Does he just want a BC?

Despite being female, I don't normally get over-analytical about men, and meeting them, and everything that goes along with it (yes, the joys of dating).  I've become cynical, unfortunately.  

So I met this guy at a BAR - yes, at a bar (I know that skews the whole story, trust me!) and we hung out all night, his friends and mine, we had a good time, whatever.  I don't recall that he ever hinted that we sleep together that night.  But then we didn't get into any good conversation, either.  We exchanged numbers, he said he would call (I always disregard the call promise, of course) but he actually did call last night.  But it was at 11:45 PM.

I was half asleep but picked up.  He said he was on his way home.  I cut it short and explained that I was pretty much going to sleep and he said he will call tomorrow.

I also actually got a text from him at 12:30 AM on Monday night saying that he would call me tomorrow.  Strange but whatever.I was telling someone here at work that I was surprised he called, and she immediately thought it was for a BC.

After I was thinking about it, I thought, she's probably right!

We'll see if he calls tonight and if so, where the conversation goes (it usually turns pretty quickly, then then its the buh-bye from me).

But for now, I just wanted to get a quick poll.  Is 11:45 BC hour?  I thought it was a little early, and also considering it was a week night...

...and that was me being 'not analytical' LOL.

What's wrong if it is a BC? Why do girls always pretend they don't want it as much as us guys?

Its not wrong, its just not what I want at this time.

There's nothing wrong with a BC ;p...as long as we know that's what it is.  We get very analytical and just want confirmation that's the expectation.

However....I don't really think that's what it is.  It looks like he just wants to get to know you. 

11:45 is early for some people...and you have no idea of his schedule.  Chat with him and you'll get a better since of his expectations.

Tell him you're a virgin and you're saving yourself for marriage.  If he still wants to chill with you, then you know it's not a BC.

^LOL...that'll really scare him off!  hehe

Whats a BC?

booty call...

ohhh ... o.O

Good idea, JJ.  As long as its not in person, cause I could not keep a straight face!

I wouldnt totally rule it out as a booty call just yet...  give it a few days, and if he ONLY calls you late at night, somethings wrong... *unless he works night shift...

Anyway...  I've found that in most cases if a guy calls you late, or doesnt call you at all, but text messates you without having an actual conversation...  usually theres something wrong...

Also, if he doesnt allow you to come over to his house or apartment, then you can probably bet hes living with a girl too... sorry, I'm thinking outloud here...  my I've experienced these things....

Good for you for looking out for youself...but give him a little credit, and the benefit of the doubt for right now...

how old are you guys/him? the older the guy, the more he should know about appropriate times to call new women by, especially not knowing their sleep schedules... young guys don't actually always think these things through. older guys who actually want more than sex should consider these factors in. and a text at 12:30 is, to me, suspicious.

really, the way i see it is if a guy isn't hoping that while calling you for the 1st time(s) he also just might get lucky, he would probably call at a more reasonable hour.

of course, nothing at all wrong with a bc. but if it's not what you're looking for, then i can totally understand wanting to weed these guys out of your life. nothing wrong with that, either.

by the way, i get pretty analytical, sorry!

i think it depends on what kind of guy he is... some people are just night people, and theythink (esp. in this cellular texting age) that its fine to just call whenever.  i mean, its totally possible that he is just not conscious of that fact that some peole go to bed at a reasonable hour if he doesnt.  the only way youd know is that if he was calling to hang out at that time, yes, i mean there is not much to do that late at night.  if he was calling to make plans for a different time, then its not a BC.  

Come on girls!  It definitely sounds like a BC.  I agree with JJ, except don't necessarily say you're a virgin, just say you're saving yourself for marriage.  I used to do that all the time to see if the guy just wanted to sex.  Just bring it up casually in a conversation.  You will definitely know what his intentions are by his reaction.

i don't know if i would say that you're saving it till marriage. listen, if a guy said that to me, i would probably not want to stick around. it doesn't mean that i'm interested in a bc, just means that i don't wanna not have sex in a relationship. so if this guy feels the same way, he also might not stick around, and what if he turned out to be 'the one', or something? and you never had the chance to find out cause you were playing him this way? that would suck! i agree, it does sound like he may just want some... but you'll be able to tell soon enough.

you'll know it's a booty call when he calls and says "hey, police academy 9 is on USA tonight, wanna come over and watch?
"

LOL Kyle....  so true

Jaclyn you are too good.  Good call on those things!  Also the guy who has a carseat in his car and swears its for his sister's kid.  Always turns out that its his kid.  Weird, huh? 

Yeah Kyle, I've learned that "lets watch a movie" means "lets be somewhere where we can take our clothes off."  Haha!  Not that there's anything wrong with that... in fact, I've been dying to see Police Academy 9.  Ha!

So he did call last night at 7, and asked if I wanted to meet up for 'a drink or two.'  So I met up with him, we had a good time talking at a bar he frequents, he introduced me to a few people that were there, too.  It was actually a good vibe all around.  He's 35.  I'm 25.  He does have a weird schedule.  I stayed for 3 drinks and then went home.  He called a couple times to make sure I made it home OK!

Thanks for the words guys, I like to get an outsider's opinion on things because I tend to be super guarded.  I wouldn't know a good or bad thing if it hit me in the face, because I think its all bad.  Sad, I know.

awww, he sounds like a good guy, glad to hear it.. have fun!

I just was wonder why he called ACOUPLE times to see it you made it home? Were you not home the first time or did he just keep calling you?   Also I think most people should realize not everyone is on their  schedule if they work nights or weird shifts, the rest of the world has to get up to work.    Hope all works out, and have fun.