What do you wish to gain?

I wanted to start a thread on what you wish to gain on top of weight? I will start!

I wish to gain a better attitude, a stronger body, a healthier lifetsyle, and a positive mindset about my body image!

(Not too mention a new booty!)

Next?????

i gained too much right away...but i suppose i still want to gain a bit :/ (its tough...as i am sure you understand)

 i want to gain strength and endurance-i want to be able to run again. i want my tendons and ligaments to be strong and healthy. i want my muscles to be toned again and not shredded from starving.

 i want to fill out clothes nicely again 

i want to eat a meal thats higher then 300 calories and not have a panic attack!

i want to eat a slice of pizza with friends

i want to make my husband happy by not asking a million questions. i want to NOT have to ask "how many calories do you think this is?" when i sit down at every meal.

 i want my parents to see me and feel at ease and not have to worry-considering i live in a different country from them...

i want to go a whole day and not count a single calorie

 

...theres so much im looking forward to...the hard part is staying strong till i can get it. but reading everyones struggles and triumphs here helps so much.

 

i was bulimic for 3 bad years...up to 15 times a day...no nutrients kept...and im in recovery for 8 weeks now...not a single purge....and thats something i HAVE gained already 

 

I made a list in my journal like this of over 50 reasons why I should gain weight, just to prove to myself that gaining weight far outweighs any "benefits" of being underweight.  A few of them are:

-get my sex life back (my boyfriend barely touches me anymore, not his fault, for months I've been a bag of bones and have had no sex drive)

-get some boobs instead of looking like a twelve-year-old cross-dressing schoolboy whenever I put on a bra

-get my full, thick head of hair back instead of this wispy pile of weeds on top of my head

-get toned, sexy muscle - you have to put on weight to do that!  You can't make muscle out of nothing!

-Have more energy to work out -- hell, just have the energy to walk around for more than fifteen minutes without feeling like I'm going to pass out.

-Enjoy eating in restaurants again instead of panicking

-Stop being so antisocial because of being imprisoned by my eating habits - be able to spend time with my family and boyfriend, get out of the house, pursue old interests

-To have the pretty, normal-sized face I used to have, instead of this scarecrow/skeleton/alien face

-So people will stop asking me "What HAPPENED to you?" whenever they see me after not seeing me for awhile

-To actually have an ass in my jeans and not always be hiking up my pants or wearing a belt

-So I don't freeze to death whenever I go into the walk-in cooler at work (Subway)

-So that when I get married I won't look like a skeleton in my wedding dress.  (Who wants THAT?)

-So I can actually FIND my size in a store

-So that I'll be strong enough to help people who need me one day (I want to be a prison psychologist)

-And of course, the most important, so I won't be at risk for heart attacks, cancer, osteoporosis, etc. that comes with being underweight for a long time.

Hey, I like this thread!  Let's motivate each other!

- a healthy relationship with food (food is not the enemy)

- a healthy relationship with my body and accept my shape

- I want my curves back!  My chest is as flat as a board and my butt might as well be non-existant!

- I want to be able to feel strong when I exercise again

- Fit into a normal size clothing and not just 1s and 0s

- Stop getting 'oh gosh your so skinny' or 'she's anorexic, she doesn't eat' comments all the time

- I want the only stares I get to be when I want to be noticed for doing something weird, not just because of the way I look

- I don't want all these medical problems, so a healthy body I guess, and not only that, but I need my period back, I may want to have kids some day too

This is great Lindsey!!! =]

Well, I've already gained enough back to be considered "healthy", but I'd still like to gain:

-the ability to eat a meal with my family without feeling uncomfortable.
-the ability to eat foods that I don't consider "safe"
-the ability to go out with friends and eat something that I normally wouldn't
-the ability to eat what I want without feeling the need to restrict the next day

and so much more..

but i will VERY soon =]

Yea I know what you mean Kel about the ability to branch out from safe foods....I think I am definitely going to tackle this though when I go away on my vacation, pluss what better way to branch out when you don't have any safe options??

Anyway, another thing that I wish to gain other than self- confidence is physical strength....ever since recovery I have felt so much stronger...like I am on top of the world! Gosh I love that feeling!

I wish to gain self-love, self-respect and a positive attitude.

I wish to gain back quality time with my family and friends

I wish to gain back my self-esteem

I wish to gain a new perspective on life, all aspects of life.

I wish to gain self-acceptance.

I wish to gain back all the time I've wasted.

I wish to gain strength to keep moving forward.

I wish to gain happiness. Ridiculous, carefree, unconditional, out-of-this-world happiness.

I wish to gain 20 pounds(lol)

i wish to gain muscle(another lol) and now to emotional stuff

I wish to gain happiness at home

I wish to gain a job this summer

i wish to gain some confidence

I wish to gain my life back when it was simplier(family problems all the time...)

Coldthindream: I love your last one! I think that's my top goal.

I want to stop worrying, gain patience and feel generally more relaxed in any situation.

I want to be able to be active again, play sports, dance, go out with friends after 10 pm!

I want to live conciously, knowing that I am worth taking care of, and I don't want to feel guilty for this anymore.

I want to regain my creativity, my self esteem, fill out my clothes and find a boy that might actually want to date me.

And to go along with gaining "Ridiculous, carefree, unconditional, out of this world happiness" I want to live impulsively!

I want to gain my energy.

I want to gain a sense of confidence.

I want to be able to laugh with friends at a restuarant and not spend the whole time avoiding smelling or looking at what they are eating because "I ate at home already".

I want to stop yelling at my husband.

I want to be active.

I want to travel.

I want to walk outside without dying from the chilling cold that gets into my bones and doesn't leave no matter what I do.

I want to get back the light in my eyes and the smile on my face that I've seen in pictures from not too long ago.

I want to LIVE. Not just breathe, LIVE my LIFE.

What a great idea positivelinny!

I wish to gain:

*my period naturally, I've had it thanks to the pill for over 10 years and now that I'm ready to try to have a baby, I can't menstruate :(

*a new outlook on my body - I'm sick of being scared of changes in my body; bony is not better!

*more energy... I want my glow back! :)

*warmth, I'm sick of being cold all of the time

*healthier attitude and outlook on food

*happiness!!

*FREEDOM - ED sucks... I'm sick of it and ready to be finished!

Thanks for starting this thread... it's so helpful!

this is so nice:)

- i wish to gain stamina!

- i wish to gain weight so that you can't see my veins and all my ligaments in my body!

-i wish to gain my period back

- i wish to sometime soon not think about calories and classify foods as either "not safe" or "safe"

-i wish to get up to a healthy weight soon because i think im going to develop habits of binge eating(can anyone relate to this?)

-i wish to see my mom happy with the way i look

-i want to feel comfortable with myself when the weight actually does come on

1lisa, I can definitely relate to the fear of developing binge-eating habits... it's so scary.  Has anyone who has recently made their way up toward a healthy weight experienced these feelings?  Maybe a good dose of reality will not make it feel so bad?!

I also want to gain a healthier relationship with food.  I'm ready to stop thinking about what I've had to eat, will eat, won't eat, should eat, etc

I can't wait for the new better me to gain all of these things!! :)

 

I wish to gain a healthier lifestyle for myself and my family.

I wish to gain a more positive mindset and more patience.

I wish to gain the ability to by a bra anywhere, not just the pricey V/S push-ups, and the ability to shop in the "big girl" sections of stores.  I'm thirty, so it looks kinda silly when I wear teen stuff.

Most importantly, I wish to gain balance in my life!

This is the most empowering thread! I'm already at a healthy weight, but my brain needs some serious help. 

I wish to gain a positive body image and love the skin I'm in!

I wish to gain a social life: I'm so sick of hiding from the world in my room or my house! 

I wish to gain the ability to go out and eat and have fun and not worry about the calories in what I'm eating.

I wish to gain my life back. In general. I want to be me again, whoever that is these days. 

I wish to gain my self respect and confidence.

I wish to stop fighting with my husband.

I wish to be able to stop snapping at my children all the time.

I'm tired of being depressed and a shadow of myself.

I wish to gain at least 9 pounds.  I am 5 foot 6in and I weigh 106.  I would love to be 115.   I have always been skinny and have finally come to a point where I am not self-conscience about my body...and now I can't get pregnant -so I feel like my body is broken somehow. 

I would LOVE some bigger boobs in the process (if I am choosing a location for the weight gain lol) the chances of that are pretty slim though--so I will be happy with some weight on my abs and shoulders so you can't see my ribs  and my boney shoulders.

 

I wish to gain the ability to eat whatever my mom makes for dinner-- not have to ask her hours beforehand so that I can figure out exactly how much of each part of dinner I can eat.

I wish to be a size 2... up from a 00. I don't want to repeat an experience I had last month (shopping for jeans... I asked the assistant if they had any size 26 (which is like a 2) and she took one look at me and said "I'll find you some 24s (which are 00...) you're waaaay too tiny to fit in a 26.")

I wish to gain my curves back and not look the way I did when I was 10 (which is how I look now...)

I wish to have my B cup back!! 

I wish to have my period back... I do want kids someday...

I wish to be happy again and not have to worry about all of this...

I want to gain strength and some of my weight back!

I wish to gain patience as well!

 

By the way this is a good thread!

*I wish to gain trust from my parents

*I wish to be a normal 13-yr-old

* wish to do track and cross-country again

*I wish to not think of food as the enemy

*I wish to be considered normal and not "the anorexic girl"

*I wish to go out with my firends and family and eat a normal meal

*I wish to make food and eat it too

*I wish to give up ANOREXIA