Who's baby ???

1. A girl person has a boyfriend.

2. This girl also has someone ON THE SIDE (who knows about the BF)

3. This person is pregnant.

4. How can she find out who the father is without the boyfriend finding out about the guy ON THE SIDE?

oh sweet lord i hope you're a troll...

Original Post by crimes1090:

 

1. A girl person has a boyfriend.

2. This girl also has someone ON THE SIDE (who knows about the BF)

3. This person is pregnant.

4. How can she find out who the father is without the boyfriend finding out about the guy ON THE SIDE?

Paternity testing is really your best bet, which can only be done after the birth.  Sometimes you can get an amniocentesis in your 3rd trimester, but doctors will not do one unless they have to. 

Sometimes you can figure out the father by the time of sex of both vs. when you ovulate, which is around 14 days after the first day of the last period.  If this girl had sex with the two guys close together, it is nearly impossible to tell, but if the dates are spread a couple weeks, there is a better change of figuring this out.

ohhhh he'll find out

Original Post by watergirl:

ohhhh he'll find out

 and then dump her.  Hopefully.

she can read the book Something Borrowed for advice on the topic.

"Tell the TRUTH" - the Genie from Aladdin

I know you weren't asking for advice but the only way to really find out is to a. do a paternity test after the baby is born or b. wait until the baby is old enough to see who it looks like (and come on, we know by watching scummy tv that idea is not very useful). 

This girls best bet is to come clean to her boyfriend.  Hopefully, even after he dumps her he will love the baby enough to take care of it if it is his.

This is an easy one (minus the ridicule). 

Here is what you do.  Roll up on the guy on the side and tell him you are pregnant and get a paternity test with just him.  This will cost you between $300 and $500.  I strongly suggest the two of you splitting the cost (get cash from him first).  If he comes up as the father you obviously have no choice but to tell your boyfriend.  If the guy on the side does not come up as the father then you are home free and you do not have to tell your boyfriend nothing because he is obviously the father.  Well he is the father as long as you have not slammed any other dudes during this time.

You are in a tough spot and more lying is not going to fix it but i just decribed above your only shot at keeping your boyfriend from knowing there is a second guy out there on the grassy knoll.

The first step is to stop lying tomorow.  Maybe lie today some more but at some point you have to stop because this will eat you alive sooner rather than later.  (and I know because I have watched this exact scenario unfold).

who's baby? 

I dunno.  I give up.  who is baby?  (just don't put her in the corner....)

whose baby?

usually the guy on the side.  you know, the wrong side of the condom.

(ps a few places will do a prebirth paternity test--- but these all require admitting that you done did bad-- and worse.  if the guy on the side is willing-- trek yourselves to the nearest computer google paternity test *your city* and start calling.  realize though-- there is risk involved.  after birth-- much easier, much cheaper-- and if you dont care about it being admissible in court, you can get a "home" test.  its all just a cheek swab.  and seriously, birth control.  it does a body/baby/something else that begins with "b" good.)

I think the b/f is going to find out eventually....you can't NOT tell him if there is a question,.

It would be absolutely revolting if b/f thinks he's having a kid, spends the time nurturing the mother and maybe being there for the birth, only to find out it's not his. That is the meanest thing ever.

I think prego lady should own up to what she is doing and GROW UP. She's going to have a baby so it's time to start acting like she isn't one herself and takes responsibility for what she's done.

She should feel TERRIBLE for cheating in the first place.

And she should PRAY TO GOD that both don't leave her in the dust and that her baby grows up to be well adjusted. And she should test her/baby for AIDS or other stds.

and, she should take a good hard look at herself as to WHY she would completely string her b/f along. SHe obviously DOESNT love him if she's cheating (you CANNOT love someone and completely disrespect them like that, it's impossible. that's basic respect for a HUMAN). So she should do the right thing, tell both guys, break up with b/f to let him find a GOOD woman who won't do crap like that.

This post is a hoax...read all 3 posts started by crimes 1090.

GO ON MAURY