Unwanted "Reminders"!!!!!

Ok, so I am of a healthy weight for my age (115 and 5 feet 4 inches, and I have started puberty), but my friend is TINY (and she hasn't started puberty, hopefully the women out there understand what I mean), and she is really small in her legs, bottom, stomach, and well everywhere! We got together yesterday and my shirt was showing a half inch of my stomach and she tugged at my stomach and said I had a "Muffin Top". And on top of that she is always talking about hr "Fat Legs" to me, thenI'll say somethin nice like "Your legs are not fat! You are sooo small!" and then she'll look at my legs be like "Ya, they could be much worste."

SHe is driving me crazy!!!!!!! What should I do? 

Be kind to her about it, she'll understand once it happens to her.  Sounds like she is really insecure about her own body, I hope she doesn't develop a disorder.

You don't have a muffin top! lol You probably have outgrown your clothing a little bit.  Don't be ashamed of having a woman's body, most guys I know appreciate the curves.  You are in no way fat or overweight.  Just be patient, once she sees it is normal, she will stop making you feel bad for growing before her.

tell her how u feel or lose her...friends are supposed to be supportive

Thanks, loll when I told my mom this she laughed and said I should tell her the next time she complains about her weight I should say something like "Wow, ya, you are that big!" I thought that was mean though.

I'm with fma -- friends don't insult each other. 

tell her you are offended by her comments.  if she persists, remind her once.  the next time, tell her you are no longer friends.  if she learns the lesson that friendship is something special, and you should treat your friends with respect -- then you will have done her an immense favor.  If she doesn't learn the lesson, all the more reason to say bye bye to the relationship, which I won't dignify by calling it a friendship.

I have been in your position where a friend kept saying things that offended me, so I know it's not realistic to expect you to break the friendship (since I'm sure she's a nice girl when she's not doing it).

This is what worked for me: I told her to stop saying things like that or the next time, I would turn around and walk away. She didn't believe me. The next time she said it, I walked away. We've stayed friends, and guess what? She's never said it to me again.

I'll add this, though - this friend has done more to hurt me than just persist in what she was saying, so I say if you feel you're suffering in this friendship, walk away before it becomes harder. I stayed friends with mine, but we drifted apart, and I'm not sorry.

-Julie :)

so she's a nice girl, except when she's being mean? that makes no sense. what does make sense is that she may just be insensitive and not understand that her comments genuinely bother you. have a sincere discussion with her, explain how you feel, and that should clear it up. if it doesn't stop her comments (and any other similar behaviors), then it doesn't seem there's much to the friendship that's worth trying to preserve.

THat girl seems like she is not being a true friend. Not only should you tell her how you feel, but tell her that she is not your friend until she is nice to you!

Don't worry about her too much.  She's probably just trying to get positive comments by saying things.  If she says, "Hey, look i"m fat" and you say how skinny she is, you're feeding the fire.  Ignore her when she does this, or take your mom's advice and turn it around on her.  She'll stop pretty quickly.

And if you really are legit worried about "muffin top" when you're shopping for new pants, try and find some that come up about an inch higher than the regular ones, they tend to hide entra weight around the middle better than the really low ones.  PLus, who wants to see your butt every time you bend down anyways?  They're harder to find, but definately worth it.

get a new friend

actually, get many new friends

Teenage girls always do this to each other and it's terrible! Everyone's body is different and it takes some girls longer to mature than others. Trust me, this is only going to come back to bite her in the long run. You understand now what it feels like to look a little different and to not appreciate it when someone points out an imperfection. I've found that many girls who mature late have major problems accepting their body at an age when they should be celebrating looking womanly. Congratulations on understanding that your body doesn't have to look like a little girl's body to look good. Trust me, you will come to appreciate it even if you don't have stick thin legs now like your friend.

Uh, Whats a Muffin Top? Serriously, am I that out of the times?

I deveoped pretty quick myself. Take it as a compliment. I sure did. Loved my Bum and boobs.

Or, do what I did with my slowly-developed friends, and call them a toothpick.
They got the hint quick.

No wait, that was that boy... Oh never mind.

I say go shopping with her for clothes. That should be interesting.

wow!!! we're like identical!! haha

i'm 5'4" also and weigh 115 pounds tho i'm trying to get to 105

yea i have a friend who is tiny too...and she thinks she's fat..sometimes it makes me feel bad but just ignore it...it's because they haven't started puberty yet and once they have it you get to make fun of them back

I don't think I ever had any friends like that around the time I hit puberty.  If I had, they wouldn't have been my friend for very long :p  Friends are supposed to respect each other's feelings.  And obviously she has no empathy or respect for how you feel if she is making fun of how you look compared to her. 

I know you guys are still young and she may not even realize what she is doing, but like everyone else has said, just tell her that you don't like how she makes you feel when she does that.  If she feels guilty about it and apologizes, she's a good friend, if she continues to do it, ditch her and get new, more supportive friends.  She'll eventually blossom too, and if she is still in that mindset then, she's in a world of trouble.  Hopefully when everyone else around her has nice curves, she'll realize that it is an attractive feature and will want to fit in.