Your Weight Compared to Your Significant others

I am a guy and underweight at the moment, but a friend of mine told me that she likes it when her significant other is bigger, meaning more fat and muscle, then she is.  She said that its a security thing.  Which makes some sense to me, kind of depressing at the same time.  So I was just curious as to what most women think, do you prefer your boyfriend/husband to be bigger then you?  Smaller then you?  Does it really matter? 

I really would appreciate some in depth reasoning behind your answers, thanks. 

Well, no matter what either of us weighs at any given time, my hubby is always going to be bigger than me.  Just by sheer scale, he's 7 inches taller, with a vary large frame.  The actual bone in his forearm is at least twice as thick as mine.

Practically speaking, we need bit of a weight difference between us.  We kiteboard and share gear.  So, the ~50 lb weight difference between us ensures we're always on different size kites so we only need one of each size.

As for guys in general... I like them on the slimmer side.  All of my ex-boyfriends have been able to squeeze into my jeans.  :)  I don't need to be protected, and I like the thin streamlined look.

My boyfriend definately has a bigger upper body and arms. He is not perfectly cut, but I love his body. For some reason, guys with very little body fat... well, I want something to hug. :)

I need a guy who weighs more than me and is wider than me. I am 6'0". Although I'm thin, my height makes me feel unfeminine sometimes. Then again I'm probably a rare case...

My husband and I are both 5 '8".  I weigh 220 pounds (down from 240) and he weighs 178.  When we got married I weighed 198 pounds, the smallest I have ever been is 175, while he was 165 at that time. 

I prefer lean lanky men.  I was married to a man much taller and muscular before.  I always fall back to lean.

i prefer larger in every way, more muscular, fatter, taller, everything. i'm tiny so it makes me feel protected and dainty!!

i prefer men to be bigger than me i'm 5"7 weigh 147-8 he is 6" weighs 210

I have no issues dating guys thinner than me as long as I don't look like a tanker car next to him.

Right now both my husband and I need to lose some weight. We tend to gain and lose together on the same cycle so that's handy at least. I'm 5'7", he's 6'1" so he weights a lot more than me but we're about at the same fatness level. Isn't that cute?

My bfs have always been smaller than me, mainly because I am large but not attracted to large men. Currently I am 245 and my bf is 195 or so....I really look forward to the day I weigh less than him!

I'm 5'3" and right now at 240lbs, my boyfriend is 6'5" and about 280.  I like to feel protected, I like knowing if a weirdo jumped out and tried to attack me that my boyfriend could easily solve that issue.  I dunno for me it's the safety factor, the more weight I lose the more (as my boyfriend puts it) pocket sized I'm becoming, I like feeling tiny next to him!

I like my bfs to be bigger and taller than me. (im 5'2) Fatter, more muscular, whatever. I dont care if they're ripped or not, just bigger than me.

I'm sorry but I keep snickers at the "protected" feeling. I am the family pit bull. I mean I'm sure my husband at 6'1" and over 200lbs can take care of himself but I'm the one running rabid around our community. Shocking, I know.

I should add, if he gets mad enough LOOK OUT. Someone almost caused a really bad accident when my new driver son was behind the wheel. My husband blew a head gasket because this guy just cut him off to steal a pump at a busy gas station. The guy ran into Thortons and hid for 15 minutes while we couldn't leave until he came back out and my husband could torture him some more.

I'm 5'7 and my man is 6'2. 

And no matter what we do in our lives, dieting or not, he always weighs exactly 100 pounds more than me.

I like it that way! Need a big guy in my life to balance me out.

Edit: In your answer to your comment about being underweight.. I've never really had a long term relationship with someone who weighed less than me. I think I just feel more comfortable like that... it keeps me from feeling fat myself.

me: 5'6" 170lbs.

him: 6' 135 lbs.

I want to switch our weights >.>'...and yet, I always end up with thin, lean tall men. It's probably personal preference, and I'll never end up with someone largely muscular...

Don't get down on yourself, there are women who like small men, just as there are women who like large men!

I think most women prefer a man who weighs more only because they don't feel so threatened. In society women are usually showed as being small little things next to a big man.

Doesn't always have to be that way though. I mean, you fall in love with who you do no matter what they weigh. I just think it's a self conscious thing with women they feel awkward weighing more then a *man* who are supposedly supposed to weigh more.

I wouldn't give up hope. If you meet a nice girl who likes you for you it's not going to matter what you weigh. Just don't discuss it. I certainly hope weight wouldn't be a main factor in your relationships anyway!

Love you for the way God made you. It's all you can do.

To the OP: you better gain some weight by increasing your calories.

One of the only types of women that have little to no problem dating a guy smaller than them are the females that are vastly overweight. Mainly because if they do choose to date someone bigger than them, then they would either have to date a bodybuilder or morbidly obese person which are not that big of catches.

Geez fortius. Sometimes you crack me up, sometimes you are just plain mean.

You need to improve your diction. There is no such thing as "one of the only". If you meant "one of the types", well yes if you are into typing people, some women date smaller men because they are larger than what they are attracted to, like me, soooo glad I fit into a nice neat type. How awesome. If you meant the ONLY only, well you are sorely mistaken, women (as everyone can see above) like different men for different reasons, small and large. So you can go suck an egg.

Was that too harsh? I don't think I've gone ouside the guidelines....

Original Post by victoriagirl:

 So you can go suck an egg.

Was that too harsh? I don't think I've gone ouside the guidelines....

 Nah, sucking an egg is hardly harsh..NOW..if you told him to go suck a d.....errr nevermind. Then you would have been against the rules.

 I'm just barely 5'2 and 103-105lbs small frame. I don't run into many men that have smaller builds than myself so it's never been an issue. I wouldn't be interested in a man smaller than me though. I wouldn't be interested in someone with the same stats either. I  also wouldn't be interested in a man that was over-weight. Someone smaller than me, the same size as me, or over weight would be a turn off as far as I'm concerned.

 The only time my weight has shifted was when carrying my daughter. Water retention isn't a joke. :) However, I lost all of my baby before my daughters first birthday. I wouldn't want to be with someone that didn't take care of themselves. I'd want someone that seemingly stronger than me. Someone that's seemingly more intelligent even. Someone that's at my level or possibly beyond it. I don't ever want to be with someone that tells me their ' goal/dream ' and I think. " oooh. You can't do that... maybe you should try something a little less.... Maybe you should aim for a smaller dream/goal! You can't achieve that!"

I wouldn't be interested in someone I wasn't attracted to from the start. They have to be eye candy as far as I'm concerned... Kinda something like me... Lol! It's not attractive to me when a man lacks physical strength. I don't consider my stats height/weight to be of any strength. That isn't always a concern coming from the other side of the spectrum. Guys may not care if a female is strong... I care that a guy is strong though! That's just boils down to my personal taste. I have a big ego. <3 I consider myself a pretty big deal so find it appealing when a man thinks he's a big deal too. It's not always arrogance as far as I'm concerned. Sometimes someone has a big ego because they're confident. That's what I like/looked for in a man.

Be Confident! To value yourself and understand that your well-being is important is sexy. I've only ever dated military men which can amount to pure arrogance.  Been there done that. >_< Arrogance isn't sexy once you realize they can't back it up! Lol! However, It is nice/sexy when someone is showing self-confidence with reason,imho. I found someone within the military pond that rightfully should be proud. I was done with military men at the time because it was all arrogance. They couldn't actually back anything up, ect. I  was luckily setup with a different branch of the military,Lol!  Honorable is sexy/attractive to me.

I don't know how many men just barely nicking 5'2 and barely a hundred pounds that would have that. I don't know many overweight guys that would have that either. I consider it attractive when people consider themselve the alpha or da bomb, ect. I don't have the time or desire to build up someone's ego. I don't want to be with someone I have to assure/build. I also don't want to be with someone that doesn't rightfully consider themselves such in my eyes.

My husband 6' tall between 170-180lbs.

Original Post by enchantingimage:

 I'm just barely 5'2 and 103-105lbs small frame. I don't run into many men that have smaller builds than myself so it's never been an issue. I wouldn't be interested in a man smaller than me though.

 

You'd have to date a 3rd grader to date a smaller guy than you

Original Post by spirochete:

Original Post by enchantingimage:

 I'm just barely 5'2 and 103-105lbs small frame. I don't run into many men that have smaller builds than myself so it's never been an issue. I wouldn't be interested in a man smaller than me though.

 

You'd have to date a 3rd grader to date a smaller guy than you

 Exactly! That's why it's never been an issue for me. I've never met a grown man of my stats... Much less a grown man smaller than me. :) Once a guy hits puberty he should be beyond my stats,Lol. I've been the same stats since 4th grade. Height,weight,shoe size, bra size, ect. I was just already done growing at that point. There was a boy that I teased for being shorter than me in 3rd grade. We were bestest friends! :)  Anyhow: I met him again when we were teenagers and he was 6'3! Now... I'm teased. =-P Good times.

The OP is probably huge as far as I'm concerned. Even smaller/shorter than average men are actually quite big strapping guys,imo.

Only if some people here were as passionate about their exercise and dieting as they are about their "diction." lmao