I now weigh more than my husband

How about you, ladies?

I have reached this depressing milestone after giving birth 7 weeks ago. I outweigh my husband by about 7 pound but still. Yeah, he's only about 3 inches taller than me but still. I can't fit into his clothes either. It's just not a great feeling.

I don't have a husband anymore, but when I did have a husband I weighed more than him post-partum also.  Don't be too hard on yourself.  You gained the weight during pregnancy, and there's no changing that fact.  Just make the necessary changes going forward and you'll get back down to your pre-pregnancy weight.  Just remember to MAKE the time for you; which is so hard to do with a little one needing you so frequently. 

Pre-pregnancy, I was 167 (@ 5'10") and during my 9th month pregnant I weighed 220.  After I had my son, I got down to 190 within the first month, but "let myself go" at some point after that and got all the way up to 230 POST-pregnancy.  Oy vay.  Through the years after I had my son (he's 6 now), I lost that weight little by little, and am now lower than my pre-pregnancy weight. 

I remember my 5 year old neice telling me (at one month post-partum) that "wives should be smaller than husbands." That was just one of the many realizations I went through to finally motivate myself enough to lose the baby weight!

There are a lot of wives bigger than their husbands, so don't beat yourself up because of that one small fact.  Try to distance yourself from that comparison; HE didn't just have a baby and HIS body didn't and isn't dealing with the hormonal flucuations that you are, so you're compaing apples to oranges.  It's not a contest between you and him who can be smaller, it's about being happy with the size you are.  So if you're not happy, work hard, lose the weight and get to a point where you are happy : ) Good luck!

beckster3000,

Well I guess that's my point, I'm not happy with myself right now.

Good to see you made so much progress after the baby weight That is encouraging to me. I know I just had a baby but I am frustrated.

I remember those depressing times myself. I out weighed my hubby a few years back, and I was so ashamed to go places with him. Knowing I was heavier than him by 30 something pounds. Now! He weighs more than me. It took a lot of work... But you are going to get there.

Just remember that you had a baby. That weight is going to FALL right off of you..

I know how you feel.  I have an 8 1/2 month old baby.  She came three weeks early, thank goodneess, because I would have weighed more than my hubby if she hadn't.  I gained 52 lbs through the pregnancy and still have about 12 lbs to lose.  I lost 20 lbs in the first month (8.3 of that was the baby:) and then 10 lbs over the next 3 months.  I got stuck there for about 3 months until I quit nursing.  I refuse to buy new clothes an I have a vacation coming up first week of February so I aim to have most of that 12 lbs left off by then.

Keep in mind that your hormones are still a little out of whack and will be for some time, especially if you are breastfeeding.  You didn't gain the weight overnight, so you won't lose it overnight.  It's really hard to stop eating for two when you have made a habit of eating what you want for close to a year.  Give yourself a break and enjoy your new baby!

Thanks, ladies.

I am breastfeeding exclusively. I didn't expect to be so hungry either...I am way more hungry than when I was preg. It's crazy.

Good luck.  I finally lost all the baby weight when my kid was about 8 months old, but I wasn't dieting specifically since I was nursing also.  Keep in mind how much the milk weighs, especially when your kid is around 4 months old and drinking a ton of milk.  It's interesting to weigh yourself before and after feedings.

I hate realizing that I've surpassed anyone weight-wise (unless they're dieting too!)  and though I'm not old enough to marry, (well technically I am, but it wouldn't be a good idea!)  I've weighed more than my MOM since I was about 15.  It was depressing because she's older and works hard to maintain her body, and I'm a teen and can't do the same while it's still 'easy' for me?!  Luckily in the last few months I've dropped below her, though I'd never tell her that lol!

I may not be able to relate as much as some of the other girls here because I haven't given birth, but I DO way more than my boyfriend of 7 years and its the worst feeling in the world...

It's even more horrific when skinnier "sexier" girls look at my boyfriend when I'm right next to him HOLDING HIS HAND!

But I know we can do it, I'm here for  ya sista!!!

I stopped weighing myself about 2 weeks before I gave birth, but that that point I weighed around 195 lbs (a 55 lb weight gain!). I was probably atleast 200 when I was admitted to the hospital. I'm 5 weeks postpartum and I still weigh 175. My husband only weighs 150! I feel like such a lard, his tshirts and pajama pants don't even fit me!