Why do you Want to be Skinny?

there are people on this site who want to be thin or super skinny even when they're already in shape or "normal" in the teen community.

why?

can you feel excess fat in unwanted places?

would you feel more attractive/confidant if you were thinner?  if so, then you're just losing fat to be more appealing to others?

like a couple of others who have posted, i have an interest in modeling, and although i'm already skinny, calorie counter helps me maintain that.. now i just have to start exercising for muscle tone...

I play a lot of sports right now and i need the endurance and stamina. So i am gaining muscle right now, i just do not want to gain fat weight because it will slow me down.

I also want more self-confidence. 

To be honest I'm not a 100% sure why I'm still trying to lose weight, other then the time old classic "Because i can".
It's become a habit, a hobby.
Not dieting would seem ... strange.

To begin with, i wanted to lose weight so that people would look at me instead of my sister.
I'm now 20lbs lighter then my sister and honestly, she's still the one getting every ones admiration so :] my work seems pointless now.
I like my body more now, but I'm not thrilled with it..
Chances are I'll never be content with my weight though...

:] I'm going to talk to my doc about it next time i go.

"I want to be the smallest size in the store when I go shopping for clothes. "

My question is... why?  I mean, I totally understand wanting to lose weight to look better, feel better, gain confidence, whatever.  But to be the smallest size in the store?  Who cares?  Does it make you a stronger, prettier, more likeable, or better person?  Does anyone else SEE that size tag, or know what size you wear?  No.  Why should being a small number equate to your self-worth?  They make all different sizes of clothing because there are all different sizes of people.  If you are a size 7 and healthy, as opposed to a size 3 or 0, then what does it matter if you're not the smallest size in the store?

Sorry for the rant, and I really don't mean any disrespect.  I'm just honestly wondering.

This question intrigued me. A lot.

Why do I want to be skinny?

I decided to think about it. Really think.

I would love to say, it's for me, it's so I can be healthier, and feel wonderful.

No. Truth be told, I just want to be more comfortable, I want to be able to sit Indian style for more than ten minutes and not have my feet go numb because my legs are so .. fat.  I want to stop crying when I shop for jeans. I want to stop having to suck it in and wear loose shirts just so I don't feel like a fatty letting her gut hang out. I want my mom to stop saying "If you'd just lose a little weight, you would be such a pretty girl." I want to stop telling myself that I'm fat. I want to look in the mirror and be like .. you look cute today. Nice.

I want the man I love, whom I have not seen seven months,  to not move on to smaller and better things. The kind of guy he is, the kind of girls he's used to.. This right here is the top for me. I feel so lucky he even gives me the time of day..I just want it to last. I know.. we should love you for you, but seriously people..it's the 21st century, my own parents don't even love me for me. 

 So. There you have it. 

I want to be skinny to fit it, to shop well, and to keep my guy happy.

I don't want to be the envy of every girl, I don't want to go into modeling, I don't want to have the BEST bill of health in the country. I want this for purely selfish reasons, at least..that's what it feels like.

I just can't look like this forever. I can't be jealous of every girl I see. I can't deal with honestly believing that people think I'm fat, and that's all they think, that they can't see past it.

Anyways..that's my take. 

"If you'd just lose a little weight, you would be such a pretty girl." That's harsh! oh my god.
Parents comments are the worst.

well I do hella ab work and I have a 6 pack but its under a layer of fat.....yeah not to complicated haha

well i thought that if i got skinnier i would be more attactive and happier with myself. but boy was i wrong. it was the total opposite!! guys stopped looking at me nn i icolated myself from all my friends. n i thought if i got skinny i could show off my body but instead i wore baggy clothes to hide my body cuz i was so thin!! i lookd discusting!

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Original Post by lighterrose:

its not a trap. its what i think. how is wanting to be happier with myself a trap?

My point is that simply being super skinny doesn't change who you are, and chances are it won't really make you happy. You might find yourself feeling even worse.

Based on what you have in your profile, you already ARE skinny. Your goal is unrealistic, and consistent with someone who has an eating disorder. In fact, you even admit you have one.

 Off topic, but dude, your Oct 2007 and Mar 2008 photos are IDENTICAL.

Funny, isn't it?

I put on 15 lbs and almost no one notices. It just shows I didn't need to lose those extra 15 lbs in the first place. 

 

Um, yeah. If you're referring to the pics currently on your profile, sorry man, but you can't pull the wool over my eyes--those are the same picture.

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"If you'd just lose a little weight, you would be such a pretty girl." That's harsh! oh my god.
Parents comments are the worst.

 Very true, and it certainly doesn't help that my mother is an itsy bitsy toothpick, she's never had to try, not a bit.

 The first time she ever said that to me..I could only stare at her in complete awe, I just .. didn't get it.

I have an ED that sprouted from depression what can i say. It sucks but I still haven't lost any weight I always end up gaining it back on the weekends after a good week. I'm sort of a social outcast so I wanted something that others would envy and since being very skinny is 'in' regardless of the fact that these stick figures look unhealthy I want that so I can feel that there's something I have that the populars don't. I know, I'm my own psychologist lol. Realizing the problem doesn't help it. And I want to fit into my old jeans.

Well to myself, im just plain FAT. Um the reasons I wanna be skinny is for the three B's

1)Boys

2)Bikini

3) Beat bitches who hate on me because im bigger

Particularly when I wear Abercrombie and stuff

i'm an effing cow.

never saw myself as thin and want to.

this isn't to attract guys, i do that already
this isn't because girls hate me because i'm bigger, they hate me because i carry myself better than they can

i want to lose the weight to feel better about myself and look even better in my bikini. i want to be comfortable when people pick me up and  not think that i'm breaking their spines because i'm too heavy. i want to be happy and already associated that with losing weight.

Honestly, it's a vanity thing. I used to be slender in high school and now that I've almost finished my first year at university and gotten out of an unhealthy cycle of bad boyfriends, I've gained ten pounds. My clothes don't fit right, I don't look the same and I've even developed cellulite. I'm very much in the healthy range of my BMI but I'm naturally much thinner if only I could get myself out of my rut of emotional eating and inconsistent workouts. 

I don't thinking losing weight will make me happier in a grander sense, but it will favour a much easier trip to clothing stores when I'm not two different sizes on top and bottom when I used to be just one (I gain in my lower areas).

After having 2 kids, I am dying to get into a bikini and feel comfortable this summer. I am average weight for my height and age but I feel I need to tone up a little more. Im hoping the baby stomach goes away...

i actually have gained 10 lbs. i started off almost 2 years ago from this summer at about 138lbs. and im 5'7. i was 16. however i do always remember being on some sort of diet all throughout high school... it never actually was calorie counting until then. i started dropping weight, because i cut my calories too low, sometimes only 300 cals a day at one point and by january i was at 110lbs. i play tennis and badminton and through all of this started running. then i dropped to 105lbs by june and looked disgusting. it was a train. i just thought to myself the whole time, " oh just 5 more lbs." it was not worth the fact that i was cold all the time, the floor would hurt when i would sit on it cause of my bones, i had no energy, i looked gross and became so obsessed with my calories and exercise i had lost basically most of my friends and boyfriend. that summer when i finally saw my 105 self in a bikini in pics of facebook i cried. since then i've gained 10 lbs, started eating healthier, i still workout like a maniac but i eat to make up for it, have more energy than ever before. it is hard some days especially when you've equated losing weight with success and gaining it with failure for so long, so there are days once in a while where the scale will jump two pounds due to water retention and i will freak out. right now its a mental battle to gain more muscle and be stronger, but i never want to go back to the way i was...


ever.

Well...I can feel excess fat and I would feel more attractive if I was thinner, but I also have an eating disorder so I don't know if I'm the one to base your judgment off of.

There's a really good website somewhere in another thread called 'height and weight' pictures. It shows that being skinny is not all to do with statistics or even appearance. There was a 5'1 or 5'0 lady who was like, 95lbs or something, but she didn't LOOK that thin. Her structure is probably really petite or something...she may have even been 4'11, im not sure...

But there was this 160 lb girl who was like 5'6 but had a really toned belly. There was this woman (5'9 and 190lbs) and she looked really pretty! Some of the skinny chicks (and dudes!!) looked really plain and quite a few looked sad and were wearing dark clothes. I could be wrong though, but it was just an observation.

It's just a thought. I mean, since I was fourteen, I was so upset by the whole body image thing, all I could think was "I hate my body so much! Why can't I have someone else's body/be thinner??"

But the TRUTH? We're not going to be magically more interesting as people if we lose weight. It can be so hard to accept yourself, but maybe we just need to accept that acceptance of yourself is hard, we may never be able to do it...Being skinny might give you a buzz, or you might think, ooh other girls will look at me with envy!! But seriously, what kind of person would that make you then? Think about THAT skinny girl, the one who's always there, just being skinny and knowing it, she's doing it because she wants to feel better herself! She's insecure, not you.

People, in general, like a girl (or guy!) who makes them laugh, who is sweet, who helps them out, who cares about other people's thoughts or feelings. Everyone's got a gift! People like seeing other people's gifts! So if you're a good dancer, a good singer, artist, mathematician, etc. then that's better than being skinny!

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Original Post by lighterrose:

its not a trap. its what i think. how is wanting to be happier with myself a trap?

My point is that simply being super skinny doesn't change who you are, and chances are it won't really make you happy. You might find yourself feeling even worse.

Based on what you have in your profile, you already ARE skinny. Your goal is unrealistic, and consistent with someone who has an eating disorder. In fact, you even admit you have one.

 Off topic, but dude, your Oct 2007 and Mar 2008 photos are IDENTICAL.

Funny, isn't it?

I put on 15 lbs and almost no one notices. It just shows I didn't need to lose those extra 15 lbs in the first place. 

 

Um, yeah. If you're referring to the pics currently on your profile, sorry man, but you can't pull the wool over my eyes--those are the same picture.

I just looked it over again. Somehow my gallery got messed up. I will fix it.

 

I don't think the word 'skinny' is the best way to put it. I hate that word so much. It made my life a disaster. For me I want to be HEALTHIER and have a long happy life. I'm not impressing anyone. If I'm happy the way I am that's all that matters.