Why Are Our Family Members So Unsupportive?
Losing weight is hard enough, but it can be a whole lot harder if done in an unsupportive environment. Family dinners, for example, can prove to be tricky when other participants don't share the same nutrition goals.
Whenever I visit my family, I always gain a few pounds which really doesn't surprise me at all - I not only get pressured to taste everything, but people also get offended if I don't eat enough of everything. Needless to say, those dinners are very tasty, but also much richer than anything that I usually eat.
I've always wondered why the people that I love the most and who support me in everything else in my life happen to be so unsupportive when it comes to weight loss? Here are a couple of thoughts that come to my mind:
- Fear of malnutrition: my family loves me so unconditionally, that they really don't care what I look like. They would rather have me look plumb than worry about me getting sick.
- Tradition: back in the old days, people use to be more physically active and their diets required rich meals. Many of my family's recipes are quite old and reflect that old lifestyle than doesn't apply to my life any longer.
- Avoidance of hunger: in many parts of the world, food is not as abundant as it is in our society, and this also used to be the case even in the western countries not so long ago. Many of our older family members remember those times and hate to see food go to waste.
Those are all very understandable points, and once I became aware of them, I felt much better about all the peer pressure that I keep getting during my visits. So what I will simply do in the future is make my cheat days coincide with times when I get to see my family, and this will make those dinners even more enjoyable.
Does anyone else experience peer pressure at family gatherings? How do you deal with it?