Do you use revenge as motivation? Share!

Now, before you get scared, revenge is certainly not my only motivation.

But over the past few weeks I've gained back all the weight I previously lost on a macrobiotic diet and am thicker than ever!

Most of this was due to emotional overeating, which was triggered by a whole lot of drama that I never took part in and suddenly was in the middle of. I don't know how to cope with my anxiety, and having to deal with in-laws, subpoenas, and then finding out one of my closest friends had been revealing all my secrets to strangers and talking nonsense about my life just pushed me over the edge.

Well, I'm trying to turn this anxiety and frustration into something positive--for ME. I'm mad as hell at this "friend" but don't want to say anything because we work together and it will just start more drama for everyone. So while she's smiling in my face having no clue that I'm onto her b.s., I want to make her even more jealous...b/c I assume that's why she made up a bunch of lies in the first place? There really was nothing else from my end that could have made the psycho so spiteful.

I do take comfort in the fact that the people she was telling this b.s. to realized that there was no way it was all true once they got to know me...but the wound from the knife in my back is still bleeding, and I want revenge without having to start a blowout ordeal at work and get others in trouble for telling me what she's up to.

SO, I will say that both of us are attractive young ladies. However, she is FAR more insecure and obsessed with her looks than I am, and she is one of those people that has to be the prettiest in the room, or center of attention at all times--especially with men.

I'm happily married but still in my 20's, and get plenty of (often undesired) attention myself, and it obviously bothers her.

My plan is to start putting more effort into my looks for work (I don't usually go for the "hey, check me out" unless I'm doing it for my husband), and also use all this pent up energy to kick ass on my workouts.

My husband bought me a treadmill since I haaate getting up and dressing and driving to the gym in the morning. I will run every single morning and also do weight training, pilates, or yoga 4x week.

I'm also tracking my calories again, not eating out anymore, cutting back on alcohol consumption (i had one bad week of overindulgence!)...basically cooking at home and not going to bars.

I just want to get so physically fit and rub it in her jealous, scandalous face b/c she never works out and it is starting to show.

So what's your revenge motivator?

That would require too much mental and physical energy for me. 

 

I wouldn't call it revenge, more like showing my stregnth....ok here is my story...

Growing up my father was very abusive in almost every way...okay everyway....he never touched me sexually that I can remember, but he did make sexual remarks....for 13 years I was subjected to that abuse...Imagine the very worst things a father could say to his daughter...about everything from her personality to her looks and body to her existance in general...I heard it all, every day, several times a day. Eventually that wore me down. I had been called fat so many times, even when I wasn't overweight. In middle school, I really started to believe the **** that he said to me and I becamse what he called me. I got to the point where I was overweight and I pulled away from everyone and pushed everyone away. When I turned 13 my mom filed for divorce and it was the greatest birthday present ever. It has been 6 years now since the divorce was final but I still struggle every day with the things he said. By the time he moved out, I had no self confidence...I have just now gotten to the point where I have confidence...I am just now starting to love myself, and my body...I have become a people person....I told a friend that I just recently met that if I had met him while I was still in high school I wouldn't have looked him in the eyes and if I had by accident made eye contact with him I would have looked away. He just laughed at me and said I was beating the **** out of him in eye contact....he then told me that I had mesmorizing eyes...then he kissed me! EEEE!!!

But I consider my weight loss a show of stregnth rather than revenge, because I want nothing to do with my father, and don't give a flying rats as$ what he thinks of me....but it just shows how strong I really am, that not only can I overcome his abuse, but I can be a better person because of it. Btw...I have lost 50 lbs, have 25 lbs to go, and I am feeling better than I have ever felt before...I have more confidence that I ever knew I could have, and I am meeting people I never thought I would meet....I am finally living my life the wqay I want to! 

I also wouldn't say revenge is my motivator but I do know that back in November when my engagement fell apart 4 weeks before the wedding that I began a journey for change inside and out. I've been working hard and have lost 95 lbs from my heaviest weight of 291 in May of 2007, most of this weight I gained back while being with my ex (in college I was down to 165). I look better now than when we first met. When I see him I have the satisfaction of knowing I'm working towards a better life for myself, that he was unable to break me and that I look darn good, while he has remained the same contining to perpepuate the patterns that are so dysfunctional in his life. I chose to change my life for the better and wether he has a chance to witness it or not makes no difference to me. The best feeling is knowing I deserve better than him, always did!

for a while weight loss was an outlet for my anger.

let's just say my boyfriend was doing some questionable things that made me believe that he was possibly into a girl that he had hooked up with in the past. (spending the night at her house after he'd been drinking, suddenly starting to e-mail each other, running into her downtown, exc...)

this girl is pretty and fairly thin but has a terrible personality. she is one of those girls that constantly needs attention from guys and is very promiscuous. also one of my first encounters with her was her pushing me for absolutely no reason. which pissed me off a lot because she didn't even know me at the time and i didn't know her and we had certainly never exchanged a word before. but i just walked away from that situation trying not to start something from it.

anyway so this girl tells my boyfriend that she's interested in him and he tells her tat we are dating and still after this she sends him e-mails saying that 'do i disgust you a little or a lot? you didn't talk to me last night but you sure were staring at me all night long' (talking about a party we were all at).

so i definitely used this situation as fuel for losing some weight and getting in good shape to rub in her face that not only am i more intelligent, more dynamic, nicer, and cooler than her. i also am thinner and prettier than her too. of course the fact that my boyfriend turned her down because of me didn't hurt either.

usually i am not like this at all and i don't want any girl to feel jealous of me (because i know what that feels like and i try to avoid making anyone feel that way.) and would MUCH rather be friends than enemies. but this one girl is an exception. i really dislike her more than anyone i've ever disliked.

I have to admit that revenge is one of my motivations for getting back on the wagon!

I got divorced from a very abusive ex almost 8 years ago.  He cheated on me, abused me and generally made my life hell and destroyed my self confidence.  Since we have children together, I still have to see him several times a year.  He has consistently over the years indicated on more than one occasion that he wants us to get back together.  He is remarried and the new wife is an absolute train-wreck!

I'm remarried and VERY happy (we've been together 6 years now) but the weight has been creeping up.  I lost some and then kind of gave up.  I just recently started actively working on it again and I'm down a total of 22 pounds.

I saw the ex a few weeks ago when he came to pick the kids up for a visit.  Mr. Super-fit has MANBOOBS!!!!!!  That was all it took to ramp it up to the next level!  I have promised myself that by his next visit with the kids in the fall I will have reached my goal weight.  Then I can stand there with my head held high and my arms around my wonderful hubby and think evil thoughts!!!

It really doesn't matter what the motivation is, as long as there is motivation.  Do what YOU need to do to get your butt into gear!  I guarantee that after a few weeks, your motivation will change from "revenge" to something else since motivation is an ever-changing notion  that is dependant on what is most important to you at that time.

I like everybody's stories.  I have one myself.

Last year I was dating this guy and he was... okay.  He tended to say a few things under his breath but nothing that really bugged me.  But one night I called him in the middle of an "episode" (I have PMDD).  I asked him a bunch of things, like if he could come "rescue" me and take me somewhere the next day, and if I was ugly or fat to him.  And he was like (with bad Turkish grammar), "My brother ask me why I dating such a fat hog when I can get any sexy girl I like, and I realize you are fat."  And he said something about Christina too, my friend at the time.

OMG - First off, it's not something that would rub me the right way in the first place.  But I was in the middle of a depressive episode, wanting to hurt myself, asking him to distract me from everything going in my life, and he says both he and HIS BROTHER think I am fat!

Well, that was 38 pounds ago, and I have full intent on losing "at minimum" 12 more, and "at maximum" 37 more, going down to between 123 and 148 (so between 50 and 75 pounds less than when I stopped talking to him).  When I have that body, I'm going to walk into his dad's restaurant and tell him that he's missing out on THIS!

Of course, that's not my only motivation - I also would like to get down to a HEALTHY weight.

Sometimes it's hard to tell who is and who i snot "on my side". I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, and I ignore a lot of small things. I am able to get along with people who others view as having difficult personalities. I may, in fact, have a difficult personality.

It's not really the revenge itself for me that is the motivator; it is the success for my sake. I like it when I am successful, and when this happens the people who believed I cannot do something are just wrong and I maybe I do enjoy seeing the pained look on their face. Maybe next time they won't run their fool mouth.

Yeah revenge. Sort of. I have known for a while that I was on a very slow but nonetheless perpetual downward spiral of fitness and weight control. Over the past couple of years I have been busy taking over a company and have dropped all 'frivolous' extracurriculars like working out. And doing my laundry weekly. And sleeping. Running a company is really hard. But the point is that I have gained about 15 pounds in the last 2 years. Before that I was 'curvy', and it turns out that curvy + 15 = chubby. So sad.

Taking over this company involved moving across the country. I a
m just now able to take some time to do the things I want to do, like laundry, working out, and the occasional social type activities. I have never really lacked male attention when I wanted it, so I was a little curious why I wasn't attracting guys. You know, you change an ounce at a time, but someone else's first impression of you is of your current weight, not of your high school weight plus an ounce or two (hundred).

To make a long story short, I met a guy, we went out a couple of times, and it was strange to me that he only wanted to be physical with me when he had been drinking. So then at the end of one date, he tells me I'm a really, really great kisser. So I say thanks. And THEN HE SAYS:

'I always heard fat girls could do amazing things with their mouths. I guess it's true.'

OMFG. Needless to say, we haven't spoken since. I don't crave revenge against this one particular tactless clod. It's more like the knowledge that I would be losing this weight now regardless, but there have been plenty of guys who didn't even bother to talk to me and missed out on a chance with the girl I am, the girl I was 10 pounds ago, and the girl I will be 25 pounds from now, all of whom are awesome, well spoken, funny, interesting, driven, and just pretty cool. Yes, I'm totally awesome. And they missed the boat. Ha. Is that revenge? It's definitely an 'eat your heart out' thing... I vote yes.

revenge as motivation... something i always thought i should eel guilty about, but after seeing this thread i am slowly changing my mind. my story is similar to a lot of you on here, but here it goes anyway:

my boyfriend and i broke up at the end of last semester and, to say the truth, i took it very very badly. even still, i have bad dreams of him getting back together with me, and the thought of him seeing someone else makes me so sick. to top it off he moved down the street from me with my best friend as his roommate. (whyyyy!)

i am home for the summer and my goal is to get so incredibly hot (which is only 10 lbs or so away!), be super productive and successful (working on that too!), and find a new, smarter, more talented, better looking guy who is completely enamored with me. i guess it's not necessarily revenge; i am simply trying to set some fun and kind of lofty goals for myself. but honestly who doesn't want to rub it in their ex's face a little bit?

A Revenge motivation seems defiently a good motivation; it always make me think of the Movie borat where he sings " You will never get this! ".

Like some of you; i am using revenge basically to get the fire lit under me. =] Im currently at my 2nd highest [ 273lbs] and my other highest 290. I never wanna be that heavy again. Well. my story :


Theres this girl, who happens to love ruining every good thing that starts to happen for me. Why shes soo obsessed, well. Simple. Jealousy. To put it simply, she has a terrible terrible personality, bad humor, and shes jealous of anyone who comes within 20 ft of her. And she has it out for me because i refuse to deal with her bullocks any longer.

I had these 4 really really good guy friends; basically we were inseperable. Then one, met her, and developed a crush on her. Nothing big in my book. Nothing worth caring about. Then. all of a sudden he basically stopped talking to me and then we had this huge blowout and he screamed at me how bad of a friend i am. Well, basically anyone who knows me knows I never give up on people and im there until the end [talk about stress; im getting better about it though] Well, me and him stopped talking and i was still friends with the other 3. Then another one started talking to her, and all of a sudden i heard all these rumors about things that had nothing to do with me suddenly did. Wtf right? Well everything else was fine for months after that. We were civil. and Me and another kid started to become very very close, hanging out every single day. We had even talked about marrige; it was getting pretty serious. Then. one day. BAM! just stopped talking to me. I was likeeee jesus christ! what is going on!? Low and behold, my old old flame [one of the four] whom i am still good friends with told me all about it. Wonderful right. Now the first boy and i are starting to talk again, now that hes getting over that wench. But, im using boy 3 as more fuel to the fire because hes always been attracted to me [ i think, thats what he said anyways ] and once i shed a few pounds and start fitting into some of my old old pants that looked smoking, i know the boy will be back drooling and i'll have the satisfaction of denying him. [ also this chick, all she could ever say bad about me was that i was "obese". haha. well she wont be able to say that anymore!]

Also, another reason. Is i recently had a blowout with my best friend [ 10 years of being inseperable, friends sense the 2nd grade] She told me she was annoyed with me, but wouldnt give me a reason why. Then all of a sudden im getting told about how shes passing around my journal [ i have never owned a journal in my life ] and showing these things i never wrote about people i dont even associate with. And she stole other things from my home in the last weeks we were still friends. [ Childish, but i cracked her ipod, and dannnggg did it feel good ] Well all these lies that she told to everyone caused many of people to start hating me without hearing my side, not that i really liked any of them to begin with, but.. And now she refers to me as "the ugly fat friend" or Fatas s or shamoo;; [ shes about 112 lbs ].


And basically my quest is just to piss em' off even more; Cause i know i am not "ugly"[ actually i dont think anyone is, but thats me. ] Im actually quite pretty. But if i loose the 120 lbs i want too, its just gonna give me the satisfaction that i really can be truely happy with my body, and not to mention look hott doing it.

This was long, i know! =]

You should just start a rumor that she has syphilis or something. Get some pamphlets from your OB and leave them on her desk where someone else will see them. 

And make it a point every time you see her to smile and say sweetly "Are you sure you should be eating that?"  or "Are you feeling ok?  You look a little pale."  Or wait until she comes in wearing a new outfit.  "I hope you got that at the thrift store. Or at least somewhere you can take it back.  It doesn't suit you at all." 

If she's already really insecure, you can drive her right over the edge in about 3 weeks. 

REVENGEEEEEEEE! Yeah, it's a big motivator for me.

I was ALWAYS teased about my weight. The guys I would like wouldn't like me back because I was chubby, it sucked. I remember once in 8th grade, this guy that was always mean to me threw a paper at me from the back of math class. the teacher told him to pick it up, and the guy said "Who, her? I can't, she weighs too much!" It was embarrassing and humiliating, I wanted to cry. I now see him all the time on the corner of a sidewalk next to a Little Caesar's where he works, holding a $5 LARGE PIZZA WITH ANY TOPPING! sign.

Half of me is losing weight for myself, so that I don't feel like I have to fix my shirt in a fashion that makes me look thinner. So that I don't feel like my weight is the topic of discussion. The other half of me wants to rub how hot I'll look in everybody's faces. I want to be the girl who's not only nice but SUPER DUPER SEXY.