Ever Wish Someone Would NOtice?

I've now lost 12 pounds since the Middle of June..I'm 5'7 and now 143 , down from 155. I think I see a difference, but no one else does at all.My boyfriend in the airforce didn't notice and was shocked when I mentioned my weight loss. When this happens, do youever think, " well if everyone thinks I look the same, maybe I should keep losing??" ... I suppose I shouldn't look to others for praise really about it.. but I guess I just wish just one person would notice my new healthy body..

I think it's natural to want to hear that all your hard work is paying off!

what about posting some before and after pics?

dats tru...wen ppl notice...u become motivated. for de oddest reason, my family notices every weight gain and weight lose, i always gets comments, both positive n negative. negative commetns lead me to de need to lose weight and eventually to dis site.

My parents and best friend say they can see it (even if I can't). But no one else has mentioned it.

Ah well...so much for the gasps of wonder and adoration I'd been planning on!

The only people who seem to notice my weight loss the best are people who don't see me all the time. I was out to dinner this evening with my mother-in-law and father-in-law, and they kept exclaiming how thin I was... but people who see me more often just don't notice, because it's so gradual.

I joined Jenny Craig recently & they have a motivation tape...   and one of the things they address is this very issue.  Now, granted, they are probably talking to folks who have more than 10 lbs to lose. 
Gripe: "People aren't noticing or commenting"Answer:  "This can be very hard, especially if you are doing this for other people.  If they aren't mentioning it, it may be because they think it is rude to mention it.  Keep losing, and they will mention it."
I've personally found this to be true.  I lost 20 lbs, no one breathed a word except maybe my husband when I prompted him.  I lost almost 35 lbs, and that's when people started noticing and commenting.  I still have about 15 lbs to lose to get to my goal - 160 for my 5'7 frame.  If I make it to 155, I will be psyched!
You are probably at a healthy weight, and probably were at a healthy weight before.  I remember being 145 with my same frame - I was a fit ballerina & track runner at the time in high school.  I gained up to 155 in college, and frankly, I don't think that *I* even noticed.
Were you doing muscle-y things before, and now you're not having as much time to get out & do strength things?  If you lost muscle but gained fat, you could have stayed the same size or not changed in appearance, but now you weigh less.
If you measured your "before" and "after" sizes you can see if there is a physical change in the way your body is shaped now & if your clothes are more flattering now than before, etc.
Best wishes to you!

Most people do notice.  Some people may not say anything if they don't know for sure you are trying to lose weight.  If they say, "My, have you lost weight?" and you haven't, it may hurt your feelings or insinuate that you NEED to lose weight.  Some people may prefer to wait until it is a significant amount that you clearly have lost.  Some people consider it rude to mention weight either way.  Some people, and I'm just saying some, won't be happy for another person's weight loss, particularly if they themselves want or need to lose weight and can't or don't want to put in the work to do it.  They might not mention your success due to jealousy, insecurity, or various other reasons why people do things that are rude or unkind.  It also may not be intentional but more subconscious.  Just because people don't comment doesn't mean they don't notice.  Eventually, they WILL say something, I mean as long as we're talking mostly about friends and family, who really care about you and seeing you healthy, happy, and successful with your weight loss.  Some people just need to be smacked in the face with it.

Example:  My MIL recently retired (schoolteacher, 35 years).  In the year after her retirement, she lost 30 pounds (yes, she was overweight, still is).  I honestly subconsciously noticed that she looked smaller but never even thought to ask or  comment on it.  It totally wasn't a conscious omission and certainly was not on purpose.  My brain just did not process the information.  Imagine what a craphead I felt like when she mentioned going to the doctor's office recently and finding out that she had lost 30 pounds!  She said, "Yes, but nobody notices," obviously  hurt and upset about that fact. 

Just because people don't say doesn't mean they don't notice.  Do what you need to do FOR YOU and the rest will fall into place.  :-)  If after a while, people still don't notice or don't care, screw 'em, they don't matter.  Congrats and keep up the good work!

I think jdbcmt said it just right...  I'm in the same boat as you.  No one really seems to notice.  Oh well.  A comment or to would be nice of course, but I'll live with out 'em!  At least I think I'm looking better!  hehe.  Anyways... Congrats on the loss.  Keep it up!

thanks, Ill keep going for me..and just me

keep in mind that the general shape of one's body (waist-to-hip ratio, proportions) doesn't change as you lose or gain weight (unless you get into the danger zone of either obesity or underweight, of course).

You won't look all that different after 12 pounds or even 20, but you might improve your health profile. And you might feel better physically/have more energy, and that's what matters.

I can relate to what you mean.  Though I've only lost 6lbs, I'm close to my goal weight so it's an accomplishment for me (especially because I'm terrible with consistancy).  The thing is, I don't even notice the 6lbs. I feel healthier (I can tell because I dont' feel so great after eating fast food) and I'm glad my habits have changed, but it would be nice to see SOME difference. In three months none of my measurements have changed, othan than 1 inch on my hips (in other words, pants are still tight!).  I'm not doing this for others, but if I don't even notice, I can't expect anyone else to notice too! I'm hoping to lose 7-8 more lbs, and hopefully by then my measurements will have decreased a bit. 

If anything, be encouraged by the fact that you are doing excellent things for your body ; eating healthier, giving it exercise -things can only get better for you! Many people try to exercise/diet and give up quickly.  Great job at sticking to it!

Ugh. Yeah. Just the other day I was feeling really good and so much thinner and then I see my uncle and he's like, *wow, have you gained weight?*.. and im overly sensitive so I act stupid when I get upset and so I went and threw up my food. Sometimes people suck.

emmat123 ,I am sorry you felt you had to do that.

Idon't really think anyone knows I am alive much less that I have lost any weight.

don't let comments bother you ,its what we know ourselves that matters

The first 15 pounds i lost went unnoticed. My husband was adamant that he noticed nothing different in my appearance. I was flabbergasted. The next ten pounds, however, made a huge difference. He noticed and couldn't stop commenting. The same with my family... they are amazed that it's flown off.

I completely understand.  I have lost 70#, and had one person (other than my husband and sister) say anything.  Just one, and that was this week.  I don't want my weight to be the topic of every conversation, but I think there has been a visible difference for 6 months, and only one person has complimented me.

I feel you, I had been working SO Hard for a month or so and had lost somewhere between 10 and 13 lbs.  I visisted some people who had just seen me before I started, and they were still commenting on how "Marriage was being good to me" and that my wife "must be feeding me well" and when my mom went to introduce me to some lady she said that she knew me and that I was getting fat!  Needless to say, I was shocked, had been feeling great about myself, and was crushed.  I have not been back, refuse to go until I feel more confident.  I've now lost 17 lbs and been working out.  I've gone down a pants size (at lease some of my old clothes fit, and the ones in the store don't cut me!!!) and people at work are noticing.  So, hang in there, it'll come off, and you'll lavish in the comments from those who do notice.

I thought that no one was noticing my weight loss. Then everyone was suddenly talking about it. I lost it pretty quickly at first, and then slower, which was wierd. They didn't notice when it was flying off, and then when it was slooooowly coming off they started to comment. Then I found out that they did notice, and were discussing it behind my back with my sister. Then I was getting nice comments, which turned into negative comments. High school kids confuse the hell out of me.

I know exactly what you mean! I'm 5'6" and I started the summer almost weighing 160 and now I'm about 137. My boyfriend says he can kinda tell after I mention it to him, but I don't think he can, I think he is just saying it because that's what I want to hear.

However, once I got back down on campus and saw people that I hadn't seen all summer I expected to get a lot of compliments on my weightloss. In fact I got quite a bit of compliments, but none of them were from my good friends. I think they were to afraid to say something thinking it would be rude because I saw them checking me out from time to time.

It's good to hear that I'm not the only one this is happening to!

I have lost 16 lbs and the only one besides my husband that has noticed is my mother in law and I think that's because my husband told her to say something because I was feeling bad no one noticed! I love that man!

It is hard to keep going without the positive reenforcement. But - we just have to give that to ourselves. When I get in the shower everydsay I stand in front of the mirror and I like what I see - that's enough to keep me going!

It wasn't until I had lost 30 pounds that someone at work mentioned my weight loss.  When I hit the 40 pound loss mark, everyone was saying something to me. 
I'll bet if you wore a smokin' hot pair of jeans and a cute top next time you were going to be out, people would notice.....you will feel super confident and it will show....