Has anyone ever said something to you that just "stuck" (i.e. something you always think about)?
Just curious.
when things don't turn out perfectly my Aunt Kathy always says "Make it do, do it over or do without" It's a good outlook on life.
A girl asked me why my voice sounded 'like that' in music class in 7th grade. I still think of it when singing hymns. For some reason nearly all ministers & their wives have really nice singing voices. 
Well, my hubby does anyway.
[one time when i was singing to my 2 yr old son he reached up and put his hand over my mouth...that's when I really knew for sure!]
Original Post by schnooder:
Original Post by peacecalilove:
In eighth grade a boy I kind of liked told me his friend said the only good thing about me was my boobs . . . that stuck with me since but more in a negative way.
I think you are so pretty and I have not seen your boobs!
hahahaha.
Thank you! I've think I already told you before but I think you're super pretty, especially in that blue shirt of yours!
Two things that come immediately to mind:
One was work related - in my first internship, my boss told me that he liked that I always brought him solutions, not problems. Since then, I have always tried to do that (in everything in life, actually), and it has served me well.
The second, on a more personal level - some strange man walking down the street in the city said to me as I walked by, "Girl, you've got the devil in your walk!" He didn't seem like a habitual perv, so that was even better. Whenever I'm feeling yuck, that always makes me smile.
In sixth grade Jimmy P. said to me "Move over bacon, now theres someone leaner" and thats when a figured out that I was fat. I went home and cried and from that moment on I always worry about my weight and how people perceived me, whether I was overweight or not.
I hope you turned out fat Jimmy P. !
After 32 years of marriage, I'm studying for my 3rd degree and my husband says, your alot smarter then I thought you were. LOL, ( I think he's just willing to admit it now.
One day walking through the house to the pool, ( a few years ago) he said I had a great butt.
My daughter in law told me yesterday, when I get mad I lick my lips. It's driving me nuts now. Then again she knows if I'm mad I guess. My daughter in law to be, said I'm really cool, I guess she doesn't know I lick my lips. LOL
Original Post by vanessa1031:
My chorus teacher, Mrs. Bart in 8th grade looked me dead in the face for a full 15 seconds; and said "You'll be pretty some day" That was almost 20 years ago and it still makes me feel like poo.
Dang. Looking at you now, there's no way she knew what the hell she was talking about! :-)
It really sucks that simple words can make such a long lasting impact on us. It's sad that people don't realize that BEFORE the words come out of their mouths.
There are a few that've stuck with me, some bad and some good ...
- I grew up pretty poor, (we're talkin' lived in the mid-70's Suburban with my brother, mom & dad and picked cans at the city dump to get money for food), when I was in the 5th grade one of the rich, popular girls walked up to me (with her posse in tow) and asked, loud enough for the whole world to hear, "why are you so poor?" It was humiliating.
- My mom used to often tell me, when we were facing one or another of the many moments of adversity while I was growing up, "this too shall pass, honey." Simple but true. When things get rough, I always go back to that.
- About 3 years ago, I was venting to my friend Shellie about a situation with a best friend from college. She'd become flakey and kind of distant and I was having a hard time understanding why and was hurt. Shellie, whom I was still getting to know, told me "friendships change, Marie, and maybe the friendship you guys used to have doesn't serve the same purpose anymore." It made me realize that even if a friendship lasts a lifetime it can change in nature according to what each of the people involved needs in their life at that time, and that maybe I needed to take a look at what we BOTH needed out of our friendship, that maybe the nature of our friendship was different now. She made me see things in a different way with that friend in particular, but she also made me see friendships in general in a new light and it made me realize that being open to change in my relationships was a good thing and could make everyone concerned happier. She's a very dear friend of mine now, one of the best! And, my relationship with the other friend has actually gotten better and we're closer than ever before!
Had to end on a good one!
Unfortunately for me only the negative comments "stick". I suppose that says something about my personality...but what?
Honestly, how do you let go of something that has stuck? Suggestions please! Here are a few of the ones I want to "un-stick"
1. "You look pretty again" - backhanded compliment from my mother a few weeks ago trying to say something nice to me after I lost 20lbs.
2. "You could lose 100 lbs" - My hubby said this to me earlier this year. I got SO PISSED! That's what motivated me to join CC and the darned tools on here agreed with my DH! That was a wake-up call.
3. "Mommy, you're fat" - from the lips of my 5 year old son 
4. About 5 years ago a guy in Borders walked passed me and said "You're so fat you shouldn't be allowed out of your house". Mind you, I was about 6 months pregnant and wearing a bright yellow fleece (bought it for walking at night so cars would see me) which didn't flatter me at all, but it crushed me.
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