What are your views on this...(really need your opinion)
Say you had a boyfriend, and you were really into that guy, and you had a few great months with him. You had been broken up for several months, and thought about getting back together once, but because of you, you didn't. About a month after you decided not to get back together, you find out that he likes your very best friend who is like a sister to you...and she likes him back. She's honest with you about it, and says that if it bothers you, then she won't start up anything. But, you just want her to be happy, right? So, you tell her to go for it. To do whatever makes her happy. But, deep down inside...you're really bothered by all of this, and you don't know why. You and that guy were broken up, and had been for a while, so it shouldn't bother you like it is. Since you had broken up, you still spent time together regularly, and were basically best friends, but it is hard to really be around him now for some reason...you just don't know what. It's also even hard to be with your best friend...which is horrible, but true.
What do you do? Your friend told you that if you were bothered by them being together, to tell her the truth and she wouldn't even think about it. But, you don't have a say in what she does. You can't dictate her decisions. Do you confront her? Or do you just try to cope with these odd feelings of jealousy and uneasiness?
Thanks...
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anyway, i was going to say that i think you should say nothing about it to her. you had your chance when she asked you and you told her to go for it. you should have said something then. if you want any kind of relationship with either one, you will "grin and bare it". it is hard to take but they would probably both choose each other rather than you.
i think over time, usually this happens after you find someone new, you will be very happy that you did. you will be with the new guy and your two best friends double dating.
OR, you could confront them, they alienate you, and you find a new guy and have two less friends.
personally i'd choose to keep my friends.
katttt
This guys moved on clearly, and she's happy. What good will telling her do? Surely you don't hope to get back with this guy because even if you did, i'm not sure he's the type of guy i'd want to date...
She did the right thing by coming to you first. You told her to go for it and she did. There is nothing you can do about it now. Beside, your relationship with the guy was over, that was your choice. What you need to do is get over it.
maybe she just needs to get it off her chest? If her friend is a true friend, hopefully she can keep it in confidence. It may help dissolve any awkwardness...or it might create more. Either way hopefully it will help her get some closure on the whole situation
Are you single now? I am trying to put myself in your shoes and think about how I would feel. Could it be that, if you're single, you may not be feeling this way because of that particular guy, but just becuase your friend is seeing someone in general? Maybe you're feeling down because she has interest in a guy and you don't at this time.
I don't know, just something I may have felt in the past.
