what a waste of money

This morning at the gym there was a woman with one of the personal trainers near me as I was doing some arm & ab stuff.  Everything he tried to show her and asked her to do she had an excuse of why she couldn't do it (her shoulder was hurt, she tripped the other day...) I mean literally all but 3 things she shot down.  Why would you pay money for someone to teach you how to do exercises to meet your goals and then refuse to do them?  She also spent most of the time talking about all of the ice cream she ate the day before and asking how she could add protein to her diet.

bored

needs attention

just wants a hot buff guy in her service

???

Same reason people come on here and ask questions, and then have an excuse for why the answers won't work or don't apply to them.

They want the easy answer - so that they can have their ice cream and skip the lunges, and still lose weight.

You'd think that if you are paying money for the advice, you'd be more likely to listen, but sadly, that's typically not enough of an incentive.

So when she met the other ladies for lunch afterward she could tell them about how she just got done working out with her personal trainer.

Original Post by trhawley:

So when she met the other ladies for lunch afterward she could tell them about how she just got done working out with her personal trainer.

And therefore justify the cheeseburger and fries.

... My godmum did that a lot - lunch out after her Weight Watcher's meeting.

without sounding like a complete dick, why were you even listening?? its her money let her spend it the way she wants.....its things like this that make people self conscious about even trying to get into shape, instead of complaining about something that doesn't even concern you how about having a little bit of compassion, maybe she is hurt......and yeah i know i did sound like a dick, but reread what you wrote, just as rude.......

I didn't see it as rude -- you didn't tell her off to her face or call her out by name or anything. I wonder about people's motivations all the time. As long as we both realize it's at the bottom of it none of our business, and that there are always variables we can't be aware of, there's nothing wrong with musing about some anonymous stranger's motivations for what we perceive as bizarre behavior.

If you were, like, pointing to the specific woman and telling the story to your friends, then it would certainly be rude, but as an anonymized story on a message board it's just marvelling at the mysteries of human nature. If that's rude I'm in trouble, because that's what 75% of my mental activity consists of...

Original Post by corduroyfirekills3:

I didn't see it as rude -- you didn't tell her off to her face or call her out by name or anything. I wonder about people's motivations all the time. As long as we both realize it's at the bottom of it none of our business, and that there are always variables we can't be aware of, there's nothing wrong with musing about some anonymous stranger's motivations for what we perceive as bizarre behavior.

If you were, like, pointing to the specific woman and telling the story to your friends, then it would certainly be rude, but as an anonymized story on a message board it's just marvelling at the mysteries of human nature. If that's rude I'm in trouble, because that's what 75% of my mental activity consists of...

Same. :)

Original Post by skillz794:

without Sounding like a complete dick, why were you even listening?? its her money let her spend it the way she wants.....its things like this that make people self conscious about even trying to get into shape, instead of complaining about something that doesn't even concern you how about having a little bit of compassion, maybe she is hurt......and yeah i know i did sound like a dick, but reread what you wrote, just as rude.......

 Edited for accuracy.

Appreciate your honesty.

She wasn't rude, just stating what she over heard. Sometimes it's hard not to listen if someone is standing right beside you.

nice bedit igz haha

Original Post by skillz794:

without sounding like a complete dick, why were you even listening?? its her money let her spend it the way she wants.....its things like this that make people self conscious about even trying to get into shape, instead of complaining about something that doesn't even concern you how about having a little bit of compassion, maybe she is hurt......and yeah i know i did sound like a dick, but reread what you wrote, just as rude.......

 well it was the two of them and me in a completely empty group fitness room.  I was on the opposite side of the room but she was basically yelling and it was echoing through the whole room because it was so empty.  Trust me, I was not eaves dropping.   It was actually irritating me that I could hear her and would have much rathered work out in peace (which was why I went in there in the first place).

Edit: Sorry, I had to come back and add to my post because the post by skillz really pissed me off. 

Skillz - your post was way more rude than mine and way more rude than anything I did at the gym.  I absolutely didn't say anything that would elude to me being uncompassionate or even to the fact that I was judging her.  And by no means was I complaining about her.  I don't give a rat's ass about if this woman wastes her money on a trainer or whether she gets the full benefit  - I was simply stating I thought she wasted her money.  I stated that she had an excuse for every exercise, which she did. And her session was a total waste of money.  You're correct in saying that maybe she was really hurt.  Maybe she was hurt, which is very likely, but if she was hurt and really wanted to benefit from a personal trainer she would have rescheduled when she could actually do exercises.  I think you need to re-read my post and then re-read yours.  You clearly read my post and then interpreted it to mean what you wanted it to mean. You interpreted it as judgmental... I assume because you're judgmental as evidenced by you response.  And yes, I am judging you here. 

Isn't it obvious?  Skillz was that woman!!

^ Ha!

its cool if you judge me, from reading you original post that's what you do..

"I don't give a rat's ass about if this woman wastes her money on a trainer or whether she gets the full benefit  - I was simply stating I thought she wasted her money.  I stated that she had an excuse for every exercise, which she did. And her session was a total waste of money.at...."

those are your exact words from your 2nd post.........

if you dont care why state that she wasted her money at all?!?! and what does it matter to you if she reschedules or not again "her" money not yours.... turn up your head phones or go to where you cant hear her....alot of people read these posts and are already uncomfortable, thinking that they are constantly being judged, and posts like this just reassure them that it is indeed happening.

i guess we can respectfully....agree to disagree.....but the next time you are experiencing something painful or uncomfortable i  hope someone is standing there judging you......

wow, take a pill skillz

I agree with skillz about this, but I am not attacking the OP.

I personally work hard to not be judgemental of anyone because I hate when people judge me [negatively]. If I was in your position and witnessed it, I would think that the woman is just afraid of trying, she's out of shape, she's not used to the burn or struggles that you start out with. Maybe she was afraid she'd embarass herself in front of strangers and/or the trainer? So she tried to make herself less vulnerable by making an excuse for why she can't do it instead of admitting, it was too difficult for her.

Because I've been in and still am in, her shoes. We all have been in her shoes at some point. I have trouble power-walking because I get SO out of breath fast, and I turn red and get sweaty after about 5 minutes. I use the excuse that my knees hurt sometimes so I can stop... when in fact my knees don't start hurting till I'm doing it 30-45 mins. Sure, I could stop because I couldn't deal with the breathing, heart racing, sweating and red face but that would admit defeat, and a lot of people have trouble doing that.

And people waste their money on stuff all of the time. I think it's a waste of money to get a manicure, pedicure, hair done. But people do this, and honestly, I really don't care if they do. Plus, they'll have nice feet, haha. Expensive cars are a waste of money to me, a car that gets me from point A to point B is all I need, but if someone drove a ferrari, that is their prerogative.

I bet going home, that woman felt good about herself for seeing the trainer and the fact she made an effort (no matter how little) is something a lot of people don't even do.

Original Post by skillz794:

turn up your head phones or go to where you cant hear her....alot of people read these posts and are already uncomfortable, thinking that they are constantly being judged, and posts like this just reassure them that it is indeed happening.

i guess we can respectfully....agree to disagree.....but the next time you are experiencing something painful or uncomfortable i  hope someone is standing there judging you......

Ugggghhhh,

You are so perfect.   I love & adore you and aspire to be like you.  I am thankful that I now have a role model so I can strive to be a better person.  You're such a sweetheart, thank you for hoping that I go through public humiliation.  It truly is the proof that you are kind & compassionate.

Side note: If anyone made this woman feel uncomfortable it was the "fanstastic" trainer she hired... He was shooting her "I don't believe a word you're saying" looks the entire time and bascially at one point, as I was walking out of the room, it looked like he rolled his eyes at her when she was talking about diet & nutrition.  So cpt, maybe you're right. Maybe she was embarassed to try because the trainer was treating her like that. 

Hey skillz- read through all the posts.  Mine are the some of the least judgmental on here.  The responses cast way more judgment than I did.  I have a feeling this touched a nerve with you because you're insecure about your own self, but its cool I won't look through you posts and point out how frequently you're judgmental & rude to posters.