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Are women (some) really so petty?

Okay, I have a question for you all... I've got a friend who I talk to online alot...we're really close, sending video's back and fourth, calling all the time, IMing..basically we're in constant contact somehow.

Anyway, a few days ago he sent me an email and asked me to watch his friends YouTube video, they're childhood friends and I guess he wanted to sort of bring him into the loop with his other friends. So I watched it, added the guy to my friends and said hi..you know, all the normal stuff....But then my friend emailed me again and asked me to introduce myself under the video and in his words "just say hi, tell him who you are to me.."

Okay well, He and are are walking a fine line between close friends and something more. We've discussed it in detail and decided to just be friends and let things go from there, without the heavy relationship stuff right now...ya know? because neather of us can really handle that right now.

So I decided to play it safe and just say "Hey, I just wanted to introduce myself, I'm T's best friend...hope to get to know you more, he says alot of nice things about you"

Now I've got this woman...and I mean grown woman! coming out and saying "Oh, you're not his best friend, I am..." and basically pitching a fit under the video! at first I just laughed and said "If I had a dollar for every woman who wanted to fight about that I would be rich!" But now she's coming out with "well I guess I just have more confidence than you, I'm not afraid to fight you about this"

I couldn't believe it! I mean, come on...are we in highschool or something? this is crazy. So I just told her that if she was as confident as she claimed she wouldn't need to make a point of saying so, it's like a heavily muscled guy coming out and saying how strong he is. I mean...no crap! but obviously he doesn't think so if he has to say it! LOL

I left it at that, because honestly I'm too old to be having cat fights over a guy...it just about made me feel like I was in junior high! she's responded, but I didn't even read it.....I don't get it tho, are girls always like this about guys??? or is it just her? I would have thought that sort of thing was something we all grow out of....am I wrong?

Original Post by andie-joe:

Original Post by seratuki:

lol...I went back and read the last response to my comment about her "confidence" I'm not sure why, maybe because I couldn't help myself....but anyway, she wrote back "seems I struck a nerve with you'

LOL! seriously....struck a nerve with ME? yeah, I'm about to wash my hands of all of them...I love T alot, but at the same time, I'm not going to bicker back and fourth with this woman, and I was checking out T's page on myspace...he just put a picture of her in his "freinds" album....and what makes it even more funny? She's a lesbian.

Now, I don't care what her sexuality is, but he made a point of putting "K, my lesbian friend" under her picture. What is that about???? LOL

this whole thing is getting more childish by the minute....I'm about to tell them all to take a hike. LOL

 I think that may be his way of telling you that she isn't a threat to you!

 Thats possible I guess..... :)

Original Post by seratuki:

I don't find my face to face friendships any more fulfilling than the ones I made online. Actually I find the few people I have met online to be more understanding and more welcoming than those I have known for years face to face...

this is one of the saddest statements i've ever read here.

Original Post by moonikins:

High school never ends. It just never ever ends.

Why is this so true? Why!? D:

Also, in regards to the 'petty' topic... it's not only women. I've seen plenty of grown men who act like they're 16 who's parents grounded them for smoking weed.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

Original Post by seratuki:

I don't find my face to face friendships any more fulfilling than the ones I made online. Actually I find the few people I have met online to be more understanding and more welcoming than those I have known for years face to face...

this is one of the saddest statements i've ever read here.

 You know what I think is sad? that you can be so narrow minded as to come here and say ANYTHING about her being online...that had nothing to do with the initial statement or question...and the second thing, I don't care what you think is sad honestly...thousands of people meet online every day, if they didn't there wouldn't be places like Eharmony at all...and besides that, being face to face does not give someone more value as a friend, if you think that then I feel sorry for you...

do me a favor, if you don't have anything relevant to say..don't say anything...

Original Post by cptbunny:

Original Post by moonikins:

High school never ends. It just never ever ends.

Why is this so true? Why!? D:

 

Also, in regards to the 'petty' topic... it's not only women. I've seen plenty of grown men who act like they're 16 who's parents grounded them for smoking weed.

 Seriously? thats crazy...

okay, here's something relevant: why do you care what this woman thinks?

lol...well if you'd taken the time to read back...I don't care.

I walked away from the conversation when she started spouting off at me, what I wanted to know..if you'd bothered to read the actual post.

Was why women seem to act like highschool kids when it comes to guys.

This wasn't posted in regards to what I thought of her or she of me. I was just shocked that a woman in her 30's would act so childishly...that was the initial question...

you took it off on a tangent about her being online and my friendships....

i did read the post.  i don't see my comments as a tangent at all; people behave differently on-line than they do when they have to look you in the eye.  sometimes anonymity allows for honest exchanges and sometimes it just lets people indulge in their basest impulses.  so - she was bitchy, jealous, whatever, and she didn't have to look you in the eye when she vented her ire.

and while the internet is a great place to meet people, it's a lousy place to build relationships.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

i did read the post.  i don't see my comments as a tangent at all; people behave differently on-line than they do when they have to look you in the eye.  sometimes anonymity allows for honest exchanges and sometimes it just lets people indulge in their basest impulses.  so - she was bitchy, jealous, whatever, and she didn't have to look you in the eye when she vented her ire.

and while the internet is a great place to meet people, it's a lousy place to build relationships.

 Yeah, and you really have to sometimes dismiss other people's dry, crass, judgemental  comments.

People act just as jerky in real life. I do not think the internet provides a huge buffer. (Well, maybe for people who can sit back and type about how other's lives and online friendships are "sad"..when in truth, they really do not know the person and have no actual idea....)

Are you saying, PG, that unless you are in real life....you shouldn't listen to what anyone has to say? I guess they should shut down this here "weight loss support forum too"....it's not real.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

 

and while the internet is a great place to meet people, it's a lousy place to build relationships.

I agree and disagree with you. I met my husband online and built a relationship long before we met in person and later, got married. And we both behave the same in person as we did online.

I do agree alot of people behave differently online though than in person...just not all people.

Know what I would do? It would be very fun to type in something really brief and really cheery like, "*giggles* Okay, you're right! Have a fabulous evening!" and then never ever correspond with her again.

I love to do that when someone wants to argue with me about something stupid and not worth arguing about. Drives people nuts, and actually stops the bickering unless they can bicker by themselves.

Original Post by moonikins:

High school never ends. It just never ever ends.

Agreed. Women are, in general, incredibly petty. 

Original Post by monarch777:

Are you saying, PG, that unless you are in real life....you shouldn't listen to what anyone has to say? I guess they should shut down this here "weight loss support forum too"....it's not real.

no, that's not what i'm saying.  what i'm saying is that it's a bad idea to get invested in what someone you're probably never going to meet, and who's never going to meet you, thinks of you. 

and of course that holds for my opinion of you and vice versa.

ta.  i'm off to see the friends that i can smell and touch.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

Original Post by monarch777:

Are you saying, PG, that unless you are in real life....you shouldn't listen to what anyone has to say? I guess they should shut down this here "weight loss support forum too"....it's not real.

no, that's not what i'm saying.  what i'm saying is that it's a bad idea to get invested in what someone you're probably never going to meet, and who's never going to meet you, thinks of you. 

and of course that holds for my opinion of you and vice versa.

ta.  i'm off to see the friends that i can smell and touch.

 lol...thats just it....this wasn't about what she thinks of me, personally I think she can stuff it. it was about women in general acting like highschool kids....my friends and I don't act like that, so it took me by surprise, especially since she's in her 30's.

Uh, I'm not much into smelling my friends....although I guess.....umm....ewww....

jackattack07...that was awesome.

i'm a frigid old bag because i prefer my friends in four dimensions?  okay.

and, yeah, my friends smell good.

jblarghp you may think that it was awesome! but jackattack, and seratuki just broke the rules "you're not allowed to call people names" So I suggest you remove those comments! If you can't express yourself without name slinging then you should just say nothing at all.

I thought the base of this thread was about adults acting like kids? Helllooo!

Original Post by andie-joe:

jblarghp you may think that it was awesome! but jackattack, and seratuki just broke the rules "you're not allowed to call people names" So I suggest you remove those comments! If you can't express yourself without name slinging then you should just say nothing at all.

I thought the base of this thread was about adults acting like kids? Helllooo!

 Okay well...I didn't call anyone anything....I said it was funny. and despite that. I thank Jackie for coming to my defense. It's unfair to downplay someones friendships because they're not face to face...it's judgemental and narrow minded and rude...she couldn't look at the original question and answer without being rude...yet someone comes to my defense and gets read the rules....doesn't seem fair, does it?

PG didn't even really look at the original statement but chose one small part of it and decided to be rude...would it have been to her standards if it was face to face? it would have been the same argument...thats all I'm saying!

PG asked why you cared what this girl thought when you were obviously not going to meet her. I don't see what the problem is with that.

Original Post by alibsam:

PG asked why you cared what this girl thought when you were obviously not going to meet her. I don't see what the problem is with that.

 oops sorry ali I miss read what this said I do apologise. :)