Wife/Husband Activity???

I am 46 yrs old ( well 45 will be 46 on the 22 ND). and have been married to the same man for 23 yrs. Well here is my dilemma, We have 4 Daughters, 23, 18, 16, and 7. I have gained a new Interest. When we first got together we enjoyed our alone time, we made love often. Well once we started having Kids it became harder to have Mommy/Daddy time. Well now that they are older the 7yr old can go to her sister on weekends, the 16yr old goes away. I want more love making. It seems my husband is not interested. I don't know what I am doing. I have tried everything. I even wrapped myself in saran wrap. Like in that movie, Fried Green Tomatoes. He laughed at me. He says I am a sex-aholic. I got mad and told him that I would find it someplace else. But I really wouldn't. I love my husband. Anyone got any Ideas??? Is there something wrong with me like he says????? O God I hope this  isn't menopause.

Thanks Cathy

I now know how to end my next slump should it ever occur! ^^

EddieP is way more informative than any Cosmo Mag!  LOL - love it!

I am taking notes!

Definitely taking notes!

aw look, eddie has a fan club!

Original Post by eddiepotter:

 ...and it will make him feel like a Ninja warrior wearing a Viking hat and a Little league Chest Protector.

 *snort*

I SO just spit my water all over my keyboard!!

Original Post by peaches0405:

Original Post by eddiepotter:

 ...and it will make him feel like a Ninja warrior wearing a Viking hat and a Little league Chest Protector.

 *snort*

I SO just spit my water all over my keyboard!!

 so did i.  only because i'm kinda seeing someone who has a name that sounds awfully vikingish...

AAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...I thought you would like that line SLO....lol

where's caclbmc?  I've been lurking to see what happened...hopefully her talk with her husband worked and she's just too tired to type?

Sorry I have not gotten back to everyone sooner lot going on, which is another problem.  Here is the update.

Got out of work, texted him that I was on my way home. I got to the camper and he was already in there. Night light on a bouquet of flowers on the table and note telling me he was in the back in bed. He said he was sorry and if he fell asleep to wake him up when I got there.He was sleeping soundly never heard me come in so I went in the house and showered put on a long silk gown and robe, and went back out there. ( I was not expecting anything but I wanted to look nice). I tried to wake him up but he was in a very deep sleep I guess, so I just crawled in bed and snuggled up with him. Which he responded to this quite nicely by pulling me close to him. We slept like that all night, He ended up waking up for work late, which he said "I just didn't want to get out of bed, I was to comfortable and didn't want to go to work" He said " I wish I had called off". Which made me feel really good. He went into the house and bought me a change of clothes as we also own a garage with another guy and he didn't want me walking to the house in my sexy night gown, for everyone to see. Which again made me feel good as he still thinks I am sexy.

He came home from work early, Now mind you he went in a half hr. late and came home early which he can do but never does, he usually works late everyday. We where able to talk. I told him that calling me a sex-aholic hurt and he apologized saying he didn't mean it as a bad thing that. He was happy about my new desire. I asked him why he was avoiding it. He then said that he had a lot on his mind and proceeded to tell me. I then told him that he needed to communicate to me what was going on that we have always communicated how we feel and to stop now  would only put more strain on our marriage. I then told him that I didn't mean it that I would find it else where if he didn't want me anymore. He said he knew that as because I always said that If we split up I would call him for a booty call if I ever wanted sex, and we both laugh. I asked him if I could joke about him being my "New found boyfriend and Joked about not telling my husband. He said " Only if I didn't tell his wife".

I went to work on Wed and texted him on and off all day with things like " I would like to make an appointment for to get an oil and lube" If I could have tube steak for dinner" You get the picture and he replied with a lot of other ones "Eating at the golden arches etc. We can't get to naughty with texts just in case the 7 yr old gets his/my phone and reads them.

Anyway we did this all day thursday as he had to work. It was my day off. My 7 year old got off the bus as her sisters. They had something planed anyway. The 16 yr old went shopping with 18 yr old and he house was empty, When he go home he had to work in our garage. Well Here comes the good Part! I got my Sugar Honey Ice Tea, and PUNK. As Eddiep would put it and used some of his very good advice, he was half way under a car when I sunk in the garage locked the door and went to town on him. When I suddenly stop and went to walk away and he asked "What's wrong?" I said I had to make dinner, Well need less to say We ended up ordering Pizza as there was not time for dinner and the girls got home we were still in the garage. It was the longest most intimate time we ever spent together.

I really want to thank everyone for your posts and suggestions I took each one as not negative or positive I evaluated them too Notes and processed everything. I valued every ones opinion. But most of all I want to thank EddieP and yes his advice and ideas did work for me. They were defiantly better then casmo mag. My husband asked what I was reading. I told him I got advice from a friend not telling him who and said He doesn't have to know all my secrets. He was a little disturbed as the though I was Airing our sex lives to everyone. I explained that I was just asking a friend for new Ideas, as to make our already good sex life a lot more Spicier. Which I was not lying,  I just didn't give details.

Anyway Eddiep Where did you do the research from I would like to find out more Ideas. LOL or Maybe you could keep them coming It is so nice to have a man's perspective on this kind of matter.

Thanks again everyone!!!!

Cathy

OH one more thing Eddiep You should become a counselor or sex theorist. May be having an Internet site giving us in site on the subject.  I got more information from you on male perspective and sex then I have ever gotten from any Dr. Ruth books. lol

Thanks again Cathy

OMG caclbmc, post #49 brought tears to my eyes .

I think its a beautiful thing when people find that sexual spark again.

Original Post by caclbmc:

Anyway Eddiep Where did you do the research from

I'm guessing Potter conducts his own research on this subject (and as for where, I'm guessing anywhere he damn pleases.)

that is AWESOME!

woohoo Sugar Honey Iced Tea!

I studied Sex and the human way when I was in college for four years....and I started to develop an understanding of how people react when certain things are done both physically and emotionally. 

Of course I put all these things to the test (since there were so many women in college) using basic human anatomy and what I had learned.  sometimes I get slapped...sometimes I get love...lol...either way...It helped me to better each and every one of my relationships until I finally found the one I wanted to marry.  From the beginning I told her (7 years ago) that we would get married...she didn't believe me, but here we are married. 
It helped me mature sexually, and being able to stimulate her sexually at the blink of an eye is a gift that I'm so so so glad that I have. 

so yeah some of this stuff is just straight up from reading, but a lot of it is basic trial and error.

wow...Girl I didn't even read your entire message until now...Jeez...I feel really really good for you man...glad it worked out....that's wonderful....

HAHAHA...I told you the "Perform and LEAVE trick" always sparks their interest…it’s the coolest and easiest thing…just think about it…we are all sexual being yeah?...so if we (out of nowhere) start performing a sexual act on our Significant other they would be surprised, and very very very pleased at the same time…but then you suddenly stop and leave without explanation…HA…they get horny real quick and want to finish.....

Well cool...I have hundreds of little tricks and tips to keep your relationship fresh and the sex life like new 24/7 (shoot me and my girl have sex 6 times a day on the weekends).  I use to have so so so many of other guy's girlfriends come to my room in college for relationship advice after I helped one girl out with hers (it was crazy for a while, but the girls were really really sad…in all I would say it was about 14 women that I could remember….they were all frustrated with their relationships)....they use to ask me the same thing all the time....and this question...some of you probably want to ask as well.  What can I do to make my boyfriend stay interested in me....

I use to be so upset when they asked that question, because I felt really bad that they even felt that there Significant other wasn't 100% interested in the relationship… or them for that matter.  Ladies as much as you love a guy...DO NOT marry him until YOU KNOW he is your best friend first.  I think this is the reason some women get hurt very very fast in marriage.  I took me 7 years to finally say ok I've done all I could do to make this woman my SOUL....It's time to do the right thing.  I couldn't marry her unless she could damn near finish my sentences. 

I’ll do a small little list for you guys so you can get some more info….it always helps…there is nothing wrong with that...

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by caclbmc:

Anyway Eddiep Where did you do the research from

I'm guessing Potter conducts his own research on this subject (and as for where, I'm guessing anywhere he damn pleases.)

 HAHAHAHAHA

http://caloriecount.about.com/users/eddiepott er/312776.html