Wagon Jumpers - September 5 - 12, 2009 (2 waiting list spots available)
Welcome
(I keep the waiting list capped at 4 people as it can be a 16 week wait with that length. If you are interested in spot 3 or 4 please read below and contact me.)
Welcome to the Wagon Jumpers weekly thread. We are a group of CC members who have identified that one of our main challenges with achieving our weight loss, maintenance or general health goals is consistency.
This thread is designed to encourage long term commitment to our goals by publicly declaring them and asking the other members of this thread to hold us accountable. The primary focus of wagon jumpers is not how much weight you have lost, or need to loose, but what you need to do on a daily basis to meet your long term goals.
There are two rules for Wagon Jumpers:
1. All members must post once per week between Sunday and Friday.
2. All members must check the thread for members who have not posted by Saturday (a short list is posted on Thursday) or are on the MIA list on Sunday and send them a polite and positive message to stay involved in the group and on track with their goals.
If you would like to be a member of this thread please see the guidelines below and send me a PM if you are still interested (there may be a waiting list).
Medium Size Group = Some Time Commitment
The original idea of Wagon Jumpers was to create a close community where participants could get to know each other and hopefully form virtual-life and perhaps even physical-life bonds to create a support network as they attempted long term weight loss.
We quickly discovered that this was impossible with an 'always open' group as there were too many people coming and going. For this reason the group is finding its optimum level is between 20 and 25 participants.
A medium sized group means that we have an active thread that produces between 30 - 45 posts per week. Members do not need to read / respond to every post every week. I do notice that those who respond regularly do tend to keep their goals top of mind, and have a better chance to achieve them. I estimate the average time spent by an active member on Wagon Jumpers to be between 1-2 hours per week.
If you are looking for an always open group on CC there are several that operate by different weight criteria, similar motivational patterns etc... There are also many small groups that cap their numbers between 4-10 people to keep the group more intimate, and easier for members to keep up with.
Interested in Joining?
General Guidelines for Joining
1. Are you a wagon jumper?
Do you know how to loose weight, you often have success but then you find yourself loosing interest in your plan, or sabotaging your plan. It's not the "how" to loose weight that is the problem, it's the "how" to stay motivated.
2. Do you have a long way to go?
This group is designed so that members can get to know each other and support each other. Ideally you are planning to be a CC member and part of this forum for at least 6 months or more to achieve your goals and hopefully stay in motivation for a further 6 months or more.
Yes. This is, a long term plan.
3. Do you have the time?
This is a medium sized group, the thread does move fairly quickly each week. If you do not have regular internet access this is likely not the group for you.
Still interested?
Send Supersized a PM. (Please do not reply on the thread)
An overview will be sent to you, you will have a chance to ask questions and an invitation will be sent to you once a spot is open.
Google Group
We have recently added a google group as an option for members, past members, and members on the waiting list. If you would like access to the google group (and are in one of the above categories) send a message to beaglesmuggler (at) roger.com with your username and e-mail address and I will add you to the google group.
Wagon Jumpers Participants
Year 1 - Week 18 Riders:
Supersized 
(myself)
Year 1 - Week 14 Riders:
Year 1 - Week 13 Riders:
Defrog3 - Maternity Leave to October 31, 2009
Year 1 - Week 10 Riders:
Year 1 - Week 8 Riders - Congratulations on 1 Year 2 Months!:
Year 1 - Week 3 Riders:
Week 49 Riders:
Nannygabber - Vacation September 9 - 20, 2009
Week 42 Riders:
Week 40 Riders - Congratulations on 10 Months!:
Week 37 Riders:
Week 12 Riders - Congratulations on 3 Months!:
Week 7 Riders:
Week 5 Riders:
Week 4 Riders - Congratulations on 1 Month!:
Week 3 Riders:
Week 2 Riders:
Week 1 Riders:
NEW:
Missing In Action:
Missing In Action - 1 Week:
Missing In Action - 2 Weeks:
Current Membership: 24
Current Waiting List: 2
Outstanding Wait List Invites: 0
12 Week CONSISTENCY GOALS
(as set w/o June 28th, 2009)
By September 19th, I will be...
Msmeg1984 - NEW: eating a weekly average of 2,000 cal/day and, MAINTENANCE: exercising 3x/week for at least 9 of the 12 weeks.
Dovelette - NEW: NROLFW 3x week for 9 out of 12 weeks.
Merimeriqcontrary - NEW: 3 times/week exercise for at least 9 out of the 12 weeks.
Wenchie58 - NEW: Logging my food intake of <1500 cals per day at least 5 days per week.
Figurethefat - NEW: to run/walk a minimum of six 5ks per month. MAINTENANCE:to continue doing a minimum of 1,500 exercise minutes per month.
Kyashiis - NEW: Run a minimum of 3 kilos 12 times over the 12-week period. MAINTENANCE:I will zig-zag on my food intake consistently throughout each week and end up with an average daily calorie count of 1,100 cals.
Raven21 - NEW: Eat all my yummy, healthy meals (3) and snacks (2) before 9pm for 12 weeks, with no more than 12 days missed. MAINTENANCE:Exercise at least 3 times a week
Supersized - NEW: Go to gym 3x/week for 6 of 12 weeks. MAINTENANCE: Log all food for 9 of 12 weeks.
Cawilder - NEW: Log my food 85% of the time. MAINTENANCE: Running at least 5 hrs/week and lifting 2x/week.
Nannygabber - MAINTENANCE: Strength training 3x/week for 9 of 12 weeks. Macronutrient ratio of 40/30/30 (carb/fat/protein) for 9 of 12 weeks.
Germaica - NEW: Exercise at least 3x/week for at least 30 min for 9 of 12 weeks. MAINTENANCE: Continue to eat 1 portion of high iron food at least 4 times per week.
Jessicaanne2001 - NEW: Keep calories under 2,000 checking by logging food 4x/week. MAINTENANCE: workout at the gym 4x/week
Carryonandon - NEW: Exercise 3x weekly MAINTENANCE: 300-500 calorie deficit daily.
Constanza - NEW: For the next 12 weeks, less twelve days I will follow this meal plan: 3 meals, 1 snack and 1 dessert per day, no more than 7 alcoholic drinks per week. MAINTENANCE: exercise an average of 2x/week.
Previous Threads:
Wagon Jumpers - August 30 - September 5, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - August 23 - 29, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - August 15 - 22, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - August 9 - 15, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - August 2 - 8, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - July 26 - Aug 1, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - July 19 - 25, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - July 12 - 18th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - July 5 - 11th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - June 28 - July 4, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - June 21 - 27th, 2009
Wagon Jumper - June 14 - 20th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - June 7 - 13th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers May 31 - June 6th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers May 24 - 30th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - May 17 - 23rd, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - May 10 - 16th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - May 3 - 9th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - April 26 - May 2nd, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - April 19 - 25th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - April 12 - 18th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - April 5 - April 11th, 2009
Wagon Jumpers - March 29 - April 4th, 2009
As always all members are encouraged to tag this thread so that it is easy to find.
Weekly Topic: Motivation
This is an exercise pulled from the body for life book, while I wasn't a big fan of the program I thought this element was interesting.
Picture a target, the kind with a few rings and a bulls eye. This is your "motivational target".
On the outer layer go your surface thoughts about why you want to loose weight, lower cholesterol, drop a few sizes, be able to run faster and farther (whatever your overall long term goal is). Surface thoughts may be something like "to be healthier" or "to look better" something that is generic and safe to day around the office.
You can have as many rings as you like, the idea is to dig down to something that stops you dead in your track. What is the motivational inspiration that if you say it out loud to yourself will force you out of bed in the morning for the early run or will stall your hand on the door as you are reaching for the Hagen Daazs?
Note: For goal setters I realized I missed the 3/4 goal check in, next week will be goal check in.
Welcome Vera!
Please welcome our new member Vera Vcruicky!
Weekly Topic:
I have to admit, this was difficult for me. I have so many reasons why I would like to loose weight, but at my first go with this, nothing strikes me as more important than others.
I had to take a while to think about it, but I think this is probably the best list I can make.
Layer One - Look better - Everyone wants to look good and since I've been kinda "thick" my entire life, I just want for once to be that girl with skinny legs, a flat tummy and nice arms.
Layer Two - Be Stronger - Being stronger means there is less chance for injury, stronger bones, stronger back etc... I don't want to have to ask people to move or pick up things for me any more!
Middle - Motivation - Be Healthy and Happy - I want my life to be the best it can be. I don't want to have health problems down the road because of the extra weight.
WELCOME Vera! I hope you get as much out of this group as the rest of us do. Sara is a great leader and poses some great questions/assignments each week.
Hi,
Welcome Vera, hope you find this helpful in your quest...
I am with msmeg - this one was difficult.
I think there are internal - how I feel about it and then there are external - how others feel about it.
Layer One:
Internally - I want to feel comfortable in my own skin. I want to trust my body that it can do anything I want it to do. I look at older people and they look so fragile - I don't want to be in that predictament when I am older.
Externally - my husband wants me to be much thinner (I have already told him that it ain't gonna happen pal - I was a size 4 when I was in 4th grade...) His criticisms have stopped as of late but mostly because I told him that his stress added onto everything else was being counter productive.
Layer Two:
Internally: I want to feel proud of myself. I don't feel proud alot of the time.
Externally: I want to look good. I would dearly love to fit into a size 8 again. I was probably my best at that size.
Layer Three:I think you feel cleaner when you eat healthier. When it is lower in fat. I think I think clearer - not sure if this is a myth or what. No injuries caused by my weight putting pressure on my feet. I love running and dearly miss running the woods - I know my weight puts way too much stress on my muscoskeletal system.
My weight has been climbing as of late. Work, now starting school, kids, - you know the typical.
so here are my thoughts on my action plan to get back on the wagon...
Week 1 (this week):
a) Log breakfast and lunch (average 8oo cals)
b) Pool run / walk&run 3X
c) weight lift 1X
Week 2 (Sept 13th week)
a) Log breakfast / Lunch / Dinner @ least 5 days (average 1500 cals)
b) pool run / walk & run 3X
c) weight lift 2X
Week 3 (9/20)
a) Log breakfast / Lunch / Dinner @ least 6 days (average 1500 cals)
b) pool run / walk & run 4X
c) weight lift 3X
Week 4 (9/27) - I will be at school for a week (MBA school)
a) Log breakfast / Lunch / Dinner @ least 6 days (average 1500 cals)
b) pool run / walk & run 3X
c) weight lift 0x
Well, let's see if I can do this plan. I think it is ambitious but worthwhile. I have gained probably 15lbs now by the fit of my clothes - I am scared to even look at the scale...
Take care...
Today was my first day of lifting! I am sore... but happy. It is difficult to find the right balance of protein with fat/carbs, but I am getting there. I'm also trying to get used to eating more in a day. Sometimes it makes me feel a little sick to my stomach because I was used to having only 1200-1500 cals or so per day and now I'm more like 1600-1700 cals a day.
Still keeping up with my goals - cal deficit and 3x exercising/week.
Target layers... I am pretty simple when it comes to exercising and health since I haven't spent as much time thinking/caring about it as I should. It always seemed ancillary, but I guess there is a season in life for learning about everything. Anyway - here goes:
1) Surface - just look better, feel better aesthetically - this is highly motivating for me since it used to be really easy for me to be at an attractive weight for my body type - and then time/bad habits caught up with me. I want to wear a bikini again - by next summer even. We're going to try to spend some time with my husband's family. They live in a beach town and I don't want to feel out of place.
2) Under the surface - Be stronger - I read that increasing strength now staves off other types of diseases when I'm elderly. Of course, since it's hard to imagine being elderly, this is hardly a very good way to motivate myself on a daily basis. It just seems too far away.
3) Towards the center - Get to a point where I have built up enough good exercise and eating habits that it seems second nature to me. Then I won't have to worry so much about it on a daily basis and I'll be more adapatable to various situations I'm in.
4) Center - Have better confidence - inside and out. This might be the most important thing.
Boy, this one is hard for me too! And actually, I don't know that I really know what it is deep down inside me that keeps me going (and going and going, despite stalls), but something does. Maybe right now on the surface it's not wanting to be the "fat white girl" in Cape Verde. So many women here are just so tiny, some in a bad way but most in a really attractive way lol. And of the volunteers in general, I was definitely in the Top 10% weight wise when we arrived, and the fattest in our area. Now, well I probably still am but only because the other Vs are really thin, and I def. don't FEEL like the fat white girl any more.
A little deeper is to be strong and healthy. I am motivated because I want to be able to DO more, I want to be a better rock climber, I want to do some tumbeling with my friends (my friend is a Capoeira instructor here, and it would be cool to do flips and stuff with him!).
Well, maybe the reality is a very deep and emotional thing for me...I've always had issues with abandonment and other emotional problems, so I almost think that my inner motivation is to avoid being abandoned, or for people to love me more. Not sure if this is really the forum to dig into my psychological stuff LOL but my mom was pretty critical of my weight growing up (her nickname for me was Roley, the fat little puppy from 101 Dalmations, and she used to say other not so nice things too), and I didn't really have boyfriends in high school and didn't feel very attractive in college etc. Granted, these fears aren't REAL, since my hubby is amazing and loves me and there is no way he'd ever leave me even if I weighed 300lbs again, but still...I think in some ways I am emotionally needy and I have tied in the idea that being thinner will make people love me more.
Huh. Thanks for making us think about this.
Anyway, as an update, I'm sucking at my goal. I have been traveling so much and then getting sick or hubby gets sick that we just haven't been able to keep up with NROLFW. We're not sure if it's better to take some time off and start up again when we have to time to actually DO it, or try to work around our crazy schedules right now, like grab 2 workouts this week, none the next (I'll be away), 3 workouts the following week, none the next etc. Thoughts?
But on the FLIP side...my weight is down to 157.4. I haven't seen that number in 4 years, since I was 15 months out from my surgery. I'm literally 2.5lbs from "virgin fat territory" ie a weight I have never seen in my adult life lol. Actually a weight I haven't seen since I was probably 11 years old. My original goal was 148, one half of my former self, but looking at myself I'm wondering if I couldn't go lower. We'll see how I'm looking and feeling, but I'm pretty psyched to be back into size 10s!!
We all agree. This is a difficult exercise. I empathize with others on talking publicly about these issues.
I am not sure what drives me, but let's dig a little...
Outer Ring Z - I am 58 and don't want to be fat as I grow older. It causes so many problems.
Outer Ring Y - I just hate always being the biggest one in the pictures, and the only one with a double chin. I want to be photogenic (might not be possible, but at least the double chin should disappear).
Ring X - I want to feel comfortable in my body.
Ring W - I want to eat like other people... put down the fork when I'm full, refuse the sweets when I know that my calories will go above maintenance.
Ring V - I want to fix the broken satiety valve.
Ring U - I want clothes to fit right and hang on my body well.
Ring T - I want to buy clothes in any store I go into in Japan (the land of tiny sizes).
Ring S - I want my husband to feel pride in my appearance.
Ring R - I want me to to feel pride in my appearance.
Ring Q - I want to climb mountains and run races without injury and in average to better than average length of times.
Ring P - I want to lose the fat on my back rather than keeping this bull shape...
Ring O - I want to understand the unique way of my own self of how to maintain a healthy body and optimum health.
Ring N - I want to feel light.
... ... ...
Ring A - I am motivated to become comfortable, flexible, and lithe in feeling in my body.
Hey dovelette - congrats on your progress! About the NROLFW - my thought would be to go with the grab the 2 workouts this week, none the next, 3 workouts the following week scenario. For me, it's easier to stick to a plan if I'm not putting it on hold forever - even if it cannot be followed exactly on the time frame the book has.
I think the author (Shuler) says he does this, too: that when he's traveling on business or for vacation, he first focuses on the primary reason for traveling and then if there's time and access to a gym he'll have a workout - but not necessarily following the workout program he's on at the time back at home.
Good luck. I'll be on my second NROLFW workout day tomorrow.
Another week and another missed weekend. I have to say if I could just do better on the weekends then I probably would have met my goals months ago but I digress. I like everyone else that has replied, think that this weeks topic is definitely difficult, but also very important. I often sit thinking "Why is this so hard, why haven't I achieved my goal, what is driving me and keep me away?"
Outer Layer - To look like the person I think/know I am. I was always the heavier friend, never really "fat" but just not as thin as everyone else. I want to feel comfortable in my own skin (like meg said, skinny legs, flat tummy, nice arms).
Second Layer - To be healthy and strong. To be able to push my limits and compete like I used to in high school (even though I'm into some different, single person sports now).
Centre - To be a "normal" eater. I think Kathy said something that really resonated with me. 1- I want to eat like other people... put down the fork when I'm full; and also 2 - I want to fix the broken satiety valve.
I am pretty good most of the time but those times that I'm not really must make up for the times that I'm good. I am forging ahead with new resolve today. One thing I really hate to be is hungry. I hate thinking about food because I'm starving trying to lose this weight. I was reading about another "fad" diet just last week called Fiber35. I say "fad" because of course part of it promises some miracles but really it's just sound advice. Eat more fibre, feel full longer, eat less, lose weight. Also has other healthful benefits which I would love to reap. I am trying to keep track of how many grams of fibre I consume on a daily basis now in addition to calories (but focusing more on fibre). I am also trying to get at least 60 minutes of exercise 5 days a week and see how that works. I find I am exercising more intensely then I did when I was 20 pounds lighter (I used to just walk 4.0 speed for 45 minutes daily) and now I run but not as often and not seeing the weight loss. I need to get on those walks again as puppy and I could both benefit.
Thanks Sara for this topic and thanks everyone for sharing.
Here's to a great week!
Carrie
I'm curious about this, and I see it brought up a lot: the concept of "normal." I'm not sure there is such a think as a "normal" eater, nor am I sure ther needs to be. I do see how thinner people eat, where they may put down their fork or not, but if they don't and they eat more, maybe the next day they eat less. Not arguing! Just really wondering if sometimes we are striving for an ideal that doesn't exist?
Okay like my mom, she never over eats, always puts her fork down, measures out food etc...but I definitely see her behavior as NOT normal lol Or maybe I'm confusing "normal" with "average." My mom eats "faux" food, and also I don't think she eats ENOUGH food, BMR wise.
And normal too...back in "the day," what did "they" eat like? What did they LOOK like? I know we have this image that we are way fatter than we were, but I seem to remember that this isn't necessarily so? Could have made it up in my head LOL. In that case, simple carbs and saturated fats were common. Is that normal? Of course IMO I don't think fat is bad, even saturated, only trans, but I lead a different lifestyle than others, it just works for me (and fortunately more recent info is backing this up!) Anyway...not wanting to argue the point, just how I eat and what I believe, but I'm still curious about this whole "normal" concept...
Kathy brought up something that I really need to fix in myself - my satiety valve. And maybe its more than that - emotional and bored eating are problems for me also.
I will eat and eat and eat when i know i'm full and even when I'm bored and not hungry. Many times I ignore the relationship I have with food, thinking it will just get better on its own. I enjoy food, and I think its absolute torture that there are so many delicious things out there that are so bad for us or that we can only have a bite or two of. I mean, three oreos? Who on earth can eat just three oreos!?
I just keep having this battle over and over again with food... And I wish it would just come naturally to me. I hate the struggle.
A lot of good discussion on this topic. I think it can .... and should, if it is going to work strike a personal nerve. Make you feel a little uncomfortable, find that resonance that makes you confront your goals and deal with them.
Me...
Surface: To look better. I'm tired of being the 'fat' girl in the group, mirror and photographs.
Middle: To feel better. To eat in a way that does not aggravate my digestive. To feel lighter on my feet, less winded going up stairs. To feel strong and secure when I run instead of out of breath and baggy.
Middle: To be healthy, the side effects of obesity on diabetes, and cancer are scary. I quit smoking to try to reduce my cancer risk, now I need to eat better and get the fat off.
Center: To stop editing myself out of my memories. I keep editing myself out of family photo's, friends photo's, video's avoiding opportunities where I will be front and center in a group, because I don't like the way that I look. I feel that my neglect of my body shows a laziness on my part that if publicized too widely will hurt my credibility and achievements in other areas.
Digging into this there is a need to love myself regardless of my weight.
However, I think part of that is avoiding giving permission to myself to completely let go of health and fitness goals. Part of loving and caring about myself needs to be caring about my body and getting my body healthy and fit so that it is with me for a long time, and does not become a prison for me.
Sara.
Meg Your middle reason may still be very general. Can you (if not here, maybe just for yourself) find that point that will push you though in the days that you don't want to follow your goals. Is there a particular illness that you are worried about? Is there an image (mental or physical) that you have of "healthy" that will motivate you - what is in that image?
Carol Sounds like you have a good plan there. I've put my gym appointments staring next week in my calendar (I'd over booked myself for this week already). Now I need to make a meal plan for next week grocery shop for it and stick to it next week. I've been doing well on breakfasts and lunches, it is dinner where I fall apart. We'll keep each other up to date as we go through the weeks to getting back on the wagon.
Carry I think you are hitting on what could be a large motivator for many in the group. Confidence or lack there of. I found when I dug into the confidence issue the manifestation was me editing myself out of my memories. Is there a way that your lack of confidence manifests... what will getting that confidence look like?
Dove I don't think you are alone, and more than that you are likely in the majority. As women our self-worth is so often tied to our body-image... if not by us (not usually by us - most of us try to fight that) then usually by other people... people in our lives directly and the wider "People" the magazines, tv shows etc...
Congratulations on the near "virgin fat territory".. :)
Kathy Personally I actually find many of your top level motivations resonate more for me than the A ring... but we are all different. What does being 'comfortable, flexible and lithe' mean to you? How does that push you when nothing else will?
Carrie Looks like the group is getting pretty good at digging. The "normal eater" seems to have resonated, while there are discussions about what is normal, it is fair to say that most of us who are striving for a goal have our own personal vision of what "normal" is, which is inevitably something that we are not in our own minds. What is this vision for you? Why does it motivate you?
Dove Agreed the idea of 'normal' has been co-opted in the public mind and transmuted to mean 'other' or more correctly 'desirable other'. I would be surprised to find anyone who defined themselves as 'normal'. We have created this as a category that is now used by mass media to project almost unattainable images that brands will help us meet... whether it is the 15-year-old model selling 'anti-aging' cream the celebrity hocking a weight loss program or a private tutoring program selling the perfect student solution for your child. "Normal" is a landmine of emotional resonance for the unattained. At the same time if the vision of "normal" the personal vision that we all hold can be dissected into it's component parts and evaluated for realistic achievement it can and often is the prime motivator. Of course it's also a difficult process confronting what we have adopted as our 'normal' and recognizing what may be unrealistic expectations (I'm never going to be a 105 5'2" Asian girl... better stop trying to fit into that model!).
Checking in: had a terrific weekend, no scale around, no external food around, took my own food on a trip and ate what I had planned, so no distractions from dining out, fast food, etc.
Worked hard and kept physically busy, but very little structured exercise, and came back to weigh a pound less than before.
Basically I was able to eat good food: veggie chili dogs, pretzels, a few beers, cocktails, trail mix bars, quesadillas, but I didn't gain any weight because I kept active. This is the way I want to live my life. I love eating but I don't want to be fat, so it means burning up the calories I take in.
That said, it's good to be home where I can get on the treadmill, ride my bike, and also sit on my butt on the net. Ha ha ha.
As for the bullseye, my priorities really depend on how I'm feeling. I'm going to go out from the center...
Bullseye: feel good in my body shell, with taut skin, a bit of muscle.
Inner ring: fit into my clothes just right.
Next ring: Eat nutritious food.
Outer ring: Stay fit as I age.
Stress. I would say stress and to a lesser extent boredom are things that "cause" me to eat when I'm not hungry. Case in point, I'm at work wondering why I even bother since no one seems to care, frustrated that I've asked for the same things from the same people for weeks now and they keep telling me it's on the way, and what do I do, shovel close to 20 yogourt covered almonds into the mouth. Why? No real idea, not hungry, just had lunch. Now I'm frustrated and disappointed in myself. I am definitely not missing my date with the treadmill at 4pm, I need the run for sanity and for health.
All this time I've said I handle stress well, and others agree, they don't see me looking stressed. Well bingo! That's because I eat my stress and they don't see that.
Sara - When it comes to my body and self confidence, sometimes low self confidence rears its head when I'm in a position where I need to come across as self-confidently as possible and I don't feel comfortable in my clothes - job interviews for instance. I've managed to get over this in part by simply buying clothes that fit my body well now (instead of waiting to be skinnier). Also, I learned that I'm a petite on top, but more normal on the bottom which has helped when buying suits. At first, I would wind up with suits that fit up top but were a little short on the bottom, and then I would feel silly about that in the interview (despite the fact that no one else really noticed - since I made some progress). The bottom line is that it distracts me from what I really need to be focusing on at the time - like getting to know someone or selling my skill set and competencies.
Also, I've never been very confident at moving my body athletically, so it used to be hard for me to go to the gym and allow others to see me doing just that. I've since gotten over that enough not to let it interfere with my workouts - even though I'm still reluctant to do things like crunches, squats or lunges while someone else is in there. I just do it anyway.
Carrie - Just want to send out vibes of encouragement to help combat the work stress.
Original Post by carryonandon:
Carrie - Just want to send out vibes of encouragement to help combat the work stress.
Thank you! Unfortunately I'm not going to get that run in today. I was headed over to the gym when another supervisor stopped me and told me we needed to call an ambulance, someone in the gym was having shortness of breath and blurred vision. So my last hour at work was taken up with that (oh and he's fine, just over did it in the gym after a LONG vacation from it). So hubby says go for a run tonight with the puppy. I plan on it, I enjoy running in the evening quite a bit, when it's cooler and the sun is going down, very nice scenery. I also agree with a lot of what you're saying. Sara said something to me about motivation in her reply, what is it that is "normal", well not thinking about how my muffin top might be showing during presentations etc would definitely be one of them! So off home now and taking the puppy out on this beautiful night. Have a great rest of the week everyone!
Oh God, stress gets me EVERY TIME. I don't know why and while I try to do all the techniques - I still dive into that food that I think will make me feel better.
Also, I do something that is also really bad - revenge eating... it is terrible. It is mostly directed at my husband... Probably because he is the one that is most concerned about my appearance - I know, it is terrible. It is his hangup and not mine and I believe he is working on it.
I actually am able to put down the fork at dinner - it is the sometimes the food I ate for dinner or the sweets, baked goods, etc.
I also get very dizzy, bitchy and a bad headache when I don't eat so being starving takes things to a whole other level... Anyways.. just some rumblings...
Doin well this week. Even over the long weekend with picnics and whatnot I was "aware" of what I was eating and portion size. I have decided that sheltering myself from foods I like (given all the medical restrictions I already endure) is for naught. I have become "aware" and pay close attention to calorie contents and portion size.
This bullseye thing has had me thinking so hard it almost hurts. I'm going to have to think about it some more. I know that my outer ring is I want to be a BABE, but since turning 50 and the fact that I spend the majority of my spare time with grandkids...I might have to rethink that one! <giggle> Babeness might be slightly out of reach at this point!
Wenchie --
Babe is all in the eye of the beholder and beholdee!! And a ton of attitude!
You know there are women I see when I am people watching in a mall or airport or restaurant and there is nothing special about them overall but then you see how they walk and how they interact and how they just plain are -- then you look at them and while you may not have seen them in their bikini -- they are babe's....
There is a "babe" in us all...
Carry I think you found your bullseye the image of going to a job interview and not delivering your best presentation because you are worried about clothes and how they fit. Hang onto that and how a getting fit and comfortable with your body will help you focus on your job skills and presentation skills.
Sounds like you hit a note with Carry as well.
Vicki I agree with Carol "babe" is really what you make it. There are some 50+ women in my office who put me to shame.
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