Why the waiting?

Hubby and I think we are pregnant again (third time).  We had a 9 week miscarriage in July and a 4.5 week miscarriage in October.  I'm only 4.5 weeks now but definitely feel pregnant (nausea, dizzy, sore breasts, everything).  I've also had several positive HPTs.  We have no children yet.

After the July miscarriage, our doctor said to call him "the second you find out" so that he could order blood work, do early ultrasounds, the works.  He'd also want to make sure my progesterone was within the normal range (that may have been the problem with pregnancy #1). 

Well, we called him late last week and he told us he'd prefer I wait two weeks to get blood work, preferably four.  He said he'd rather see if I got my period during that time and that doing blood work might "force his hand" to do something he shouldn't.  Does anyone have any idea what he might be talking about?  He was pretty insistent on us waiting.

Hubby is calling today to insist (politely) on bloodwork.  We have had wonderful experiences with this doctor in the past, so we believe he must have some reason for waiting, but cannot figure out what.

Any thoughts?

Did your hubby talk to the doctor? I'm interested to see what he said.

He talked to the doctor last night (this doc is great at returning messages).  My hubby said I was a worrier (way to throw me under the bus, dear!) and the doc offered a blood test "for our peace of mind".  Hubby said he didn't even have to ask; it was just offered.

I'm still not sure what the waiting is for.  If I need progestone, I can't see that he can withhold it (or that he would).  For me, this is all about validating that something is going on in my body and getting a medical record in case this doesn't work out.  And, if I miscarry again, I want proof I was actually pregnant.

So think of me...I'll be getting a poke at 4pm Eastern today! 

Oh, a question: I was a bit nauseated this weekend, but not so much yesterday or today.  Still dizzy, though.  Is it common for the nausea to come and go?  To have a great day where you feel awesome, even though the day before wasn't great?

Glad to hear your doctor is getting you in this afternoon. Congratulations and good luck!

It is possible and actually common for the nausea to come and go. Most of my days during my second pregnancy were full of nausea with a few sporadic days of feeling normal until my 10th week. I felt great during my first pregnancy with only a handful of days where I felt sick.

Let us know how it goes!

I just wanted to answer your question about feeling really nauseous one day and then not so bad the next - that's common! I ate B-Natal lollies during my pregnancy and took B vitamin supplements because of how ferocious my morning sickness was. Depending on your diet, you may naturally get more B vitamin in one day and not feel as nauseous the next. Also, as you get used to the hormones, some of the symptoms decrease or become more commonplace to you - and less overly noticeable. I hope you are doing well!

Well, it's official...I am pregnant.  Hooray!  My HCG was 1752, which their charts show as in the 3-4 week range.  (Given my LMP, I think I'm almost 5 weeks.)  I have a repeat blood test today to check the HCG again and to get a progesterone level.

We are happy but cautious.  We know things can go wrong and just want to enjoy whatever time we have.  The doctor is going to stay on top of things, so we feel that we're getting taken care of.

mrsliberty07, thanks for the B vitamin information.  I didn't know that before.  I'll have to keep track and see if it helps.  I'm still a little "gaggy", but I already barely notice the dizziness.  (Can't help but notice the fatigue and sore breasts; I want to wear a sports bra in the shower!)  Since the real sickness isn't usually supposed to come until around six weeks, I'm enjoying the relative normalcy of how I feel now.

Yay! Congratulations! I can completely understand being cautious. Just take it one day at a time! It sounds like you're in good hands with your doctor and everyone's on the same page.

Keep us updated!

Good luck!

I had extremely low progesterone at the start of pregnancy #2.  6 is the number the lab came back with.  At 5 weeks pregnant it should have been in the 20's.  Anyway, I had major bleeding with that pregnancy.  I don't know if the subchoreonic hemorrhage and the low progesterone were related, but I was put on progesterone supplements, took them through the first trimester and carried to term. 

I had another blood test yesterday afternoon.  My doc called late last night (not sure he sleeps) to let us know my HCG more than doubled.  It was up to 3740 (48 hours exactly after the first test).  So that's a good sign.

They also ran a progesterone test, but that's not back yet.  I'll let you know.

My progesterone was 29.2; a good number. That test was repeated yesterday and I'm guessing it will still be okay.

How do I stop obsessing?  I'm paranoid that I'll see blood every time I use the bathroom.  For those of you who've had miscarriages, did you ever feel like your current pregnancy was too good to be true?  I have this feeling that I need to prepare for the worst and that maybe I'll never have a child.  I wish I was Sleeping Beauty and could wake up just in time for my 10 week appointment.

Awesome! Congratulations!

I have not had a miscarriage however I did get the feeling that pregnancy was too good to be true both times. I always thought something bad would happen because I wasn't lucky enought to have a perfect pregnancy. It must be very hard for you and you're a strong person for making it through each day.

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My progesterone was 29.2; a good number. That test was repeated yesterday and I'm guessing it will still be okay.

How do I stop obsessing?  I'm paranoid that I'll see blood every time I use the bathroom.  For those of you who've had miscarriages, did you ever feel like your current pregnancy was too good to be true?  I have this feeling that I need to prepare for the worst and that maybe I'll never have a child.  I wish I was Sleeping Beauty and could wake up just in time for my 10 week appointment.

 You don't really stop obsessing. I lost identical twin girls at 24 weeks pregnant. It was heartbreaking. Then I got pregant again with a little girl. I was an emotional wreck! I gained so much weight from emotional eating.  I was so afraid that something would go wrong and I would lose her too! I didn't though, and she is almost nine months old now. There was one thing that I did that helped me thru. The days were not so bad because my three other young children kept me very busy. But if I had a moment of panic, I would just stop, breathe, and tell myself that all I had to do was make it thru this moment, then this day. I would tell myself not to worry about tomorrow, just right now because I can't control tomorrow. Then, at night when I would lay there, that is when I would usually feel all the anxiety and worry. I would tell myself that "I made it through this day, now all I have to do is make it through this night, and thats the easy part because I sleep through it.....I can worry about tomorrow, tomorrow." That way, I would try to will myself not to worry about tomorrow and the next day and the next. I would just take each block of time and get through it. And I did. You can too! Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Thank you, lulufit.  I've been using that mantra ("I will make it through today") for a couple of days and it really does work. 

My progesterone did go down a little (but only to 28.7); my doc said that can be a lab variation, so there is no need to worry.  I am still within the normal range and all my numbers are looking good.

Thanks to everyone for your support!