UGHHH

Theres noo food in the house, and to spite me, because I yelled at her, my mother won't do grocery shopping.  That b*itch..I fuching hate her. 

Now I'm starving.

I can think of two options:
1) If you have any of your own money you could go and buy your own food.
2) You could apologise to your mother for shouting at her, and offer to do some chores round the house to make up.

Wows

The thing is my job this summer has been babysitting my sister, cleaning the house and cooking -- I'm only 16!!! My moms been working her part time and when she comes home, shes too tired, buts shes only a freaking secretary and my dads depressed.

I did apologise -- yet she is too munipulative and turns everything around.  So now I'm just hungry, but I guess I'm going to sleep to sleep off the hunger pangs.  Life sucks and so does my mother.

maybe think twice before yelling at your mama next time. its not like you dont know her buttons. way to go! haha

i had my first job when i was 13. maybe you should try to get one outside of the house? something besides stuff to help out your parentals...one where you get paid in cold hard cash.

why cant you go buy your self something to eat?

Like I said -- I've been having to stay stuck home babysitting my sister.  I have to cause no one else is gonna do it and she's only 9.  My dad's depressed and just takes his pills and sleeps all day, and I'm only 16 under a lot of pressure feeling like the mother around here, and all I did was yell...I only wish someone could understand.

And Again I can't buy anything to eat cause no money!  Babysitting but I don't get paid.  whatever :/

maybe suggest they let you free to get a real job? or you going to watch her after school too?it might make you feel better to have some real money in your pocket, you know?

my daughter and i went rounds not  so very long a go, as did i and my mama but that WAS a long time ago.

that mama-daughter road can get really rough for both parties. i think yelling is pretty typical, its just that usually when someone is yelling, they tend to say things they might wish they hadnt said later.

sucks. do you think they will let you get a job outside of the house? after school? tell them you could pitch in with some $$, how could they NOT like that?

EDIT: the worst i remember is her picking up one of my dumbbells and chunking it in the middle of the room...haha wasnt funny at the time but it is now.

she just now yelled at me because the tire guy pointed out that one of the gangsta rims she bought used off of craigslist was bent. i got yelled at over the phone because i was buying her new tires. closest. um...oookay w/e girl. just chillax and say thanks i love my new tires mom you totally rock. heh.

Maybe you and your sister could offer to go grocery shopping.  Gets you out of the house, gets you some food, and gets you off your mother's back.  Win-win.

Your situation sucks and I wish you the strength to cope with it. I cannot pretend to understand what you are going through, but I raised a younger brother and sister and from the ages of ten through eighteen handled all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, etc. in my house. My dad drank and gambled. There were days without food. There were days of anger and explosions. If you feel like I felt then it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders but you have no power to actually do or fix anything, no power to make decisions like when to buy food or what to buy. None of it is fair. It IS a lot of pressure. But it must be coped with. If you truly have no food in the house find a way to talk to your mother about that. It sounds like your mother is trying to cope with a lot too. If there is food but not the kind you're used to or that's easy, search the 'net for recipes. You'd be amazed what you can learn to make with virtually nothing if you put some imagination into it. As for an outside job, that might make things better for you or might simply add more stress to your life, particularily if you are going back to school soon. Only you know which. Best of luck.

Original Post by jmm2008:

Your situation sucks and I wish you the strength to cope with it. I cannot pretend to understand what you are going through, but I raised a younger brother and sister and from the ages of ten through eighteen handled all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, etc. in my house. My dad drank and gambled. There were days without food. There were days of anger and explosions. If you feel like I felt then it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders but you have no power to actually do or fix anything, no power to make decisions like when to buy food or what to buy. None of it is fair. It IS a lot of pressure. But it must be coped with. If you truly have no food in the house find a way to talk to your mother about that. It sounds like your mother is trying to cope with a lot too. If there is food but not the kind you're used to or that's easy, search the 'net for recipes. You'd be amazed what you can learn to make with virtually nothing if you put some imagination into it. As for an outside job, that might make things better for you or might simply add more stress to your life, particularily if you are going back to school soon. Only you know which. Best of luck.

Well I feel like a jerk.  Sorry for my snippy comment.  I guess when I read about rotten moms I always think about my privileged kids and their friends.  They think their moms are b@tches too, though I don't believe they have any real reason to. 

LOL..to your edit.

Thank God my mom doesn't have dumbbells.... =o :P

but yeah, my dad went out and got me some bananas :D

Thanks for understanding.  It's sad to hear that you rode the same boat.  I only watch my little sister at 16, but you started really young :(  But I guess what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger :) 

I did get to eat, my dad bought some banana's at the store, and maybe my mom will go shopping later when she relaxes.

Thanks though.

It's ok :)

My moms not a rotten mom, although at times I may feel that way.  It's just that the kids are hurting just as much as the parents are in these tough economic times.  There should be sympathy and understanding from both parties, not just on one part.

Original Post by ladydelish4eva:

LOL..to your edit.

Thank God my mom doesn't have dumbbells.... =o :P

but yeah, my dad went out and got me some bananas :D

yay for dad! poor guy's caught in the middle between two of the three women he loves most.

harmony though fruit...gotta love it!

what are you people freaking serious? how about what your mother is doing is a freaking Crime, if she is upset thats her own problem, she needs to find another way to punish you, but by no means do she have the right to refuse you food, that sucks and if she really is doing that, then yes she sucks as a parent, period. THATS WHY SOME PEOPLE SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS, CALL CPS ON HER ASS.

Original Post by geturdone:

what are you people freaking serious? how about what your mother is doing is a freaking Crime, if she is upset thats her own problem, she needs to find another way to punish you, but by no means do she have the right to refuse you food, that sucks and if she really is doing that, then yes she sucks as a parent, period. THATS WHY SOME PEOPLE SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS, CALL CPS ON HER ASS.

 ummmmm yeah. seriously?

Original Post by watergirl:

Original Post by geturdone:

what are you people freaking serious? how about what your mother is doing is a freaking Crime, if she is upset thats her own problem, she needs to find another way to punish you, but by no means do she have the right to refuse you food, that sucks and if she really is doing that, then yes she sucks as a parent, period. THATS WHY SOME PEOPLE SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS, CALL CPS ON HER ASS.

 ummmmm yeah. seriously?

 so you think its perfectly ok  to not have food for you kids to eat, and intentionally not buy any?

i think sometimes the pantry can be too bare for too long sure. if there is no food, everyone is going hungry...  until mom goes to the store. so goes life.

you are reading waaaay more into it than i am. her mama may be manipulative yes, but a child abuser? over-reaction much?

I agree with watergirl, even though your mother refuses to go grocery shopping you have to recognize her as a falable human being. We all make mistakes and it's unfortunate that sometimes the child in the family receives some backlash. There are many people out there now, espesially in this economy that share the pain of a cracked household whether it's brought on by financial integrity, or sheer incompatibility.

I'm also 16 years old and in a similiar situation but I happen to have the worst luck, ergo my broken heel bone which has stuck me indoors for the entire summer. My dad is pretty much like yours, stuck in an indefinite mid-life crisis. He comes home from work and sleeps. But he does work hard, a 8-5 job which he despises but continues every day to support our family. My mom was also diagnosed with cancer last summer which devasted our family. The chemo left her tired and weak, and her newfound diet still proves itself extremely limited. (she is allowed to eat only about 15 different foods). She still works a 9-6 job despite all of those things.

 So here we are stuck at home, cleaning,cooking, counting our intake, and watching everything go by.

We have to remember that sometimes we have to take care of what our parents built. My mother simply does not have the strenght to the grocery store sometimes, and it took her 4 months to take me shopping because of my 40 pound weight loss. So whenever I'm upset because this is happening to me, because I'm angry at life, angry at everything, I think to myself: this shouldn't happen to anyone, but I'll take it, and try to make things better.

Good luck =]

Original Post by watergirl:

i think sometimes the pantry can be too bare for too long sure. if there is no food, everyone is going hungry...  until mom goes to the store. so goes life.

you are reading waaaay more into it than i am. her mama may be manipulative yes, but a child abuser? over-reaction much?

 Idk I guess I just feel some kinda way about people who mistreat children, 16 is old enough to help out, true, but if her mama has her babysitting like she is the one who had a baby then how is she gonna get a job like she said. My initial reaction may have been a little harsh, but ass a mother, leaving your teenager hungry is just not the way to spite them.

yeah i agree she is kinda stuck with the sister. :/ she didnt say how long her mom waited to spite her, i didnt assume the worst...like mom buys food for herself only and locks it up. that would be weird huh?