Weekend = Family = Food Help?

I'm 18 and I started college in the fall. The college I go to is only 1.5 hours away from my house and so I live with my aunt during the week and go home on the weekend. At my Aunt's house I can be in control of what I eat, so I lose weight and am very happy with myself.

Then I go home on the weekend and I have to eat whatever my mom serves. The fact that she IS a good cook doesn't help. My family does tend to eat somewhat healthily (healthy food but not the right portions from the right groups) but they eat a lot and they eat it fast, when I am with them I tend to eat the same way. So I gain back all the weight on the weekend and get depressed cause I did it again. I just gained 5lbs. being home for 3 weeks of christmas/between quarters break. So now I'm 5'6" and 157.

Another problem is that I have absolutely no support from my family in trying to lose weight. My dad is overweight and doesn't care at all about my weight problems and only a little about his. My Mom is about 30lbs lighter than me and she talks about how she wants to lose weight but when I tell her I want to lose weight she says stuff like "you're not overweight, you're fine" "you don't need to lose weight" "I don't want you to lose weight to be like everybody else, peer pressure ect..." It's so annoying!!! Some of my siblings are slightly overweight and they don't care they just joke around and call me fat like them. Why would I want to be different? I have one sister who is the tall and skinny body type and she just calls me fat to be mean.

Sorry, I know I'm ranting, but what can I do to combat these horrible weekends and breaks?

You're ultimately responsible for choosing what you eat.  It is more difficult when someone else is doing the cooking but you really can't blame your family or use them as an excuse for your choices.....  Very simply (and this applies wherever you are), you have to watch your own portion-sizes, eat at a sensible speed and you have to decide when to stop eating.  Say 'no thanks' to the second portion or the dessert, for example.   If possible, put more veg and salad on the plate and fewer potatoes or less pasta.  If there's too much on the plate leave some behind rather than eating it all .... a polite 'I've had enough thanks' should be acceptable.  You don't have to talk about being on a diet (in fact, avoid it) and you don't need them to change their ways in order to change yours. 

And the weekends are a good time to get moving....  After breakfast, take yourself out of the house and find an activity to do.  Take a packed lunch with you (you can be in control of the contents) and then if your evening meal is a little heavy, the energy you've burned up will offset it.

Finally.... don't make the mistake of eating next to nothing all week at your aunt's house.   If you do and then eat more than normal at the weekend all that happens is that you slow down your metabolism meaning your weekend meals are more likely to be stored as fat. 

Thanks for reminding me that I am ultimately in control. It's always so easy to blame someone else but it's my responsibility, I need to exersize self-control. Thanks for the advice too!

yup, you control what you put in your mouth.

however, there is also alot of pressure involved when it comes to some families. sometimes its not just about insufficient self control, or eating more because u "dont want to be impolite" or because you dont what them to comment on your eating habbits. sometimes it can get pretty close to force-feeding, or being shunned by not eating as much as they want you to.

but when that is not the case, then keep in mind that it could have been, and enjoy your self control

Now I think I see the whole picture of what's going on with me and my family. Sometimes it is just a matter of my control but other times it is like force feeding, my mom will say everyone has to have a bowl of soup and if I try to refuse it becomes a big fight. That's what it was like for me today at lunch but I was able to sneak out of it.