How much weight had you lost when people started noticing?

I've just lost 20 pounds [gone from 180-160] mostly over the summer and NO ONE has noticed. Not even my friends, or barely any of my family.
The only person who has said anything was my grandma. and she said "wow susan you look like you've lost weight! not much though".
before I wore size 14, now I can fit in some size 8s. Its not like I wear clothes that would hide my weight loss either, besides some old jeans that are baggy.

This is really pissing me off, isn't 20 kind of a lot... how can no one have noticed?
How much weight had you lost when people started noticing?

Depending on how tall you are, what your bone structure is, and what exactly the weight was (fat, muscle, water), losing twenty pounds is going to look different on everyone.

If you're really tall, have a large bone structure, or were seriously overweight/obese before, people may not notice so much.

But losing twenty pounds is a great accomplishment.  Be proud! 

People are wrapped up in their own affairs, and they may have stayed silent to avoid hurting your feelings.  Some people are sensitive/embarressed about their weight, and may be hurt by compliments like "you look so much better!"

Try to subtly bring it up:  "I feel so much better now that I've started to eat healthier",  "It's hard to imagine I once got out of breath climbing these stairs"...

I had the same issue. I lost 20lbs going from 201 to 181 and nobody had said anything. But i was reassured by some great people on here that people had noticed but they probably didn't know what to say. I also got reassured that what i had done was a great achievement. So I'm passing on their sentiments to you. You have achieved something really good and you should be proud!! :-)

Also I lost a further 0.4 of a lb and then suddenly everyone noticed. Bizarre huh!! I have now lost 30.8lbs and weigh 170lbs and the nice compliments keep coming.

So well done and people have or very shortly will notice!!

People where I work were hesitant to say anything. Most talked to me private, one on one. All seemed to notice my face was much thinner. I have gone from 218 to 186 pounds and was at 179 pounds. Work stress and real life stress cause me to gain.

As others have commented, keep a positive attitude and you can always get support here at CC.

 

Jeff

I am sure plenty of people are noticing, but just not saying it out loud. Size 14 to 10/8 is a HUGE accomplishment! (Congratulations!) Also, are you exercising or just dieting? I know that when I lose weight from just dieting, I don't get as much of a response as when I lose even just a little weight but am working out a lot.

And for me this summer, I only recall getting an actual response when I lost only about 8-12 pounds since those family and friends last saw me. The difference was that I had been working out a lot, was wearing clothes that fit me very well, and was acting confident. (It's crazy how much attitude has to do with physical appearance!)

Keep your head high :)

blackrosesred is right - probably lots of people notice.  it's just that weight is such a sensitive thing, people hesitate to comment.

i moved twice during my initial weight loss, so was mostly surrounded by people who either (a) didn't know me when i was skinny or (b) didn't know me when i was at my biggest.  it was a little disheartening to know that i was the only one who noticed. 

then i went home for a visit (about 22 pounds lighter), fully expecting everyone to notice.  only two people commented: one was very awkward about it and i didn't appreciate it at all; the other was a good friend who just said it straight-up, and it felt great.

people just don't know how to go about it.  but if you bring it up, i'll bet you'll get all kinds of compliments!

I also think people notice but are generally afraid to comment.  People don't want to imply that you were/are fat and end up hurting your feelings when they're trying to be nice.

That said, a few of my closer coworkers have started commenting that I'm getting nice and slim, and it's been just over 20 pounds for me.  On the other hand, though my husband is very nice about complimenting me for my running and more healthful lifestyle, I don't think he notices the weight (but he also didn't notice when I put on the weight, so I have no complaints there!).

One thing I've learned is that getting healthy is basically a solo project.  Some people will notice; some won't.  This has to be something you do for you.  And you should always be proud of yourself and nice to yourself for doing such great work!

This summer I've fluctuated up and down, but generallly am down another 14 pds.  I just started to get "Did you change your hair" ahem no I changed my face thanks.

I think it depends on how long you were at your higher weight?  I noticed it more than anyone else did and now I'm just a few pds less than what I've been for a while, so it's not so different for everyone else.

It could also depend on what you're wearing. If you always wore very baggy clothes, and you still do, it might not be as obvious to people. Go shopping and show off your new body!

I know exactly what you mean.  I am also around 20 lbs down and the only 2 people who noticed are my husband and my youngest daughter.  When I mentioned that to my daughter she just said "Mom they are just not sure what to say" or they are jealous hoes"  JK.  I agree with megsambit.  Losing is or should be just for ourselves.  But that is why it is nice to have CC and this community of support.  A 20pound loss is awesome and I am sure you are looking great so GOOD JOB! and Good Luck

The only people who aren't afraid to say anything about it are my family members. And that's because they know I'm trying to lose weight so they want to be supportive.

I've had friends who have not seen me for a few months that stare at me strangely but never say anything. I've even been in a situation where I've mentioned my weightloss and multiple people have spoken up like "OMG I've been wanting to say something but I didn't want to sound rude or anything.. but you look so much better!"

For whatever reason, some people think that talking about it seems rude LOL. I have no idea why. Weight is just a touchy subject I guess :) Don't worry, people are noticing.

I have a friend who never compliments people when they lose weight and told me she hates when people compliment her bc in her mind she's thinking "well what the hell did i look like before? was i that fat? ugly?" But at the same time, she gets upset if i dont tell her she looks hot in a new outfit or something. lol

so maybe, there are more people with that sort of mentality out there who notice but dont want to say anything bc they feel you may not take it as a compliment.

just keep up the good work!

Same exact situation. I've dropped from 178 to 160 over the summer and not a lot of people noticed. My parents just tell me they see a difference because they want to encourage me, but I doubt they really see anything drastic. I barely notice a difference in myself. I feel like I still have a really large stomach. I thought I would see a bigger difference, but I guess I'll just have to lose some more :/ Good luck to you, and congratulations on losing 20 pounds. Keep it up, and EVERYONE will notice :)

Anyone that has lost weight and then regained it might be a bit embarrassed to comment.  Then IF you gain it back, they might feel awkward.

I have never lost 20 lbs, so I really don't know how much it will take for someone to notice on me.  I'm still trying to lose 5!  So I'm proud of you even tho I don't know what you looked like before or now.  It IS an accomplishment.

 

People went from not noticing my weight loss at 20lbs, to noticing it at 21lbs, to thinking they should be concerned about me at 23lbs. It's a really weird phenomena.

I started getting comments around 18 lbs, and have gradually been getting more as the weight continues to melt off. I'm up to about 33 lbs lost in 3 1/2 months and have a little ways to go (shooting for 17 more/50 lbs total), but some of my family whom I haven't seen in months are going to be surprised!

first of all congrads on loosing 20 lbs!! 

i started at 213 now 173.  at 20 lbs loss, nobody seemed to notice, but when i losted 30 lbs, family members would ask, "you loosing weight".  friends or so called friends, would say amounst themselves but not to me, "i am pissed  cause she is really doing it" now at 40 lbs lost, so called friends dont talk to me but the true friends and family that i dont see too often really complaint me! and they will you too... dont let it get to ya.... just stay on track... they will notice!! good luck!!

For me it was around the 30lbs. mark, then everyone started noticing. Congrats on the 20lbs. off...Good For YOU!!

 

I've lost about 57 lbs, and after about 30 people started to comment, and now they say a lot more.

But also, for me, some people won't shut up about it, some people don't say anything.  Every once in a while, someone tells me about something someone else has said to them, rather than to me.  Personally, I'd rather people didn't say anything. 

The longer its been since they've seen me, the more likely they are to react.  And then there's been a few people who flat out did not recognize me.

If you're losing weight to get other people to notice, then that's not a good reason. 20 pounds is an awesome accomplishment! Be proud, and don't worry about what other peple think. Eventually they might notice the way you eat is different than theirs, and then they might notice you look smaller, but don't stress about it or let it get you angry. people are people. Lose weight to feel great and be healthy!

I've lost a total of 75 and the comments have really started to come.  They come in waves it seems.  I got a lot after losing 25, then at about 60.  I've also realized that when I lose about 15/20 pounds and drop a size, I get new clothes that actually fit so I'm sure people notice a lot more when they can actually see my body! 

It really never gets old, but you have to have a general response when people ask how you did it!  People can be so nosy and inadvertently inappropriate.