn't really feel like it and of course, he criticized me about not going there for even 10 minutes and how when HE used to go to the gym he would be in there for hours and everyone would look at him because he was just so athletic and blah blah. However, he's still a bit overweight, and its kind of hard for me to picture him any way else. So to add insult to injury, he starts talking about this girl on my cheerleading team and he says something like "Now THAT girl is in shape! She's so tiny!". Now you see why I have like no self-esteem. It seems like no matter how hard I try I'll never be able to please these people, and it really makes me want to give up. Its how I feel right now, I'm just tired and ready to give up. I mean I don't think my dad is trying to hurt me, but i don't think he realizes what kind of impact it has on me. Does anyone else have this problem were someone, or multiple, people in your life are so criticizing and unsupportive of you? 

Wow. He's probably just trying to motivate you, but just going about it in all the wrong ways. My parents were a lot like that in high school and my self esteem was zero. Have you told him how his criticism bothers you?

Yeah, you should explain to him that his criticism is only hindering your weight loss.  I'm the same way, I would rather do things for myself without being told to.  It feels much better to take the responsibility yourself to lose weight rather than have someone tell you how you need to get in shape, etc.  But also remember that your ultimate goal is for yourself, and you're only hurting yourself by overeating/not exercising.  It doesn't accomplish anything to 'rebel' against your dad trying to make you exercise.  But then again, you should definitely let him know that he is only making this harder for you and if he really wants to be supportive, he should stop criticizing you.

You can do it!

hey yeah i have this prob as well with my dad he gets a bit like that especially when  not on a diet or anything he would go on about my weight and that didnt help makes u wanna go eat something you shouldnt.

YES! I totally understand. My dad would be like, hey! are you going for a run? and ill say, no, I want to rest today because i do stuff 6 days a week...but yeah he's comparing you to a girl on the cheerleading squad? I have a twin sister who is the thinest girl ever, and I have and "athletic body" although we pretty much weigh the same, we still have different clothing sizes and my parents always hint at me ending up like one of my huge relatives...but not her, she'll eat like two breakfasts and my parents will be like good for you, but if i even have a bowl of cereal for a snack before a 5 mile run, my dad will be like? is that your dinner? Yeah I don't think my dad realizes what he does, but it kind of hurts sometimes.

yes.  my dad is just obnoxious and somewhat socially awkward.  the other day in the mall he said i didn't realize how tiny i was.  (um i'm not ''fat'' but i'm not ''tiny''. dunno what he's talking aboot)

but then he will go on and on about how when he did XC he ran more than a dozen miles every day blah blah blah how he was in the top tier. then act somewhat condescending when im tired from a four mile workout.  I was like WTF.  i didn't even KNOW he used to run til like half way into my XC season last year.  (Which makes me kinda proud.  its not like i got into it from my parents i got into it all by myself =] )

I can't think of any jerky statements off the top of my head but he is pretty arrogant and obnoxious.  Like wtf.  Why did I not inherit this self esteem of his?  He is so arrogant and thinks so highly of himself.  Why am I the freaking opposite.

in summary, i still have a LOT of trouble eating in front of my parents, especially him, and always eat breakfast & dinner alone.

Wow, your dad's comment was totally out of line. Did you point that out to him in a respectful way? I'm sorry that this happened to you. You just have to learn to ignore comments like this, as hard as that is, and depend on your inner self for motivation and strength.