Waist-whittling Exercises - Help!

I had a convversation with an ex, and he said a lot of the reason he became less sexually attracted to me was that my waistline is not as small as other women he was dating around that time.  I've already started taking better care of myself, eating less and exercising more.  I still love the guy and would eventually like to try again, but not only that, I'd like to look and feel better about myself. 

I'm looking for great waist-reducing exercises.  What works for you?

the best waist-whittling exercise i've ever met is resistance training:  the act of resisting the jar of peanut butter and bucket of frozen yogurt.  it takes blood, sweat and tears.  but w/dedication and work, you can do it.  sometimes drinking water helps :)

Exercise won't help you there, unfortunately. 

Eating clean helps a lot of people, but it's hard to keep it up.  The tummy is the hardest place to keep looking nice!  

You're darn right - that's some major resistance!

Your diet is most likely what you need to tweak. Try getting rid of the sugar and processed foods you eat (if you do).  You can't spot reduce but a combo of weights and cardio will help you lose fat from all over your body.

More importantly, any guy who would dump you over something so superficial as your waistline and then have the nerve to tell you about it later is SO not worth your time!  My husband loved and was attracted to me when I was thin, when I was chubby and when I was 55+ lbs heavier with 2 pregnancies. Someone who really loves you, loves you regardless of what you weigh. Just my opinion.

Nothing is as good for waistline as hula hop and side crunches are!
If you're patient, there's no way you won't see results in 3 weeks.

Erm. Find a nicer man? That'll lose you 200lb of unwanted weight ;)

Personally, I think your ex is an a$$!!  Someone that judges you by your waist, admits it AND also admits he was dating other people around that time - This guy is not worth your breath, your love or your attention!!

Forget him hun, He is not worth it!!  There is someone way better waiting for you just around the corner.

why use a guy as your motivation? if u want a smaller waist do it for yourself only!

he sounds like a loser anyway saying that to you!

 

Even if u do get a slimmer waist I suggest that you show it off to another man who would most definately appreciate it a lot more then that ****!

"More importantly, any guy who would dump you over something so superficial as your waistline and then have the nerve to tell you about it later is SO not worth your time!  My husband loved and was attracted to me when I was thin, when I was chubby and when I was 55+ lbs heavier with 2 pregnancies. Someone who really loves you, loves you regardless of what you weigh. Just my opinion."

This post is so true.  Please try to remember ithat you are worth more than a guy who would tell you such things.   Also, running is the fastest and most effective way to lose weight and it gives you a complete total body workout.  When you do start losing your waistline, you will feel so good about yourself, you won't even want him!!!!!!!

I made him tell me why he stopped desiring me.  I made him be honest with me.  I asked for his blunt opinion.  He also saw me for 10 months after he realized he wasn't as attracted to me.  We had other problems that led to our recent downfall.

We were not exclusive through the entirety of our relationship.  I think he's just scared at how attracted he really is to me, and he's making excuses.  But I'm not going to go back to him without some major changes, so that's done already.

And I am doing this for ME.  It won't work any other way, and I know it.  If he learns to appreciate who I am at any weight, he might win me back.  And if his attitude doesn't change, he can watch my hot, sexy body walk away!

Original Post by 5whisperer:

Erm. Find a nicer man? That'll lose you 200lb of unwanted weight ;)

 Right on!  What an ass!

Original Post by 5whisperer:

Erm. Find a nicer man? That'll lose you 200lb of unwanted weight ;)

 HAHAHAHA...spot on!!!

OK, time for advice from an old man... Dumb the jerk! A guy has to love you for who you are, not how you look! While my wife and I were initially in lust when we met, we been together through thick, thicker, and thin! I never lost my attraction for her even at her biggest (+55 lbs from now) nor she when I was at my biggest (222 lbs today 172.4). A long term relationship is built more on a couples ability to communicate and support each other than it is the initial "lust" attraction. btw: we fell in lust just over 38 years ago and have been in love almost as long!!

oneof2, I disagree with everyone else.

I would be appreciative of someone who gave me a honest appraisal of myself from their point of view.

Every person desires a different physical type and if he preferred someone with a smaller waist it isn't superficial, it's just how he's made. You never hear anyone criticizing people that are attracted to BBW or big guys. We can all pretend that we look past the physical aspects of someone but when you see a nice rack or butt walk by generally you take a small peek.

Besides who said either one of them is looking for a long term relationship. Sometimes it's not about falling love for the rest of your life.

i think if it were someone i weren't dating, i actually would want an honest opinion.  bec looks are the first thing ppl have to go on, 'twould be nice to know how i score on average.

however, if it were someone i were dating?  if they're not interested in me for me, i want no part of it.

I just want to encourage you to forget this man.  Any man that dumps you because your waist is too big, is a self centered, unloving creep.  He obviously does not respect you, or care about you.  So respect yourself!  Don't put yourself in a position to be treated like a piece of meat. If you want a smaller waist, do it for you, not for him.  From everything I've read, the only way to get a smaller waist is to do aerobic exercise - that will get rid of the fat.  

Seconded everything everyone else said.  You said he could win you back with some changes? honey, men don't change.  Women don't really change either, for that matter.  If he told you, honest opinion aside, that he didn't want to be with you because of your waistline? don't even give him the chance.  In 10 years, it'll be 'oh, you're getting lines in your face' or 'you have a single grey hair' - it'll always be something with this guy.. forget him.

Go on with your sexy self and find someone deserving of your time and attention!

oh, but to answer your actual question? A year of yoga gave me curves where I didn't have anybefore - it's not significant, but I used to look like a (large) pole, straight up and down.  I've started adding some weight lifting to my routine, and that should help tone up things - but yoga has definetly improved my core strength and improved my overall body lines.

I found the other day my Yoga instructor is 60!.  She looks 40, maybe 45, tops.