Unmotivated and Down in the Dumps = weight gain ** Need Support**

  Hey,

      Well I was so proud of my self. I finally broke the 190 mark and made it to 188. Just as I was going good I injured my foot, my son started having some behavioral issues, finals are coming up, and husband has been acting strange. Needless to say this was stressful at first but then as it kept dragging on and on..I became depressed. Now I am eating over my calorie target of 1700 and eating more around 2000. I have been doing this for the last week..I find my self not thinking about my weight loss any more and just eating when I feel like it and then feeling guilty afterwards. I have been doing allot of praying and it has helped a little..I have some faith that things will go back to the way they were but I know that I have to change my attitude first. I really need some support. I miss running and I miss seeing result on the scale :(. Please help me get back on the boat I don't want to drift to far away from it.. I like being healthy.

My weight was 188

My weight now 193

Height 5'11

Age 24

Thanks in advance

I think you should be gentle with yourself and focus on maintaining right now, rather than losing.  It seems to me that you shouldn't be gaining at 2000 calories, given your stats, even without much exercise.  Maybe you could try eating 2000 calories of good, healthy food and doing some gentle exercise to help with your depression (swimming?  bicycling?  walking? yoga? whatever your injury will allow and that you will enjoy).  When you are feeling better you can add in a calorie deficit and start losing again.  Good luck!

I agree!  Be kind to yourself!  And do find some other form of exercise you can substitute for now.  That alone will make you feel better and less of a victim.  And remember, eating more does not make you feel better or resolve any of your problems, it just adds to them.

Hang in there!

Instead of eating, go for a walk.  Or do some sit-ups/push-ups instead.  When I'm in a bad mood, I go to the gym and exercise till I go home and fall into bed.  I know you have more responsibilities but some variation of this, where you're too busy to eat, will help.  Exercise also imrpoves mood.  But whatever you can do, atleast you're doing something.  Feel good about that!

Hi there!  I hear ya!  Big time!  Wow... such similar situation, even numerically.  I just had gotten down to 187, and then there were lots of social events, and I started to slack a little bit.  In a week, I put on 6 lbs, probably much of it water weight, because I didn't eat more than I burned at all, and I was sooo frustrated and bewildered as to where the weight came from.  So, I started pushing myself the next week working out, got back down to 190, then last weekend I pulled my calf muscle.  Oh man, was I ever horrified!  I freaked out and ate 4 slices of pizza and 3 chicken wings.  Yeah.  My biggest binge since I started losing weight.  All of last week, not being able to work out, I couldn't make myself reduce my consumption.  I just consumed at my regular level (2000Kcal/day) even though I had to be completely sedentary because of my leg.  I started feeling guilty about food, and losing control.  By about day 4 of this, I said: SELF! Enough is enough.  This week, you are not weighing in, and you are not trying to lose weight, instead, you are having a 'practice maintenance week'.  You will weigh in again once you are able to exercise again.  I found this really helped me relax.  Just giving myself permission to take the time to heal, and remind myself that I will have the rest of my life to be the size I am aiming for.  Give yourself a break, then when you're ready and life becomes normal again, get back on the horse. HUG... I totally feel your pain!

Oh honey, I'm so sorry, and fall backs are a part of dieting. I know what it's like to have children, marriage, and trying to smile through tough times. I am just beginning my change in life, and know how difficult it is.

A problem us mothers, wives, and women in general have is that we never think ourselves, and it took me 2 years to own up to that. It's hard to find time for yourself when you're balancing so much in your life. I know it's hard, and if you would like to talk about it, you can message me. I am a young wife, and have two kids. ( a 2 year old, and 1 year old) I know it feels impossible, but you have to remember to find time for yourself.

Make exercise "you" time. If you feel that you're going to eat more than the usual, eat in small increments. Buy 100 calorie packs. Trust me, I have a sweet tooth, and pretty much rely on these little quaker mini delights. Divide up your meals.

I just don't want to see you slip. I am where you're at, and KNOW THAT IT ISN'T EASY! Don't give up! Believe in yourself before you try tackling other things.

Once you feel you're back on track, pull your husband aside for pillow talk, and let him know that you're concerned. I can almost guarantee that it's stress. My husband always gets weird when bills get tight, and b/c he's the provider, he tries to hide the stress from me. It's good that you try to talk to him once you're more level headed, and have caught yourself from slipping, so that you feel more mentally stable to deal with him.

As for your baby, or older child, they are always changing. Have you tried time out? My 2 year old is learning time out early, and she also gets bed time if she continues misbehaving. Also her 30 minute TV time gets cut by 5 minutes if she throws a temper tantrum after time out per tantrum. You just have to discipline them, and get them used to a certain way, so that they know whose boss. I'm very strict on no spankings. I was abused physically as a child, and try my best at all times to avoid spankings.

I hope anything I've said helped. In all of what's going on, just remember that YOU are the most important person right now. You have to be mentally and physically stable before you can provide what's best for your marriage, and your child, and your education.

You can always message me if you would like to talk.

Awww. Thank you all for your support and help. It realy helps to have some one that has been there and can give a little emphathy and advice.

You're welcome! And I' haven't been there! I AM there! Lol! Just another woman in the same boat!