I wasnt going to share this but i think it may help me

This is kind of embarrassing to say but it seems like everyone on here is really nice and helpful so here it goes. Sence i had my son 10 months ago i have been extremely paranoid to leave my house. Im just so scared something bad will happen while im outside. I was never like that before my pregnancy. Its probably the main reason i havent lost any weight, im too scared to walk to the gym its only 2 streets away, i dont drive. I know if i actually got out i would lose the weight. all i do is stay home i do no activity at all. I live with my parents and they help me out with my son. I dont know what to do. I wanna go to the gym or just go for a walk to get some cardio in but im just too scared to leave the house. Ive tried working out in the house but i never stick to it. Any advice would be greatly appriciated :)

Well start with talking with your parents about this problem, then maybe seek professional help.

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i think its called agoraphobia (?).   its actually pretty common, although that doesnt lessen the sadness of experiencing it.  dont be embarrassed though.  perhaps you may want to see a professional, or it might just even be a phase.

Maybe it is also because you are associating going out with exercisizing, which can lead to a lot of anxiety? Try to do something fun to get yourself moving at first, and by all means, include friends and family, the larger the group, the better, because you will feel extra safe with loved ones around. I`m not talking a triathlon here, just maybe walk over to an acquaintance`s place at first, then to the grocery store, to a movie etc. Gradually work your way up to the point that you only go out with a close friend, and finally by yourself. Eventually the idea of moving around won`t scare you so much.

Also, have you considered getting a dog? It would be super fun to walk it around; plus, if it`s a bigger dog, I`m pretty sure it`d be ideal for protecting you, so nothing/nobody harms you.

Good luck!

Go for professional help.............there is help available and you don't want to keep living like that.  Do this for you but for your son also.  I noticed your "name" is Lithium.  If that has significance you know you must go for help!

Good luck!

Your body and brain go through a major assault when you give birth.  Hormonal changes are rife.  Fatigue is common.  When you become responsible for the safety of a new-born baby you can find you're more conscious of dangers to yourself and to your baby. Post-natal depression is sadly quite common and often goes undetected.  It's absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about..

Do talk to your parents.  They must have noticed that you've never gone out?  Maybe they're waiting for you to raise the subject.  Could you ask mum to come with you and baby for a walk around the block with the pushchair... see if being with someone you trust helps.   The longer you avoid leaving the house the more anxious you could become.... that's a feature of phobias, they're cumulative.  So if you can't see a way through, ask your doctor to pay you a house-call and talk to them about the problem as well. 

Hi, sweetie! This is a sign of post-partum depression, so you need to talk to your doctor, not just your parents. It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of--between the hormone shifts and lack of sleep, I am really surprised that MOST women do not have some element of this. I had it and didn't realize it for a really long time, longer than you, so I know what I'm talking about! I always had anxiety issues but they sky-rocketed after my first child, and now I thank God every day (literally) for the meds that let me live a normal life again. I obviously can't diagnose you over the web and am not a medical doctor, but my personal and life experience lead me to believe you are suffering from PPD and so I'm emboldened to speak up (as have others)

You are not alone and I am so, so glad you reached out! Take a deep breath (actually, take lots of 'em because they really do help!) and ask your parents to help you schedule an appointment with your OB or family doctor. Tell the person who schedules the appointment that you are having high anxiety and have been unable to leave the house since the birth of your child. While this isn't an "emergency," it would not be right for them to make you wait weeks for an appointment, and if they know you suspect you have PPD, they will get you in as soon as possible (if they don't, get another doctor!).

All my best to you and please let us know how it goes. And congratulations on the birth of your child!

I agree with everyone else. Please seek professional help and talk to your paresnts about it. You'd be surprised how much talking can help.

In the mean time to help with your workouts (which will probably make you feel better) get some home DVD workouts. The biggest loser ones are fabulous and maybe that will help. Think of it as baby steps and getting your workouts in.

good luck to you and please let us know how it goes.

My ex-wife had serious post-partum depression after the birth of both of our children. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and it's encouraging that you had the courage to mention it here. That means you've already recognized that there's a problem.

Tell your doctor about it ASAP and he can help you. It helped my ex-wife.

I am glad you shared that because I had a baby 6 months ago and have been experiencing a lot of anxiety. I always think something is going to happen and have been scared to death about death and me not being here for my baby. A lot of things have been happening in my life or to people around me and in my small community and whenever I hear something it just gets worse. I was thinking it could have something to do with PPD but wasn't sure. I think that everything just makes it more intense. I am actually thinking about seeing someone myself if this keeps up much longer. I was thinking maybe it was just winter to but I will wait a while and if it keeps up I am going to get some professional help.

Its OK =)

I had some phobias (which describes exactly what youre talking about).  I was fearful of spiders and heights, and while your situation may be more extreme, I worked wiht other people who had symptoms similiar to yours. 

It may have to do with postpardum, or it could possibly have to do with a little bit of irrational fear.  I studied psychology and I work in the field.  I recommmend going to see a Psychologist(not a Psychriatrist, unless he or she thinks so.)  and explain to her how you are feeling.  A regular doctor will only be able to give you a refferral.

let me know if you'd like to talk.

Best wishes!

Kae.

 

 

Original Post by lithium322:

This is kind of embarrassing to say but it seems like everyone on here is really nice and helpful so here it goes. Sence i had my son 10 months ago i have been extremely paranoid to leave my house. Im just so scared something bad will happen while im outside. I was never like that before my pregnancy. Its probably the main reason i havent lost any weight, im too scared to walk to the gym its only 2 streets away, i dont drive. I know if i actually got out i would lose the weight. all i do is stay home i do no activity at all. I live with my parents and they help me out with my son. I dont know what to do. I wanna go to the gym or just go for a walk to get some cardio in but im just too scared to leave the house. Ive tried working out in the house but i never stick to it. Any advice would be greatly appriciated :)