Chelle 42 yr old Pagan Witch, mom of 4, living in the MidWest
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My Awesome News!!!Feb 23 2007 21:22
OK.. I have been trying for the last 5 days to get this written and every time I start I get side-tracked, so come hell or high water I am getting this post written and posted!! So there.
On Thurday afternoon (2/15/07) I got a letter from a woman in TX saying that she was looking for her sister that was born in 1964 and given up at birth for adoption. She gave some general info (nothing specific) and said that she believed I was the sister she was looking for. Now, for those of you that aren't aware, I was given up for adoption at birth - closed adoption - and I didn't find out I was adopted til the summer before I turned 21 (my b'day is in November). Anyways, she gave her email address in it, however the name she used to sign off the letter used my biological mother's name, so I was kinda sure that she was right - that I was/am the sister she's looking for. I sent her an email about an hour later (when I got my wits about me) and asked her some questions, to confirm that it really was me she was looking for. Anyways, on Friday, I also got another couple of emails from a friend of hers who also works for an adoption agency (Susan), and she was helping her look for her sister. Her email had very detailed info that left no doubt in my mind - I am the sister she's been looking for. I called up Susan and spoke with her for about an hour. Come to find out, my sister (who is now 45 yrs old) has been looking for me since she was 12! Yep, you read that right - 12 years old. I was floored. Still am, actually. So Susan tells me she will write to my sister (who's name is Dawn - another Dawn!!) and let her know she spoke with me and give her my phone number and stuff. When neither one of us heard from her on Saturday, she left a message on her phone, and emailed me to tell me.
Well, on Sunday morning I had a voice message on my cell - from my sister! I was amazed. She wanted to talk to me. She wants to get to know me, she is really excited. She also sent me an email to tell me that she had to go to work and would try calling me again later on Sunday PM, when she got out of work. Well, around 5:30 or so, she calls back, and we ended up talking for 2 HOURS! We found out that we have a lot in common, and we get along great. We are already talking about getting together for lunch and stuff. I am so excited - and totally floored!! She sent me some pictures in the mail which I got yesterday and there is a resemblance. And the things they say about how people in the same family carry similar likes and dislikes - its true. Even though I didn't grow up with her (or my other 7! siblings - one of which is deceased) I have a lot of things in common with them too! Totally amazing.
She said that some of my siblings know about me, some don't. She said she will tell them as she can, when the time is right. She said our sister knows as much about me as she does so she will probably tell her soon. Some of my brothers know very little to nothing about me. My biological mother is still alive, and says (at this time) that she doesn't really want to meet me or get to know me, however Dawn said that may change. She isn't sure how she will tell her - or if. She will play that by ear. I told Dawn that I have no ill feelings towards her and I respect her wishes. I am not mad at her for giving me up. I understand how hard a decision it was and that she must've had good reasons at the time. Whatever they were/are, I don't hate her, I'm not mad at her. Come to find out, when I was living in MA, I was about 4 or 5 towns away from her. So close....
You know, once I found out I was adopted, I would wonder how I would take the news if I was to find my biological mother (family) if I ever did find them. Now I know. For years I felt like an orphan. Now Dawn tells me "well you're not an orphan anymore". And it's the most awesome feeling.
Will keep you posted.
I am so happy for you. After last week, this is surely great news! |
Oh man, reading that totally gave me chills. I am SO thrilled for you! That's bloody amazing. Finding a whole new family and people you have things in common with can be nothing but a treasure hunt with guaranteed booty! Congrats to you and your sister! Looking forward to reading updates! :) M. |
Congratulations to you. Glad to hear the great news. ??? Jeff |
Wow, searching for you for over 30 years; I'm just so moved by that. :) 7 siblings, wow! Such wonderful news. My father was prolific (ha) and I have a lot of half-siblings that I'm only getting to know about as an adult. It's just amazing. One of my half sisters and I actually named our daughters almost the same name - her little girl is Miranda Caraleigh and my daughter is Miranda Leigh. |
well wishes from another adopted child. i think i am different from a lot of adopted children... i have absolutely no desire to know any biological family i have. I had a great childhood with a wonerful adoptive family and that is that. The only things i'd like to know is about medical history! it drives me crazy not knowing if the obesity runs in my biological family or cancer, or heart disease... etc. I'm happy for you! have fun with it! new sister, yay! |
chelle...this is so incredible! wow! i am verrrrry happy for you girl, so glad you are getting to connect to your roots after so many years. the timing is so very perfect too, you so deserve this blessing in your life at this moment. my kids aunt, who was put up for adoption, reconnected with my ex and family when we were still together. she is VERY involved in the family now, something she had been seeking and craving her whole life, it completed her. she is very loved. i wish the same for you. i put my 3rd child up for adoption because i could barely support myself and the 2 i already had. i wish it could have been different. i hope someday i too will meet him and reconnect. it was the hardest decision i ever made in my entire life. ever! much love to you chelle! |
Wow that's amazing. I have an adopted sister and brother whom I've never met and wouldn't know where to start to look for. I don't even know if they know about me or if they know they were adopted. I guess I'll never know unless they try to find me or my mum. I just hope they are happy where ever they are. |
Wow! That is so cool! My son, who we adopted had the chance of meeting his bio brother and family. It was a good idea we all thought but come to find out, they are a bunch of druggies and alcoholics. Jon said he feels so fortunate he was taken out of that situation. Boy was I relieved to hear that. Congrats about your new family. I pray it goes well with you all. Have a great weekend! |
aw hunny, so so so SOOOOOOOOOO happy for you! I can hear the sunshine in your words and it's bringing tears to my eyes. xoxoxoxoxo |
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