Just walking the dog

Ok, I'm really stinkin' irritated at my best friend's husband...

I walk my dog just about 5 times a week at night.  Last night I went to my best friend's house, who lives about a 1/2 mile away...  We went walking together and talked talked talked like women do.  We finally tired out and when I got back it was 1hr 35min later.  OK.  Well I get a text from her husband saying "Do you like girls, and would you bleep Tabby"  I reply "Umm, I'm bi  yes but sorry your wife is not my type".  Well I'm pretty confused at this point because of the random text, I am friends with him too, but the question was way out of line.  This morning I get a call from her saying they had a huge fight because HE thinks me and her are sleeping together.  WTH!  I'm just trying to get in some flippin' cardio and catch up with my best friend.  How the heck am I supposed to handle that??  I am faithful to my husband... sorry jerk!

Sounds like you won't be visiting that friend again until she gets her husband back into line?....  What a strange man.  Bit pervy if you ask me.  Probably has unsavoury personal habits...

Handle this one with care. I had something happen to a friend of mine very simmarly to this. Her best friends husband called her husband and got him convinced they were sleeping together.  It ultimatly ended both marrages. 

If you haven't told your husband already, tell him.  A pre-emptive strike in situations like this help.  And the next time her husband says anything to you.  Say to him, "No, but I bet if I were you would want to watch and thats why your asking."  Hes either going to get so flustered he never says anything to you again, or admit it.   Just make sure your friend knows what you are up to.  If you can get it done through an email or text where she can read it, even better. 

Definitely talk to your husband if you haven't yet.  Just like, "Omg XXXx's husband is SUCH a creeper, you won't even believe this!"  So that he's on your side, and can help back you up to this other guy. 

I think there are 2 options here, well 3.

1. he wants to watch

2. he's a homophobe and doesn't want her to be friends with you, and so he's just using this to make a fight and hoping she chooses him.

3.  combo of 1 and 2 makes it seem more real in his mind, like if he thinks about it enough, it could really happen *eyeroll* so it's making him feel more threatened.

Hopefully he'll just get over it, and if he doesn't I'd say just ignore anything he sends you.  Or call him and tell him to bleep off.  I wouldn't ditch your friend, you might be one of the few caring ears she has about problems like this.

i would:

• ignore any contact from friends huband. you told him you were bi why?
• tell my friend i cant come around for a while.
• tell my husband what happened.
• let him handle friends hubby.

once upon a time, i had a coworkers hubby start telling me he fantasized about me while she was 10 feet away from us - we were celebrating their 3yo girls birthday at a park.

i could never tell her but never went by her house again (i used to pass on all my kid stuff to her). jerk!

Discuss this with your husband so there is no blow back.  After that, it's not your problem and you can laugh in his face. 

It is, however, your friend's problem, because she is living with an abusive man.  Isolating the woman is a step to control and happens in long term abuse.  I feel sorry for her.