blueyedblonde1956's Journal
poor Kyle, my baby!Oct 16 2009 14:35
I didn't get much sleep last night worrying about KYle! Well Nicole now believes that Brian has a mental disorder...and is looking into gov't agencies that can shelter, job and house Brian and perhaps Kyle, they are both bad for each other and Nicole can't be expected to be a prisoner in her own home. I always knew that KYle was good with his hands, but I also know that he will be hand held throughout his entire life, Kyle can't even grasp the simpliest of things as making a resume so yes he needs to be guiding and hand held for the rest of his life and sounds like Brian is the same way, I wonder why I confused laziness with a mental disorder, dispite the fact he had a lot of jobs and lost a lot through accidents (truck driver), and his mouth he did work as Nicole points out she sees so many similarities with the 2 of them....outbursts, incapable of decision making, lack of memory(Brian only), unable to connect the dots...the list goes on. and on..so this is where it stands...I have been in close touch with her and mentioned that anyone she deals with had better also talk with me, there is alot of input and of course I know more about him then anyone..as for Brian I could care less if he gets on a spaceship to mars...Kyle is my only concern....I feel bad though that the family I thought he was going to get in Montreal was a rouse...he never sees the battling grandparents, the aunt Lori and Uncle Gary are always working or away...so it is just Brian and he is a bad influence all the way, Nicole and Rob and now not even around them, hiding in their bedroom....so my poor kid...is being bounced around like a ping pong ball...I wonder if there is a place he can live where like mentally challenged adults there is a structured shelter home with rules, guidance doctors etc....but not a nut house for lack of a better word at the moment....he does have intelligence I have seen him take things apart and put back together while I am still reading the instructions....Nicole says she sees alot of same things in both Brian and Kyle and thinks Brian has had a mental disorder his whole life and has been hiding it....so needless to say she is keeping me in the loop on any decisions that will be made...but it seems she is trying to get me to take Kyle back here, I can't do that right now, I don't have the strength to go through this right now, he is in that 3 year course there! I don't get any of this, it's heartbreaking, all I can think of is that poor kid doesn't know whether he's coming or going, it sounds like Nicole wants to pass the buck!
I just can't take him back besides he is still on Probation and he is taken that 3 year course! I gave him 17 years of my life, I am tired I just can't do it anymore!
I am so tired (mentally)...bye for now day 2 of being good on the eating!
BEB
sad in sunny Barrie!
I think I will go for a walk and clear my head!
That is a worrisome situation for Kyle. I don't know what you can do...contact Kyle's PO, maybe? He can't be with you but if Brian's brother & wife have any sense, they'll toss him (Brian) out. Why on earth would they put up with that? Kyle will need some place to be safe. What is the "3 year program" you mentioned that he's in now? Is that school or something about his probation? Nicole should at least tell Brian he's about to be tossed out & maybe he'll straighten up for a least a little while. I'll be in New Orleans for a week but I'll be praying for you. |
My heart is with you and Kyle. You sound so strong in your effort to make this all work. I will keep Kyle in my thoughts. I hope you enjoyed your walk. Sounds like a great way to clear your head and find inner peace. |
The 3 year prgram Chris is school they take computers apart and he is also learning french, math and english it is not a diploma school but he does get an education...ah it's all screwed up at the moment but at least he is doing well there! |
It might actually be really good for Kyle to see Brian act like he does and the consequences of his behavior. When it hits Kyle that his father is a loser and he is going to be one too if he doesn't straighten up, he will be able to take the first step in changing. You protecting him would only delay that day. My sympathies go to Nicole. "A good deed never goes unpunished" |
Now Nicole thinks Brian has mental disorder causing all this behaviour....it never stops! iN ANY CASE time will tell! |
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