A very random, weirod question, but I just don't get it.

I was at my friends yesterday and when my friend went to the toilet she comes back complaining that her boyfriend had left the seat up.  What's the big deal?  Surely it's not too hard for her to put it down herself?  I just don't get why people get so mad about it.

Does this bother anyone else?

I don't like it because I don't like touching the seat to put it back down and I don't like it when it happens in the middle of the night when I assume everything is how it normally is and sit down with out looking - splash!  Then again I don't even like when the top lid is left up (whether it's left up by a guy or girl).  I'm very thankful my husband is fully trained.

bothers the hell out of me-- you put it up, you put it back down again.  1) I dont expect it to be up and so might not notice and 2) its ultra gross to touch the toilet seat-- let him do it, hes already touched it once.  I shouldnt have to touch what he probably pee'd on.

Yep, I think its disgusting to leave the seat up.  Heck, I close the lid when I am done, I think open toilets are just gross.

I live in a house with 3 boys- my husband and 2 sons (12 & 6). I've touched ickier things than a toilet seat, so I don't mind putting it down occasionally, they're generally pretty good about it.

What I don't like is when they leave the seat down, pee on it and then I sit in the pee. O yuck!!!

Now I always do a drip inspection.

If their aim is good and they hit their target, don't complain.

Nothing worse than having to clean up after a guy that can't aim.

It's a question of courtesy and good manners.  Gentlemen are taught to hold doors open for people, give up their seat on a train for someone who needs it and to put the toilet seat down after using.   Ill-mannered slobs do none of those things..

My feeling has always been:

Guys - Is it really all that hard to put the seat down?

Gals - Is it really all that hard to look where you're sitting?  (It's just a good idea, no matter what you're doing.)

Original Post by gi-jane:

Gentlemen are taught to hold doors open for people, give up their seat on a train for someone who needs it...

Women shouldn't be exempt from these either.

I'm not bothered if it's up.

I'm more bothered if it's down & he's peed on it & not cleaned it up & I sit in it

Original Post by drea99:

bothers the hell out of me-- you put it up, you put it back down again.  1) I dont expect it to be up and so might not notice and 2) its ultra gross to touch the toilet seat-- let him do it, hes already touched it once.  I shouldnt have to touch what he probably pee'd on.

Yep, I think its disgusting to leave the seat up.  Heck, I close the lid when I am done, I think open toilets are just gross.

I assume you flush the toilet after use and so had the man in the house.  So you don't mind touching the handle after he's touched it, but you don't want to touch the seat (yet you touch it when you sit on it)

Is it really that hard for women to put it up after using it?

The door swings both ways on this one. Men like having the seat up because it makes things easier (just as women do). We dont want to have to think about it / touch it / mess with it either.

Maybe its just women arent so considerate when it comes to what men would rather want (does it really always have to be about you?).

But, thats just it, this isnt a case of genders. This is simply a case of 2 people who prefer to have something different ways. Both people have the same concerns ...and both SHOULD be considerate of the other.... but that doesnt seem to be the case. Apparently its all the evil mans fault because he has a penis and you dont.....

Thank you loriklorik for the man's perspective.  I lived in a house with 2 men.   I left the seat down, they left the seat up and there were never arguements about the toilet seat.

I live alone, so when a guy comes over and leaves the seat up, it really catches me off guard.  I'm not used to having to check my own toilet, and I don't usually turn the lights on when I get up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.  However, when I lived in houses where I was the only girl, I put the seat back up after using the toilet.  I do the same thing if I'm at a guy's house.  

I do mind touching the handle, thats the grossest part probably.  And what does flushing have to do with it?  Its gross to not flush but for a number 1, its neither here nor there-- flushing or not doesnt substantially change the gross factor.

All the guys I have ever lived with have, for the majority of their use, shut the entire lid and cleaned up after themselves.  Its just the right way to be.  I might be a little OCD about bathroom stuff (I just think using the bathroom is in and of itself gross, especially when other people are around to hear etc) but I do think that its proper manners to shut the whole thing and wash your hands and flush, etc.  You obviously werent looking for an opinion that supported your friend, you were looking for one to support your own.

Dont ask for opinions when you really dont want one-- just ask for for support for your view point (you will still get dissenters but will get more people on the side that you are actually looking for).

My standard 'Toilet Lid & Seat Operating Procedure' is as follows:

• At home - husband sometimes leaves it up, sometimes puts it back down. I generally return the toilet to the neutral 'lid and seat down' position when finished.
  
• Lid and seat down in unisex public restrooms. (This applies when visiting friends & family as well)
  
• 'Women only' public restrooms WITH lid = lid and seat down, no lid = seat remains the same
• 'Men only' public restroom (in case of emergency ONLY) - Lid & seat go back up

That is Idiotic.  It's not a big deal the woman can put down the seat herself instead of acting like a drama queen.  From what I know my mom never complains about my dad leaving the toilet seat up....There are more serious things to complain about My gosh.

I worked at a place where there were 3 of us ladies, and invariably if I followed a certain one into the bathroom the seat was up!  I asked her why she did this and she said that at her house, her husband demanded it from her in their master bath.  I still don't get it, but to each his/her own.

When I build my own house I will have both a urinal and bidet. :>D  (In my dreams.)

Personally, I don't mind. I always check before I sit down, be it day or night. I have performed the a**-splash a couple times, and have learned my lesson.

But if a girl does mind, she should politely ask the guy to put the seat down, and he should. Relationships, whether it concerns couples, friends, or roommates, need to have understanding and compromise.

It doesn't really bother me, but I would rather not touch a germ infested/ urine infested toilet seat... At least her boyfriend PUT THE SEAT UP when he used the toilet! I have used a toilet after guys who decided they have pretty good aim... but wind up MISSING the toilet completely... Most of the time (pretty much ALL OF THE TIME) I always wipe the seat with toilet paper before sitting, but of course the few times I don't.... I always sit in someone's URINE!!! Yuck! But I get over it and just think I will take a shower sooner or later and it will be all gone... 

I can deal with having to put the toilet seat down before use. What I can't deal with is using the ladies' room in a public place. Those nasty, disgusting women who simply refuse to sit actually squat. In doing so, half these idiots pee all over the toilet seat worse than men do. Then, refuse to clean up after themselves. It literally makes me want to chase down the "woman" who was in there prior to me and make her sit in her own dang pee. I used to work in a convenience store and had to clean the bathrooms. Women are, by far, much filthier than men. At least the men don't leave personal hygiene products laying in the floor.

Arg, I have so many bathroom pet peeves it's unreal.

Original Post by clairesty:

I'm not bothered if it's up.

I'm more bothered if it's down & he's peed on it & not cleaned it up & I sit in it

Yeah, that would bother me more. And to be honest I've encountered more peed-on toilet seats in public women's restrooms than when I've lived with a guy or spent the night at one's place.

I've always considered the toilet seat thing to sort of be the territory of second-rate female comedians: "Men! They leave the seat up, hog the remote, and are afraid of commitment! Am I right, ladies? HAW HAW HAW!"