Words that stick...

Has anyone ever said something to you that just "stuck" (i.e. something you always think about)?

Just curious.  

Two things come to my mind immediately -1.  words to a song..... from Flash Dance   --"Take your passion and make it happen"  and  2.  The other were words someone on this site quoted from Ghandi-(even though I have my own Christian faith)  "Be the change you would like to see in the world"  I really like to think about that.

Absolutely. And its always really weird stuff too that I end up thinking about all the time and I catch myself, and I'm like, why am I even remembering this? My boyfriend once told me that I stood funny one day, I have watched how I stand ever since.

There are a few things that I think about, and most of them are things people have said to me that reinforce how I feel about myself.

Once, my boyfriend told me 'wow, you are skinny' when we were making love...and that really stuck with me for a while, because I was at my healthiest weight ever, and I was proud of it.

More recently, one of my son's teachers met my neighbor who also has a two year old boy. After my neighbor walked away, my son's teacher said 'you are much brighter than she is.'

And today, I was biking with my sister and we were pedaling up the pedestrian bridge near our house when a car drove by and hollered something. Assuming they said something nasty, I asked my sister if they were making fun of us and she told me, no, that they had said 'Push! I love it!' lol. So, that will probably stick with me for a while because it is the first 'cat call' I have gotten in a looooong time :)

what about you, h2oxygen?

In eighth grade a boy I kind of liked told me his friend said the only good thing about me was my boobs . . . that stuck with me since but more in a negative way.

Original Post by schnooder:

Absolutely. And its always really weird stuff too that I end up thinking about all the time and I catch myself, and I'm like, why am I even remembering this? My boyfriend once told me that I stood funny one day, I have watched how I stand ever since.

When I was about 16 someone told me that I have endless expressions and it's like my face is made of silly putty. I think she was saying I amused her but I still find myself thinking "am I making another silly putty face"

kelleigh  - The first thing that comes to mind is an incident that occurred a while ago (when I had just moved into my neighborhood). I was walking to a friend's house and my neighbor was out gardening. As I passed by, he said, "I've seen you walking around a few times this week --- I like what I see!". Needless to say, it made me feel great and I still think about those words up until now. =)

Original Post by peacecalilove:

In eighth grade a boy I kind of liked told me his friend said the only good thing about me was my boobs . . . that stuck with me since but more in a negative way.

I think you are so pretty and I have not seen your boobs!

hahahaha.

My husband told me a long time ago that he liked my "bouncy" walk when he first met me.  I alwyas kind of thought about hat when ever I walked towards him, but  then he told me some time later, after I had gained about 60 pounds that I didn't walk like that anymore.  THEN just a few days ago, after a major weight loss,  he said that I had that "bouncy" walk again.   I asked exactly what he meant by "bouncy" walk (because frankly I thought I was especially bouncy with the extra weight)  He said that now only my boobs bounced and that was what he first noticed...LOL men!

Once, when I was 16, I went to visit family and my very elderly and I am sure he had lost his sense of manners....  And let me say that I loved the old man dearly.

Anyway, he saw me and when I hugged him, he said, "You're gonna get fat!  You're gonna get fat!!" 

Damn, I did... 

 

I'll never forget one time when someone had done something disappointing (I can't remember what), my mother-in-law just said, "We all make choices." It's so simple, but it is soooo true. We all make choices, and those choices have consequences. Period.

Heck, yes.  Fortunately, I have become masterful at forgetting all the negative comments that like to stick in my head and just writing off their authors as worthless garden-variety crapheads. 

One positive comment that has stuck with me for about 16 years, from my now husband, then boyfriend, when we were dating.  I was a junior or senior in HS, and he was a soph or junior in college.  I was still living at home, he was going to college in a town about an hour away, living on campus during the week, coming home on the weekends, and coming to my house at least a couple of times during the week just to spend time in the afternoons/nights, usually after he got off work about 30 mins from my house.  Anyway, one night we were sitting talking, and he said out of the blue, "It doesn't matter how sh*tty my day has been, or how sh*tty my week has been, or how sh*tty I feel, when I come here, everything is instantly all ok again." 

How nice it is, fortunately, that the good (usually) sticks better than the bad. 

My hubby used to tell me I had a lisp.  That made me mad.  I'm self conscious about it all the time now.  He said it in front of all my co-workers.  After he realized I was upset about it... he told me he thought it was cute.  Way too late for a cover up.  So know it's a joke.  But I am A L W A Y S  conscious of it.  
Luckily he is the ONLY one who has ever said it.... or admitted it when I've asked others. 
He's a brat... but I love him.  :) 

Original Post by schnooder:

Absolutely. And its always really weird stuff too that I end up thinking about all the time and I catch myself, and I'm like, why am I even remembering this? My boyfriend once told me that I stood funny one day, I have watched how I stand ever since.

Reminds me of when I was a younger teen my mom saw me walking across the street up a hill, she told me later I was sticking my butt out?? So after that I was trying to walk straighter going up hills.

I had a boyfriend who told me that my walk was "gangsta runway".  Then when my asked my parents if I walked any particular way, my stepmom told me she'd always thought of it as my "coming to kick your ass" walk.

So now when I'm in a hurry or working quickly or just really busy, I wonder if I'm walking "gangsta runway".

Three moments come to mind:

1.) My X husband asking my Dr. when I was 8 months pregnent with our second if she could give me a C-section instead of let me have the baby normally, because he didn't enjoy sex with me after I had our first. (I never thought you could pin point the exact moment that you fall out of love with someone, but it can happen.)

2.) The ultrasound tech telling everyone that she needed quiet when she spotted something wrong with the baby. Everyone (husband, mom and two daughters) was in the room to find out the gender and we were all happy and I will never forget her saying that because the whole mood changed instantly.

3.) My current husband asking me to marry him out of the blue. I swear I was the happiest woman alive!

I once had a pastor say to me "Do you want your daughter to turn out like you" when he disapproved of a life choice I had made.  I never forgot that.  I left the church and never went back. 

Right after I gave birth to my oldest son, I felt completely wiped out and, frankly a little gross.  My husband looked at me and said with the most loving and serene look on his face: "You're beautiful."  I'll never forget that.

My chorus teacher, Mrs. Bart in 8th grade looked me dead in the face for a full 15 seconds; and said "You'll be pretty some day"  That was almost 20 years ago and it still makes me feel like poo.

Vanessa - I want to kick Mrs. Barts a$$, you are beautiful.

Original Post by peacecalilove:

In eighth grade a boy I kind of liked told me his friend said the only good thing about me was my boobs . . . that stuck with me since but more in a negative way.

 I think most 8th grade boys would say that about ANY girl!

I'll always remember when one of my friends said, "Sometimes you just have to accept people for who they are."  So true!