Why do you Want to be Skinny?

there are people on this site who want to be thin or super skinny even when they're already in shape or "normal" in the teen community.

why?

can you feel excess fat in unwanted places?

would you feel more attractive/confidant if you were thinner?  if so, then you're just losing fat to be more appealing to others?

I'm 5'1" and 123 pounds, the BMI says I'm normal, but I want to get down to at least 115 by June. Main reason is because I've always been slightly overweight my entire life and I decided to lose weight with my boyfriend.

And I've also made it my top new year's resolution. I've also always wanted to slip into a bikini and feel confident that I look and feel fabulous.

i can feel 'excess fat.'

wether it actually is, or wether its just normal i have no idea, i dont go round pulling at peoples tummies. but, i dont like the way i am. when i was lighter i was happier. this i know for fact. i would like to be there again.

i am not sure my body is meant to be like that, but its not underweight for my height, and it made me happy as hell.

- Being fat is like carrying around a backpack all the time. I'm weighed down.

- There are unnecessary flabby areas of me that don't look good in clothes, or naked.

- Why would I want to be overweight and give people a potential reason to judge me?

- The thinner I get, the less I hate my body.

so my bones can stick out i dunno??!?!

no what do u want to loose weight for.

the ''excess fat" my ED likes to tell me is there, physically i can feel it, but i weight fine, i look healthy happy and sexy, what else matters?

even when i was underweigh i could feel the flab, so it's clearly just ME i can feel.

underweight may look alright bundled up in clothes (because ur too cold to wear a bikini) but does it make you feel alive, healthy and is it good for you long term??

i define 'skinny' as just that...skinny, which shouldnt be taken as a positive thing

So i can look in the mirror and feel i've accomplished something.

It's not really skinny I'm worried about I would like to lose maybe five pounds or so and tone up because I really don't want to end up like most of my family unhealthy and overweight all I'm looking for is to feel healthy and happy C:

of course its for other people if you shine the light on it that way. but face it, everyone wants to be thin. you feel better about yourself, you gain more confidence, and genereally you DO look better. you can fight it, but it is just as much for yourself as for others. some people just cant be happy being average its just how they are.

Original Post by colleen1002003:

of course its for other people if you shine the light on it that way. but face it, everyone wants to be thin. you feel better about yourself, you gain more confidence, and genereally you DO look better. you can fight it, but it is just as much for yourself as for others. some people just cant be happy being average its just how they are.

 why change yourself for other people? sure, thats your issue if you mentally can't deal with the fact that there are some idiots out there willing to pick on you. But it's just that? if people you love are going to judge you on looks, do they truely love you, i think thats the message we're trying to get across here, i realise there are people out there that feel a need to be thin just to satisfy others - but they are the people who's minds we are trying to ease. It's not 'just how they are' they simply aren't strong enough to deal with bullies and are trapped and suffering in their own sub-conscience and being unhealthy because of it.

Only sometimes do you look better thin, it depends on how thin. there's a healthy thin, which shouldnt be called, thin it's just healthy. then there's thin as in starve yourself thin - bad, bad, bad. finally theres naturally thin which is a very small population of people who the rest of people envy - for a stupid pathetic reason. you need to fight it! and only do things for yourself

that last sentance i found rather triggering actually, i'm one of the people strong enough to accept my healthy body despite what others say, after a well fought ED.

"Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity."

http://www.who.int/about/definition/en/print. html

Your only happy if your healthy, not if your average or not, and i'd like to correct you and say there is no such thing as average.

(ahh i feel alot better now )

I’ve been reading through all of these and I don’t understand that people are trying to say it’s not true that being thinner would make people happy. I genuinely believe that when I lose the weight I will be happier. I always used to weigh 98lbs, and was so happy – I wore whatever I wanted, wasn’t conscious of excess fat, or not being able to wear tight tops etc because I was scared I looked fat in them – and now, at 112lbs I’m not happy. I want to get back to being happy, which is being thinner. It’s not because people are telling me to, it’s because I want to – surely that’s perfectly logical? And if I do that through eating less and healthier, and exercising more – then I will be thinner, healthier and fitter… win win situation…

I think for me it's about being proportional. I'm only 4'10 and I feel like I don't look as short if i'm in good shape. I think when you weigh alot it's more noticeable if you are short. I also love clothes and they look better when i'm fit, and I live in miami so obviously I want to not be insecure in my bathing suits and stuff

the thing is I'm a weird fat-skinny. like if you see me i seem like skinny or normal but my stomach has alot of fat (WARNING: TMI) and I have some rolls of fat that considering i look skinny its suprising (the rolls, i mean) to people, i think. I guess I mostly want to tone and lose that fat that is really obvious when I'm in a bikini and stuff. I want to be healthy though, and I wouldnt want to lose too much because...um...I want to keep my boobs lol!

basically: it would give me more confidence

Original Post by littlebee182:

I think for me it's about being proportional. I'm only 4'10 and I feel like I don't look as short if i'm in good shape. I think when you weigh alot it's more noticeable if you are short. I also love clothes and they look better when i'm fit, and I live in miami so obviously I want to not be insecure in my bathing suits and stuff

the thing is I'm a weird fat-skinny. like if you see me i seem like skinny or normal but my stomach has alot of fat (WARNING: TMI) and I have some rolls of fat that considering i look skinny its suprising (the rolls, i mean) to people, i think. I guess I mostly want to tone and lose that fat that is really obvious when I'm in a bikini and stuff. I want to be healthy though, and I wouldnt want to lose too much because...um...I want to keep my boobs lol!

basically: it would give me more confidence

 confidence around people that judge you?!??

I want to lose weight because I know it will make me more confident.

I've read a load of the replies here, and the general idea that people have seems to be that losing weight won't make you happier, or change you as a person - but I know it will. I want to go into the performing arts, but I'm having trouble with my confidence. I always feel self-conscious when I go to do anything. I know that if I lose weight I'll be happier with what I look like, and won't worry about that when I try to get up on stage or whatever.

This isn't changing 'for other people'. This is changing so I don't worry about what other people think - because I do at the moment. I know it shouldn't matter what others think, but it does make me less happier to get up there and do my thing. So losing a bit of weight is definitely for me, in this instance.

Being super skinny is  not attractive many people find it gross and they are always looking at you. I the last year i had an ED which sent me to the hospital now and in recovery almost a year it took me to do the damage ED to me and my family. Yes, and guys can also get eating disorders its not just females and i am at a healthy weight and i am trying to maintain it and not let ED take a hold of me. Everyday i repear to myself that being thin or being a extremly low body eright is not normal and i am happy to say that people i am proud of who i am.

a little crazy, but i think life would be so much easier.

with me, its kind of a way of thinking im gonna sort my life out. like, i can blame things going wrong on my weight. so once im at the right weight and toned and that, im gonna be so much more confident and things will just go my way :)