too much weight gain!!!

Help, I'm 21 weeks pregnant, I've gained 25 pounds and feel just awful. My belly looks good but my bottom is huge. I'm only 5'2 so just a little extra weight shows up dramatically. My legs have also gained alot, so much that my pregnancy pants are getting too tight. They are also full of cellulite now. this is my 3rd child, the other two wern't this bad. I excersise when I can but working 12hour graveyards makes it difficult at times. I'm eating very well and drinking lots of water.

My biggest problem is my husband won't touch me anymore. He says it just because we have both been on opposite shifts and knows how tired I am. I don't even get dressed in front of him anymore. I'm not sure what to do. 

It sounds like there are two people you should have a heart-to-heart with: your husband and your doctor. Tell them both how you feel! If your doctor hasn't mentioned your weight gain being excessive then I wouldn't worry about it (I know, easier said than done!). It may be that you'll gain all your weight in the second trimester and put on hardly any in the third. I'm 5'2" and have gained a total of 35 pounds so I know how you feel. Maybe your doctor can suggest ways to limit or control your weight gain. I find that no matter how well I eat, I still seem to pack on the pounds so it must just be how my body is.

My husband is very sensitive and would do something like what your husband has. It sounds, though, like you're hinting that it's because of your weight gain that he doesn't want to touch you and is just using the work shifts as an excuse. Ask him! Let him know that you'd like to continute your physical relationship but feel like he's brushing you off and you'd like to know why.

I wish I had some advice... I have gained 17 pounds in 17 weeks now. I'm so shocked. It's all in my belly but it's heart breaking. My third also, and like you, my other two weren't like this. Is this our body's way of saying "I know what I'm doing and I'm just doing it earlier" this time around? I go to the doc on Tuesday and I definitely plan on asking about this!!

I have gained 15 pounds so far and 9 of it was last month alone!  Sometimes things just happen. You can't let yourself get discouraged...:)

As for the hubby thing I agree with Bier talk to him.  That is the only way that you two are going to get through this. 

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BUT--My husband and I have been talking alot about sex here as of late.  I have so much extra "fluid" lol (TMI I know) that it doesn't feel very good for either of us.  So instead of fretting about it we do more oral.  (that is when I feel up to it) my sex drive defanitly has decreased.  It is just weird to me anymore...I feel huge and when our bellys rub...ughhh it turns me off. haha and I can only handle so much of the doggie style!

I totally lose interest in intimacy while pregnant. Maybe men go through the same thing sometimes. I still think it's worth talking to him about.

Hello -

I might be a little late on this post (I see it was started in September) but I'm looking for support also. I'm 23 weeks, and I've gained 31 pounds so far. I'm really, really upset with myself over it! This is also my third child. I had lost a TON of weight before I got pregnant again, and I was weighing in at 147 when I got pregnant (142 was my lowest weight) and I'm 5'10. Now, I weigh 178 at 23 weeks. UGH!

I'm trying to not gain so much here on out, but it's so hard. I was so disciplined and lost 50 pounds in about 7 months and kept it off, then I get pregnant and my eating habits went down the tube (but I needed to up my calories anyway, I just did it TOO much!)

With my first I gained 61 pounds (starting weight was 165, ending was 226)

With my second I gained 46 pounds (starting weight was 172, ending was 216)

I don't want to end up in the 200's again :(