welp no conception yet

had my iud taken out the 15th... period came right on time a couple days ago ... this one website said i'd be real fertile on the 12th.. less on the 9th, 10th & 11th.  this was based on period dates i guess..

wonder how accurate that could be.  i guess im just here talking.  i know it can take a while to get pregnant but im the type to get my hopes up so.... pretty bummed im not gonna lie.

people tell me itll happen when you stop "trying".  i guess i should just let nature happen?  chart bmi temps?  count my lucky stars?  ahhhh.  i feel like i dont know where to start with this.  ok thanks for ummmm listening i guess!  lol

why do you want to get pregnant?  you're--like--twelve and a half.  you know here's no shortage of humans, right?

im 21 and my husband and i want kids.  why reply if youre not here to help?  you know theres no room in my world for rude people, right?

Wow some people...

Anyways I can see how frustrating it must be to expect something to happen..and it doesnt.

But it will, and ive heard of many people full out trying and not getting pregnant, and then as soon as they "stopped" trying it happend.

Good luck.

Original Post by jesselou:

had my iud taken out the 15th... period came right on time a couple days ago ... this one website said i'd be real fertile on the 12th.. less on the 9th, 10th & 11th.  this was based on period dates i guess..

wonder how accurate that could be.  i guess im just here talking.  i know it can take a while to get pregnant but im the type to get my hopes up so.... pretty bummed im not gonna lie.

people tell me itll happen when you stop "trying".  i guess i should just let nature happen?  chart bmi temps?  count my lucky stars?  ahhhh.  i feel like i dont know where to start with this.  ok thanks for ummmm listening i guess!  lol

If you had your IUD taken out on the 15th and were fertile in the days out before that, no wonder you aren't pregnant now. With the IUD in, you have birth control up until it is taken out--and even after that, it may take your body a while to adjust to no longer being on birth control.

Honestly, don't get bummed. It takes many people many months to get pregnant. Not a lot of people get pregnant on the first try, and even if you were to get pregnant, first pregnancies have a harder time sticking. You have to be prepared for life not wanting to go your way.

Original Post by armandleg:

You have to be prepared for life not wanting to go your way.

 And that just about sums it up.

You have no idea how long it will take for you to fall pregnant- no-one does until they start trying to conceive. For some, they go with the flow and make love when they want to and see what happens. Others go the other extreme and start with the calenders/temp charts/ov testing etc. etc. (and usually end up taking longer than those who take it as it comes!)

I came off birth control and fell pg 3mths after, without really trying (had no clue about dates etc.). With my second I came off birth control and started with the ov tests/signs, calenders, thermometers and it took 7mths of trying- which nearly split up me & my hubby even though we both really wanted a 2nd child!! I know I was extremely lucky though. Some friends have been trying for years, others are going for their 3rd round of IVF, another is 6mths pregnant with her third- a BIG surprise and one she's not got her head around even yet.

You'll get fed-up of people telling you to be patient- but thats all the advice anyone can give you.  

Relax and stop worrying about it.  The more you focus on it the worst its going to make you feel and the more strain its going to put on your relationship between you and your husband trust me.

First, Have you both had fertility tests taken?  Once you get that out of the way then let nature take its course and enjoy you and hubbys private time.  Accept that its just you two for now and you both can still plan, talk, and joke about when you have your own little bundle of joy.  Not to mention think of all the fun sex you can have and places when you are not focused on making that baby-that is up to nature not that little stick that turns blue saying its time to get busy~

You dont want him to feel like a drive through customer making his monthly deposits.  And trust me sweety you dont want to spend the rest of the month going crazy thinking things like "am I pregnant? when will my due date be if I am pregnant, oh no is that a period bloat in my belly, and what day is it am I overdue, does my belly feel hard to you, I feel nauseated this morning?  You really will drive yourself and your hubby crazy. 

Relax and enjoy.  Good luck to both of you!

Original Post by pgeorgian:

why do you want to get pregnant?  you're--like--twelve and a half.  you know here's no shortage of humans, right?

She was kidding.  Come on, get a sense of humour.

As for getting pregnant.  The way that worked for me was not wanting to get pregnant.  Bang!  Knocked up after my husband came home from 4 months away.  The second one, we just had sex every other day in the middle of my cycle.  So two weeks after my period, we started doing it like monkeys.  It was lots of fun.

Well, I've earned the nickname "Fertile Myrtle" from my doctor so I'm not sure my experience will help you but...

My first was a "whoops!" I was taking birth control pills but I was doing so irresponsibly (like a lot of 21-year-olds do).

We planned our second. We decided to start trying in January so I finished my last pack of birth control pills on January 8th. I used the Clear Blue Easy ovulation tests when I thought I was halfway through my cycle, got a positive, had sex three days in a row and got pregnant. That was about 2 weeks after  discontinuing the pill. We were planning on it taking a while to get pregnant, hoping for a spring baby but as armandleg said, "You have to be prepared for life not wanting to go your way."

We are obviously not in the majority on how easy it is to get pregnant. My point is, it CAN happen quickly and easily so make sure you're prepared for any scenario.

Good luck!

my iud had no hormones, so once its out thats it, nothin lingering after.  i figured i was fertile before & missed the window or whatever.  thanks for the well wishes.  think if i relax & dont think about it i'll be better off. 

Also, I snuck over to your bio. Are both you and your husband in the military? How long have the two of you been married?

If you are still in the military, how much longer do you have left? They can't make you deploy while you're pregnant, but they can sure make you deploy after you've had the baby. Do you really want to risk being sent to a foreign country after you've had a baby? If your husband is in the military, too, he could also deploy at any time. Not to mention, the two of you could end up deployed at the same time--who is going to watch your child, then?

These are all questions you really need to think about. My husband left a month ago for his second deployment--he's not going to be home when the baby is born, and probably won't be home until the baby is, at the very least, three months old. It was harder on him to leave this time around than it was the first time, because he knew he was going to miss out on so much regarding the pregnancy, and miss out on a milestone or two. I almost wish we had gone with waiting until after this deployment had passed before getting pregnant--though when we began discussing that possibility, it was already too late.

lol Bier I can completely relate.

I had my 29th birthday Feb 6 and told my husband I wanted to start trying, we also want to move back home and what better time to do that while on paid 1yr maternity leave, right? I calculated the dates Feb was the earliest I could get pregnant and be eligible for maternity leave because I had recently started a new job.

Hubby was a bit nervous but I told him it generally takes 6-12months to get pregnant, and then it takes 9 months to make the baby so we wouldn't actually have a baby for almost 2 years, he was still saying he wasn't sure about my "crazy baby plan" but he did stop using condoms, so I took that as he was on board :P

March 3 I got a BFP and back counting that means we concieved right around valentines day - so instead of the year I promised him it took us 8 days lol.

armandleg: yes my hub is mil too; i plan on gettin out while he plans on retiring.   im not gettin out because of deployments though.  mil to mil families deal with this stuff all the time, its part of the lifestyle.  we dont get tasked for long deployments like the army does typically, and actually my husband's shop even asks who wants to go when they have slots to fill.  if for some reason we were both deployed his family would watch the kid[s] but that wont happen.  i feel ya for havin to go through all that!  military spouse is def one of the harder things to be, and even more so once kids/pregnancies are thrown in the mix.  thank you for your sacrifice as well as your husband's

Original Post by berryblue031:

 - so instead of the year I promised him it took us 8 days lol.

Yeah I had it all planned out too, wound up due on my son's birthday, went into labour on my husband's birthday and had a baby in time for my mom's birthday.  The whole bunch of them are crammed into the end of July, and I always gain weight around then.  Wonder why.

I ended up pregnant by mistake, but I loved every minute of it.

I was a senior in high school and at that time my boyfriend went to boot camp, he came home and used protection although for some reason we did not think of what would happen playing the praying game the second time. In Nov found out I was pregnant and in July a had my wonderful daughter.

Now we are married, living the military life which can be hard but we do love it, and on the 8th my daughter will be 2 years old and within 2 to 3 years we are planning to try this time for our second.

When he jokes around and pokes at my belly I tell him to stop or I'll make sure there is another baby in there. lol.

Just have fun with it.

Have a nice evening together, lots and lots of fore play, once he does his thing make sure to lay there for about 20 mins and do it every other day. (Read this all in a book that we have for when planning on our next)

Wish you the best!