Unwelcome Comments

My fiance came home from work and told me that a co-worker we bumped into in the street yesterday has commented to everyone in his workplace that I am fat.

I am 5'3.5 and 139lbs.

I just lost 10lbs recently.

I'm trying not to let it upset me, easier said than done.

The guy in question has hideous buck teeth, so I told my fiance to tell him that he could eat an apple through a letterbox.

It made me feel better ;D

Meh.  Bucky's an ass.

If you were my girl I would have you get dressed up and sexy and come to my workplace and really flaunt what "bucky" obviously doesn't have...a hot, sexy, woman to love and adore..that'll show'em!;)

That guy sounds horrible.

You're gorgeous :]  Don't listen to the buttwipe.

Being in Asia is not easy .... especially when you are not asian size.

Nothing fits you, you cant find anything normal anyway (here they only have angkor wat t shirts or stuff with mickey mouse....) jeans ya well forget it... Cambodians are fun to be around, but they kind of have a mind like a kid, they just blurt stuff out.

I got yesterday at  work, "sintia you look fat" and that was one too much, i turned around and told her, well im working on that my dear but i dont go around and tell you to your face that you are ugly or stupid do i, please keep this mean comment to yourself.

Or i get are you pregnant? Or they just come and squeeze my stomack sides, or they just squeeze the skin under your arms... i mean back off, im not touching you so dont come and squeeze me!!! leave me alone!!!

I have told many times, look im not cambodian, im european, i have had a lot of eating problems since i was a kid, if i eat the same thing and quantity as you i gain weight ok! For a european im in the normal weight zone... of course for a cambodian im bigger but i have always been nice and respectful to you so please do the same...... So anoying........... and you think they would learn nooooooooooooooooooooo 3 days later same thing...

Original Post by sintia:

Being in Asia is not easy .... especially when you are not asian size.

Nothing fits you, you cant find anything normal anyway (here they only have angkor wat t shirts or stuff with mickey mouse....) jeans ya well forget it... Cambodians are fun to be around, but they kind of have a mind like a kid, they just blurt stuff out.

I got yesterday at work, "sintia you look fat" and that was one too much, i turned around and told her, well im working on that my dear but i dont go around and tell you to your face that you are ugly or stupid do i, please keep this mean comment to yourself.

Or i get are you pregnant? Or they just come and squeeze my stomack sides, or they just squeeze the skin under your arms... i mean back off, im not touching you so dont come and squeeze me!!! leave me alone!!!

I have told many times, look im not cambodian, im european, i have had a lot of eating problems since i was a kid, if i eat the same thing and quantity as you i gain weight ok! For a european im in the normal weight zone... of course for a cambodian im bigger but i have always been nice and respectful to you so please do the same...... So anoying........... and you think they would learn nooooooooooooooooooooo 3 days later same thing...

At least you're not Asian and not the typical Asian size.  It's not just Cambodians who are that blunt about it either; I think it's throughout Asia.

I know its not only cambodians, the thais working with me are the same.... I mean please just leave me alone, mind your own business and let me do my thing slowly but surely...

I could loose 13 kg in one month, have done it bfore  (did a deal with my dad when i was 15 i had to do 300 Kcal a day on the bicycle and he would stop smoking... ya right he would come home and the first thing he would do is check my bicycle ad reset it) the wait just came off, but lost my hair (got thin) but didnt gain it all back... once i got to universty  (4 years later) got it all back, now im shedding it off one at a time...

I know not to get offended by these remarks, i know how it goes in Asia but its just after telling then time after time that at one point i crack ...

I think he must have meant "phat".  Otherwise, what a jerk!  What business did your fiance have relaying that anyway?

"apple through a letterbox", must remember to use that...about Mr Bucktooth-remember what Ron White says: You can't fix stupid!

Dear Darling "Hot" chick. You enjoy your youth and feel any curves you have! LOL Leave the ex bucked tooth friend of a friend in the wind. What I want to know if you are someonelses girl, what should he care about? Your guy hopefully told him where he could stick his puny pride...LOL. Wait a minute, it probably isn't big enough yet...LOL You are doing fine, so unlike the "boy" you can move on down the road. He is stuck with ugly...not only in looks, but in personality and finesse too! He in other words is a loser, don't waste your thought on him...Hot chick...:D

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You are not fat.... I do have a come back though...

Fair enough, but I can lose the fat.... How you going to get a personality transplant?

OK, I've heard it this way.  I'm fat and you're ugly. But I can go on a diet.

Wow, this seems like a pitiful attempt at fishing for a compliment.  Kudos to you though for duping 32 people into padding your ego.  Its sad to think that there are people out there that have had serious weight and self esteem problems, and after they've persevered through losing 75-100lbs, **** like the person you described are calling them fat.  These are the people that deserve praise, compliments, and encouragement, not someone who's goal is to drop 10 lbs so her legs don't touch in a bikini when her feet are together.

Even if you were fat? so what? Does he have a problem with fat people? Well they wouldn't like his buckteeth anyway. So who cares what he says. I am fat and if he said something about me i would say so what??? At least i got straight teeth and ur about to lose ur buckteeth.

Original Post by monoxi:

My fiance came home from work and told me that a co-worker we bumped into in the street yesterday has commented to everyone in his workplace that I am fat.

I am 5'3.5 and 139lbs.

I just lost 10lbs recently.

I'm trying not to let it upset me, easier said than done.

The guy in question has hideous buck teeth, so I told my fiance to tell him that he could eat an apple through a letterbox.

It made me feel better ;D

If your coworker thinks that you are fat then he needs an eye exam  .....lol.....you look great.

I think it's kinda funny that immediately after describing the comment you give your stats. It doesn't matter who you are or what those numbers are, that kind of comment is unwarranted. Maybe the angle you mean to look at it shouldn't be whether or not you are fat, but wether or not that comment was just stupid and hurtful. Yes it was, but what do you expect in a work environment? Don't even waste your time on that crap.

That kind of comment is unwarrented, no matter what size someone is, I agree.

I have been around 190lbs before so i know i have come a long way, thats why i posted my stats.

I'm sure lots of you agree that even though you can lose weight, the hurt felt from name calling still stings, whether you are at the lowest weight or highest weight.

'jarredwayne'.....I have had serious weight and self esteem problems and the serious health implications that go with them. i have persevered and lost (and gained) 50lbs over the course of many years, through binging, purging and crash diets. As I said before...the weight may go but the emotional issues take much longer.

I am at a point now where I am starting to see lasting results through proper healthy eating and exercise and the comment made by that guy thumped me back to the way i felt when i was 14 and miserable.

I posted about the experience hoping it would be cathartic and share in my hurt (and laughter!) with people who have experienced the same. People who have been ridiculed for not fitting into the 'slim club', and theres you ridiculing me for not fitting into your ideal of a 'worthy' dieter.

this is a healthy lifestyle forum, not a fascist regime...so dont oppress me, please.

;)

Tell it sistah!

As a teen I was not overweight, but felt it, and had serious weight issues becasue of rude comments like Bucky's. How great it would have been to have a forum to go to where I could get lifted back up after feeling like I'd had the rug pulled out from beneath me...maybe I would have felt better about myself and NOT ended up with even more serious body issues, ED, drinking problem, etc. Or maybe I would have who knows but just having support would have been great. Maybe jarred thought, by the title of your post, that you were looking for axamples of unwelcome comments lol

My initial thought when I read the post though, was WHY would your fiance relate such a thing to you. Honestly...the boy needs some tact.

PS Love your hair...I miss my Bettie Page 'do!

yes, he does need some tact!

he told me as an example of what an idiot this guy is, unfortunately he didnt think it through (typical)!!

the look on his face when he realised was priceless, we have had a good laugh about it. silly boy!

you gotta get the bettie bangs back, victoriagirl!