tessa1223's Journal

I know how you feel, I feel like this alot. Hang in there, it'll get better in time. Best of luck!

im 47 and i feel 25ish - i think thats kinda normal. you will get there - one day at a time. i think one dog is best until you are out on your own and leaving everyday for work. then your pup will need a companion while you are out earning puppy food. :)

((tessa))

Helen, I am 54 and still waiting to grow up. Don't wait for people to be your friend. Go out and make some by joining groups - a reading club at the library, a quilt guild, etc.

Some things I have gathered -

You never feel quite grown-up.  If you do, then you are mistaken.

Every stranger is a potential friend.

If the lady from the kennel (I assume about your volunteer work) hasn't called back, can you drop by?  Or find something else to do.

I'm REALLY hoping this week is better for you!!

I feel your lonliness and isolation....for I am right beside you. I won't ever grow up....not in my character..Yes...I have huge responsiblities for lots of others ...but I am alone..I am always scared...I think anyone that says different is not being quite honest...It's being Human. All my heart to heart friends are on the internet...It's just a rough phase I am going through...Things will change...not at my pace...Life is hard for you...but things will change..I promise you that. You are still getting better..and when you are able to work, you will naturally meet people..You're so loveable...So strong..So Special .but allow yourself the bad days...for without them, we can't appreciate the good ones...

How brave of you to call the lady from the kennel...their loss..How brave of you to look elsewhere.

BRAVE STRONG  WOMAN....

You are not alone...although I know....it feels like that today...A good supper and a good night's sleep...just might do wonders..

You are in my heart and thoughts, my dear friend.xox

so come and visit! see how real and nutty some things can be.

i think that a lot of this is because eating disorders really make an effort to separate an individual from the real world. they want to be our only friend - our only anything. its so hard to say no to that. i was lost and wondering... and then i got pregnant and it changed my life. obviously i'm still battling, but sometimes we just need to dig our heels in to the world. find something you love and sink your teeth into it. there are great things in store for you.

Hi girlfriend, sent you a message. hugs.

Awww I know how you feel Helen! :( I'm so sorry today is such a bad day. I hope this week gets better for you! :) I really wish I could come over there and cheer you up!

Sorry you had a bad day Helen. I like jannid's idea of going out and joining clubs or groups. I didn't really get on with my siblings when I was sick but give it time, they will come back to you when you are a bit better I'm sure. Sometimes people just distance themselves because they are worried about you and don't like seeing you so unwell, it's strange logic but it happens.

Thinking of you xox

Sweetheart.  You are far from alone.  Admittedly I can't be there in person to give you the hug you need, but I want you to know you are never far from my thoughts.

You are a kind and loving person.  You deserve to be happy; it's very important that you know that.

I <3 You!!!!

just wanted to tell you that i was feeling lonely for a time, had a real lack of friends in my life. i went on craigslist and was browsing the "strictly platonic" section, and found an ad from a girl in a similar situation. she was just looking for some girlfriends. turned out there were a bunch of us, and we all got together. i've ended up becoming super close to two of them and we get together all the time!

i was a bit hesitant to try to make friends that way, but i'm so glad i did it! making new friends at our age is no easy feat, but if you put yourself out there, it's possible!

Jules, that is so interesting. But ya know, it is a blessing to meet great people, regardless of how. I value my buddies on here greatly. And I met my bf on a Christian dating site? lol. I was just bored, wanted to talk to people, and here were are, 3 weeks from our 1 year anniversary.

Have you thought about volunteer working? Many charities are looking for volunteers for their shops or to help with admin work.

Some nursing homes also run schemes for small well behaved dogs to visit the patients.

Make some enquiries aqnd get the ball rolling yourself. Lonelyness and feelings of isolation can often stem from boredom.

Good luck x