My Weight Loss :)

Hiya, I'm new here. ^.^

I certainly don't want to come across as sounding... "Egotistical" or anything, but there was just something I was curious about. :]

I have some pictures of what I used to look like before I lost weight, and some pictures of how I look currently, and I was wondering whether anyone would be able to tell me how much I appear to weigh? And also, whether they see a dramatic difference?

Comparison 1:
Photo A
Photo B

Comparison 2:
Photo A
Photo B

I was at that heavier weight at around April, and have maintained that smaller frame since mid-June.

Just so you know, as I think you should have a right to know really, I do suffer from eating disorders (Anorexia & Bulimia), however I am currently getting help. :) It's hard, but I'm really trying... Also, the thing is that although I was diagnosed with Anorexia, I still find it completely impossible to believe that I could be called Anorexic as I always imagined someone with such an illness to be extremely thin. :/

Thanks for your responses! (If I get any! ;P)

What are you trying to acheive by asking these questions?  What anyone thinks you weigh is completely irrelevant.  Stand on some scales..... If you weigh more, you're heavier.  If you weigh less, you're lighter.  If you're underweight (BMI <19) you're underweight.  If you're overweight (BMI >25) you're overweight.   

Regardless of what you weigh or how you look or what anyone here thinks, if your doctor's professional opinion is that you're suffering from an eating disorder (a mental condition incidentally), listen to that opinion and work with the advice they're giving you.  

You don't have to be a walking skeleton to have an eating disorder sweety... and to me you looked beautiful in the first ('heavier') weight and too thin and bony in the second, but I'm not even going to try to guess what weight you actually are/were because it's irrelevant.

Thanks for your responses. :)

gi-jane:
I'm not exactly trying to "achieve" anything by asking these questions - I was simply curious, which does sound... Slightly strange... However, I seem to have this problem with the fact that although people say that I'm thin, I find it hard believing them. The fact is, those I've asked are people close to me (family, best friend, ex-boyfriend, etc.) and although I appreciate the fact that due to them being close, I should trust them enough to know they're telling the truth, there's also the likelihood that they could simply be saying what they think I would like to hear. I asked this because I wanted to get someone's unbiased opinion. :)

kajikit:
Thanks for your honesty. ^.^

You look sick and too thin in the B pictures.  Are you sure you are getting the right kind of help?  Are you visiting a nutritionist, counselor and doctor?  What about a therapist?

Your arms, they remind me of a concentration camp victim.

Hi cerilae,

I'm sorry for some of the mean posts here.  I find that often people don't truly understand people with Eating Disorders although over eating is an ED itself.

I also think that many women are trying to get down to half of what you WERE, so they have different interests in mind.

I have to personally say that you actually did look better when you were heavier.  Very feminine and curvy.  I'm sure your guy friends agree too;)

HOWEVER THAT IS ONLY MY OPINION which should not matter to you.  No one's opinion should matter.

......as long as you are healthy and treating your body well.

I see a dramatic difference.  Do you not, OP?

I'm glad to hear you are getting help for the ED.

I could tell you had an eating disorder from the pics, which I looked at before finishing your post. It's really obvious. I was so glad to see in the rest of your post that you were acknowledging it, because at first I thought you might be in denial (and that was the reason for your question and pics).

Take good care of yourself. 

bettypage4:
A concentration camp victim? Hmm. I suppose there are nicer ways you could have put that, but I appreciate the fact that you were honest. :)
As you may or may not have noticed, in my post I said that I was "currently" getting help, thus meaning that I've only recently started seeking help. I also stated that I have "maintained that smaller frame since mid-June". That implies that I have not lost any weight for a month, does it not? If I were in any danger of relapsing, I would be losing weight. It's important to understand that someone who has an Eating Disorder can't simply go from eating essentially nothing to going back to 3 meals a day. :) So yes, in answer to your question, I am positive I am getting the right kind of help. For the time being, it's important that I maintain my weight - in the future, I'll focus on trying to put weight on.

maryyy:
It's okay - I expected some mean posts. ;P Well, I've been going to boarding school for the past 2 years and not many of my guy friends really saw my body properly since I'd lost the weight (they'd seen it before when I was larger, obviously, due to the fact that there were weekend activities and discos, etc.) as once everyone's exams had finished, they would go home and there weren't any discos on... but we had a Leaver's Ball at the end of June to say goodbye to everyone and such, and I was complimented by a bunch of guys (most of which weren't even my friends) who said that I was apparently looking better than ever, amongst other stuff.
Ew, I sound so self-centered... >_< Sorry, I don't want to, really... But I'm trying to say that my guy friends seemingly didn't agree that I looked better, but it might just be because of my age, etc.

Once again, thanks everyone for your replies. ^_^

I think that you looked perfect in the first photos.  You appear to be incredibly thin in the second photos and I noticed a dramatic difference.  Best of luck in your recovery.  You have a BeAuTiFul body and I think you will turn more heads at the "heavier" weight. 

I am assuming that the person who is currently helping you with Anorexia and Bulimia would not be okay with these pictures or your questions.  No on on this forum is going to be able to convince you of something you are unable to convince yourself of.  It does not matter what other think you appear to weigh, it actually matters what you believe you appear to weigh.  When someone says you look great but you look in the mirror and still feel fat then it will not matter how many people you as to judge your body.  One day you are going to need to look in the mirror and say, " that looks good".   Right now you look in the mirror and say, "that looks fat but everyone else thinks I look good, maybe they are lying."  I hope you continue to seek help and I hope you achieve all you want to achieve.  Part of Anorexia and Bulimia is dealing with the distorted view of yourself in the mirror.  You must continue to dig within yourself and continue to seek help. 

you got my point...

I think you look fantastic in the B photos! You look a teeny bit flabby in the A photos, not like you needed to lose weight, but you needed to gain muscle. In the B photos you look lean. You've got scupted model legs when in the A pics they were a bit heavy around the calves.

Don't lose another pound though baby, you got it right where you are.

Why is everyone hating?

Original Post by bettypage4:

Original Post by cerilae:

bettypage4:
A concentration camp victim? Hmm. I suppose there are nicer ways you could have put that, but I appreciate the fact that you were honest. :)
As you may or may not have noticed, in my post I said that I was "currently" getting help, thus meaning that I've only recently started seeking help. I also stated that I have "maintained that smaller frame since mid-June". That implies that I have not lost any weight for a month, does it not? If I were in any danger of relapsing, I would be losing weight. It's important to understand that someone who has an Eating Disorder can't simply go from eating essentially nothing to going back to 3 meals a day. :) So yes, in answer to your question, I am positive I am getting the right kind of help. For the time being, it's important that I maintain my weight - in the future, I'll focus on trying to put weight on.

If you don't want to know, then don't ask. I said what I mean.

I didn't say I don't want to know, and I appreciate the fact that you're telling me the truth, as I said. :) It just seemed as though you didn't understand that I'd maintained my weight as you questioned as to whether I was getting the right help - surely it's good that I'm not losing any weight, is it not? And at least I've accepted the fact that I have an Eating Disorder. At least I'm not still in the stages of denial. :) Although I don't see why you had to say my arms remind you of a "concentration camp victim". :P I know you may think that they look disgusting, but there's a difference between being honest and just hurting someone.

julynw:
I know that no one on this forum would be able to convince me of something I'm unable of, although I am beginning to look into the mirror and tell myself that I need to start eating more and I don't need to lose anymore weight. :)

 

I saw someone else post their pictures and ask how much everyone thought they weighed, and they didn't seem to get such negative feedback. I saw their post and I've always thought that I look a lot heavier than I actually weigh, and I wanted to see whether this was actually the case. I apologise if I've offended anyone. :( And lizwobble, thank you very much for being understanding. I certainly won't lose anymore weight. :)

i don't think you offended anyone--i just think everyone wants to make sure you're being the healthiest you can be.

part of your disorder is just that--you feel that you look heavier than you are; and i think the reason people are concerned about your post as opposed to someone else who asked the same question is that they're afraid you're just indulging your disorder rather than thinking about it in a more "just wondering" kind of way someone who isn't dealing with and ED is.

I've said it before and will again: BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) happens in many, many people. But those of us with disordered eating tendencies have a special talent for it. 

You need to learn and accept that what you see in the mirror is NOT what the rest of the world sees.  Maybe the concentration camp comment was harsh, but keep in mind that it's a conditioned reaction to seeing someone who is skin and bones.  The protruding collar bone?  Not pretty.  Clear indication you're in trouble--and knowing you went from a lovely healthy body to THAT in 2 months makes it even more scary.   I know you can't see it, but you looked MUCH better in the "before" shots---you had a shape that has now morphed into that of a pre-pubescent boy.  I assume this is not the look you're attempting to achieve.

Just so you know, we can have many kinds of eating disorders that do not manifest into skinniness.  In all my years with an ED, I sure as **** was never skinny, never had the "benefits" of the disorder....but I've got all the "benefits" of the bad health stuff, I can tell you that much!

Whatever.  Yes, you can see a difference between your sets of pictures. Yes, you're too thin.  Yes, I think that was what you wanted to hear to feed the voice inside you that tells you to eat less.  Yes, I think that if you're lying about getting help you are in real trouble, because YES you are sick. 

If you're not lying and are getting help, I'll bust out my pom poms for you.  Truly.  That said, posting seemingly innocuous questions looking for reinforcement is not a healthy way to slide into recovery.  I'll bet my ass your therapist would be less than pleased.

Healthy is beautiful, period.  Find your beauty in a healthy body, and stop worrying about what boys at a dance tell you.  None of them will be around when your body rebels against you, I promise.  Love yourself enough to look at the mirror with honest eyes...the sooner, the better.

 

i think you look wonderful in the b pictures! not too bony at all!

as many people here are very overweight, i think they tend to see most smaller people as all being too thin.

your outfit in the b pictures is mega cute as well.

Original Post by argylesweater:

as many people here are very overweight, i think they tend to see most smaller people as all being too thin.

your outfit in the b pictures is mega cute as well.

I came back to edit something and HAD to respond to this.

I personally wear a size 8, sweetie. Oh yeah, and the remains of 15 years of an eating disorder. So no, I'm not very overweight nor do I "see all smaller people as being too thin"---I see people who have BONES PROTRUDING FROM THEIR BODIES AS TOO THIN. How much more offensive could you possibly be? Yeah, all us fatsos around here think those who are thin are all too thin----we're jealous, right? Please. Thanks so much for the generalization, really. Incredibly healthy.

Original Post by musicismydestiny:

Original Post by argylesweater:

 

as many people here are very overweight, i think they tend to see most smaller people as all being too thin.

your outfit in the b pictures is mega cute as well.

I came back to edit something and HAD to respond to this.

I personally wear a size 8, sweetie. Oh yeah, and the remains of 15 years of an eating disorder. So no, I'm not very overweight nor do I "see all smaller people as being too thin"---I see people who have BONES PROTRUDING FROM THEIR BODIES AS TOO THIN. How much more offensive could you possibly be? Yeah, all us fatsos around here think those who are thin are all too thin----we're jealous, right? Please. Thanks so much for the generalization, really. Incredibly healthy.

 

so you don't fall under the "many" category. i still think that a lot of people here do think that way. clearly, sweetie, i wasn't speaking about you and your size 8 body specifically :)

i don't see how it's offensive? you're the one who used the word fatsos. and if you look around, there are a lot of posts bitching about people who may already be at a healthy weight looking to lose more. i'm not saying it's jealousy, i'm just saying that people see the world/other people differently based on their appearance and past experiences. i happen to think this girl looks fine and doesn't deserve comments comparing her to a concentration camp victim.

oh, also some people tend to have larger bones than others. i have a huge ribcage which has always stuck out no matter how overweight i was. that's an awful determinant.

your comment reeks over oversensitivity.

You are totally right, I DID use the words I did. BUT, you introduced the sentiment very clearly---there is NO guessing what you're getting at there in the way it was phrased. And you most certainly never elaborated about people seeing the world differently, which would have been a more grown up way to express what you are saying and may have eliminated the assumption that you were being snotty. Which one of us is wrong? I'd go with both, personally. Make generalizations, you're bound to get many general people pointing it out.  Life lesson for you :)  You think she looks fine, great, you're 100% entitled, obviously. Put it into "I statement" words and don't assume that because people are concerned with her health it's with devious or ignorant tendencies.

If she had posted JUST the second set of shots, I can promise you people would react differently. I personally would still be a bit concerned, but the fact that the difference in the two sets in just two months is SO drastic and strikingly scary. We were provided with photos, we got to SEE visuals. Sorry, I stand by my oversensitive, perhaps a little too educated in the reality of eating disorders where you might not be self. If your friend was flu-like ill and ended up this thin in two months from the same starting point (which was lovely to begin with!), you'd send her bony behind right to the doctor. Why would you (and I mean you in the royal way) encourage someone who is PURPOSELY having the same results?

Then again, what do I know?

The outfit in B is cute, but it hides the size of the OP's waist, which makes it hard - for me - to judge if she is too small. 

She admits to having a problem, she is obviously much smaller than in the A pics, in a very short amount of time, and without much muscle tone.  Those facts alone make me think that she isn't "wonderful".

I do agree that some people have a skewed idea of a healthy weight, but it's on both sides of the spectrum.  Some think under a healthy BMI looks great.  Others err on the other side.