uncomfortable with your lifestyle?

sorry about all the posts today, i was away from thursday to tonight with NO internet, and the questions kept building up inside me haha..

i eat healthy, and i like it. i know tons about health, and on cc i have no problems talking about it or helping people out. but if my friends or family, or anybody in person brings up calories, weight, food, eating, health or nutrition.. i get REALLY uncomfortable. like, so uncomfortable that i either change the subject or leave the room.

does anybody else feel this way or do this?

I feel the exact same way and after noticing how much weight ive gained i realised how much the topic of weight food calories etc come up

Not me, if you get me going I won't shut up about it...you have to be careful asking me about healthy eating and weight management unless you really want to hear it all!

It depends on the person I'm talking to.

People who are willing to listen and learn new things about food and nutrition I enjoy talking and sharing with. Other people, though, just stick to their beliefs and false crap like glue. "What you you mean the grapefruit diet doesn't work? Why are you eating potatoes/peas/corn/fruit--your body converts them directly into sugar which turns to fat! I'm not eating lunch today, I'm such a good dieter :D"

It's like talking to a wall.

personally, when someone starts talking about calories/nutrition i get a really strong urge to join in and flaunt my knowledge, because i tend to know more about that stuff than most people. :S

 

i don't usually though cause it's not my conversation.

 

if it is, i could go on and on.

yeah i'm the same way too. i guess i am sensitive about that subject because i know too much and don't really have a healthy relationship with food

Hi Erica, I think this may be some left over stuff from the ED issues you've had that you mention in your profile.  Maybe there is some trigger you are trying to avoid which means YEAH for you!  Try to figure out exactly what is uncomfortable (some specific topic? how people talk about food? how people talk to YOU about food etc?) and also what does uncomfortable mean?  like do you get upset/sad or do you get angry/frustrated or some combination? This may help you figure out the reason for the feelings.   

Also, it is very normal to find it difficult to discuss certain things with family. I avoid the normal topics such as politics and religion like the plague with my family.  And if it does come up, I do leave the room.  There is nothing wrong with that.  You can meet me in the other room and we can go for walk!  See you there! 

Original Post by bintzp:

Hi Erica, I think this may be some left over stuff from the ED issues you've had that you mention in your profile.  Maybe there is some trigger you are trying to avoid which means YEAH for you!  Try to figure out exactly what is uncomfortable (some specific topic? how people talk about food? how people talk to YOU about food etc?) and also what does uncomfortable mean?  like do you get upset/sad or do you get angry/frustrated or some combination? This may help you figure out the reason for the feelings.   

Also, it is very normal to find it difficult to discuss certain things with family. I avoid the normal topics such as politics and religion like the plague with my family.  And if it does come up, I do leave the room.  There is nothing wrong with that.  You can meet me in the other room and we can go for walk!  See you there! 

 i tend to get angry/frustrated, but i really have no idea why. i just severely dislike talking about it, ESPECIALLY with my family.

i don't like talking about it with my family either, but i do like to talk about it with my fiance and his family.

when my family gets together they always talk about 3 things.
1. how great XXXX food is
2. how much they need to lose weight
3. how much so-and-so lost/gained weight

it's like a bad women's magazine and even the men are guilty.
most of them have yo-yoing weights and it frustrates me to say anything because they aren't willing to do healthy life style changes and they will just brush me off or tell me ""yeah yeah" rolling eyes thing.  meanwhile they'd rather talk about some fad diet!

my fiance and his family on the otherhand, bring up weight rarely (though most of them are overweight and have health issues) but when they do discuss it, they take good advice seriously because it's a medical issue.

People talking about weight-loss or diets has to be the most boring subject on earth apart from anything else.  :-) However, you're probably sensitised to the subject.  In the past maybe conversations with your family about calories, weight and nutrition were a cause for confrontation?   Rather than leaving the room or changing the subject how about facing your fears and tackling the subject head on?  You're quite well-informed and you could take the lead in the conversation (and probably win any arguments) rather than being a passive recipient of other people's opinions.

I've learned through years of bitter experience to keep my mouth shut about weight control and dieting.  When people ask me how I lost the weight, I say "portion control and following the food pyramid"  and then I shut up.  If they are discussing the subject, I just stay out of it - no comment at all. 

The reason is this - if I tell them I count calories there are immediate remarks about how that never works, how it's too much trouble, etc.  Every single time they discount my experience, and nothing I say seems to make a contribution to the conversation.  Then follows a discussion about the latest fad diets.  I just find the whole topic tiresome.  I know what I'm doing, it works, and that's all that matters to me. 

Actually what's really weird about me... is that I'll offer people all the knowledge I have. I'm kind of like smwhipple in that sense--only I feel slightly guilty about doing it cuz sometimes I do things that aren't all that healthy so I feel weird advocating a healthy lifestyle that I myself don't always follow.