worst insult you ever got because of your weight....

mine by FAR was last schoolyear

so i was rushing to get out of social studies class (small desks and it SOOO hot in that room!) so i climb up my chair and jump over my desk. before i get to the door my teacher said 'better not do that again! im suprised you didnt break through the floor!' and the whole class laughed SOOO hard i thought i was gonna die!! :( sooo embarassing, i was really upset and i am usually not one to be affected by that stuff.... however i lost 30lbs this summer so hopefully i wont get any more comments like that....

bstefano, your father-in-law is lucky I'm not his daughter-in-law.  He would have been stabbed with a fork long before now.

Again, I really don't fit in here, but it's just as hurtful on the other end of the spectrum.  I have always been very petite and recently found out why.  I have celiac sprue and have a hard time gaining weight.

"Are you wormy or something, you look awful."

"You could stand sideways and stick your tongue out and look like a zipper."

"Better put rocks in your pockets you are going to blow away." 

Sorry everyone that you have had to endure such ugly comments through your lives, if people would only think before they speak.

Wow, I read all these hurtful things and am just appalled.  While I'm sure I have been talked about behind my back, I don't believe I have ever been insulted to my face (with regards to my weight/size), other than in a passive/agressive manner (slender person talking about how much weight they need to lose -- to the person who outweighs them by a good 50 pounds).  I've been told I'm rather "imposing" (I'm shy but I'm stocky & I have a loud voice), so perhaps everyone is just afraid of me -- I don't know.

I do know that some of the comments by parents (in particular) are simply reprehensible, and undefendable (not sure that's an actual word); parents should have to take a test before they become parents.

There is absolutely NO reason for anyone to talk to/about anyone in the manner that ya'll have written about -- to their face or behind their backs.  Children can be cruel -- but parents CAN teach them how not to be.  Teachers have no right to talk to students in the manner that Allyxs's did and yes, I would complain to the school/district (and I don't do that easily); friends who speak this way are NOT friends; unfortunately you can't pick your relatives or your parents, however, you could remind them that ya'll share the same gene pool and life is funny sometimes.... If you walk out on a waiter -- and tell management it is because the waiter insulted you, you have made a statement.

And it doesn't matter whether you are being insulted because someone percieves you to be OVER or UNDER weight (short/tall, ugly/pretty, etc) -- you don't deserve it.

I pass to all of you my hugs (ooo, not well known for that, either) and hope you know, that although words can cut, they cannot kill (we just think so sometimes); be the the stronger person and do not respond in kind -- a bully is always looking for that response. 

a little 4 yr old once asked me why I was so fat (who I knew loved me and did not even know how hurtful it could be).  I knew his parents always ridicule how fat people look.  Made me sad to know that he was already being affected by this. 

Had a nurse when I was 22 and 150 lbs tell me with a sneer and disgust that I was too fat and that was why it was hard for them to get blood.  Maybe she thought she was helping me.  I was mortified.

Had a boss who looked everyone up and down, head to toe and back up again.  She rarely looked at me with a smile or acknowledged me unless I got in her face and made her acknowledge me.  I usually chose to do that when other people were with her, but I once over heard her on the phone say something like: "fat people make me ill.  They're disgusting.  They're mentally ill."  So, I knew how she really felt about me, underneath her "required politeness."  Stuck up beotch.

I have a different sort of story to tell and it pains me to this day:

I was majorly thin all through middle school and high school. I developed anorexia around the 6th grade and had terrible self esteem. My best friend was a big girl and she got teased ALL THE TIME. I never hesitated to defend her. I literally got into fist fights taking up for her. Well... because of my poor self esteem and over all weak body, I had very bad posture. I had a crush on this boy, like a HUGE crush. My "best friend" had a crush on him too. In 8th grade, he decided to run around class acting like the Hunchback of Notredame! I sat there while my whole class laughed at me, including my best friend. She just looked at me and said "Well, he is right." God, I sat their like a stone, looking straight ahead until it was time to go. The worst part was the teacher just sat there and let him do it! On top of that, I still took up for her when people made fun of her! I don't know what I was thinking. I guess I knew how bad it hurt to be made fun of too, you know? I cried all the way home and didn't go back to school for the rest of that week. I wanted to die!

it's so terrible how mean people can be!  I'm so sorry that you all had such awful experiences.  What angers me is that people feel like they have the right to comment on my body, or on anyone's body.  I recently gained 20 pounds and it really shows on my small frame-went from size 7/8 to 11/12.  Here's a bit what I've been told by friends and co-workers:  "OH! You're not pregnant?  We'll you look like it cuz your tummy's big."  "Looks like you've been eating!"  "You walk like a little girl since you've gained all that weight"  "Why, I've never seen your ass look so big!"  "Hey!  Put down the cupcake."  "At least your bigger boobs defer the attention away from the rest of you."   "Maybe if you lost some weight your knees wouldn't hurt as much." The list goes on.  Keep in mind these are unsolicited comments.  I wasn't talking about weight or anything, they just said these nasty things out of the blue.

oh my god, i am soo depressed now and have tears in my eyes , what the hell kinda world  do we live in?!!  i  have to many comments than i can write  , but always being very leg heavy and having huge self  esteem problems with my legs (  i havent worn shorts or a skirt in 20 years) 'thunder thighs' really hurts

Ok, here's two.  Let me start by saying, I've been skinny to the verge of underweight before (and never received so many compliments in my entire life), but after hs cross country ended, and I recovered from mono, my weight went back up to normalish range.

About 2 weeks ago, my family was at a distant relative's house for dinner.  My brother (who came back from college overweight, but lost it all very recently) in front of everyone slapped my arm repeatedly and was like "wow, kid, you're giggling.  You better start working out."  Truth is, I do work out...?  Anyway, he tells me I'm on the ice cream, cookies, and chips diet.  which is false entirely.  I felt so nausiated (I actually was still a little hungover from the previous night) that I went u pto my mom and claimed that I didn't feel well, and wanted to walk home (a few blocks away).  She put up a fight, but ultimately let me go.  His comment really shook my core.  I went home and bought a gazillion magazines (shape, fitness, women's health, health etc), and just cried over them.

A few days later, my mom (who is my twin, except she has a smaller frame - we're usually the same weight - though I'm usually lighter) and I are in a fitting room, and a small top doesn't fit me.  As she puts it on, she claims "you really need to stop eating junk.  Like the other night; we all know you left your aunt's lovely dinner just to eat junk alone at home.  that was so horrible of you"

little did she know that I was in the middle of weight-related breakdown...

 

The absolute worst came te other day though.  My good friend (so reliable, always super-nice, slighty overweight) calls me at midnight clearly drunk, mutters some stuff and hangs up.  does it again.  and again.  finally I can hear what he's saying.  he's with a group of guys and yells, "pick up the damn phone girl.  my god.  hey guys, dude shes gotten so fat.  I can't even be around her.  I just think she's too..."  then it cuts off.

wonderful.  we've since stopped talking.  but he can't "remember" why

emp315- If I were you I'd tell your guy friend what he said and let him understand the reprecussions of his actions, if that means losing you as a friend then its his loss and clearly not yours. That's my two cents and this is comin from another guy

My worst one was actually a week ago

After 2 months of dieting and losing 20 lbs, i was proud of myself. Then I go outside during the evening to walk my dog, and a car passes by. Windows roll down and all the sudden a guy I've never seen in my life saids "You're SO FAT!" and drives off. I sat there thinking wth, and went home completely shocked.

After coming back home I was in tears and didn't feel like eating, and my mom starts yelling at me for banging the door when I came home. She noticed that I was crying and I told her what happened. At first she said "You're not that fat, don't worry. Ignore that person", so I calmed down. Next morning though, first thing she saids to me as she looks at me: "You need to lose weight faster. Don't eat today" 

Really makes me sad to think how mean some people are, and even how  the closest people in your life can make the most hurting comments :/ 

I have two actually.

The first was right after i had lost 30 lbs and was in the best shape of my life. I had just gotten done on the treadmill for an hour and was going out for dinner with my family. At the reasturant, we met a guy from my dad's work, and when we where introduced, he pointed to my belly and asked me if i had a baby in there. i have no idea why, because i wasnt fat at all. my dad said it was probably just the way my shirt was lifted up a little, but i still got a little teary eyed.

the second was much worse, as it was intentionally an insult, and from my brother. i was getting dressed for christmas dinner with my family, and put on my new sweater that i loved. when i walked out of  my room, my brother told me that i looked like i was trying to fit 10 lbs of shit in a 5 lbs bag. i had gained back 20 lbs of what i had lost, and so was already feeling down, and i just started bawling.

My twin was always heavy when we were growing up, so I got to hear what people would say about her.  That lead to a nice eating disorder for me, but I digress...

We were at a punk show years ago...it was NOFX...great band.  :)  We were in the pit and it got too intense for her, so I leaned back and asked the dude behind me to move so my sister could get out.  As she walked by, he said:  I'll bet she's going to the snack bar.

I reacted.  I punched him square in the nose.  It was so bloody it was like his head exploded.  He pulled back like he was going to hit me, but a bouncer grabbed him, said:  If you hit her, you die, and threw him out.  After the show, a few of my buds beat on him pretty badly.  I'd like to think that he never made fun of another overweight girl ever again.

its really sad to see how many people on here are affected by cruel comments.  The comments I have the worst memories of are from my nan - if there's any Brits on here, imagine the gran from catherine tate! She's alright normally, but on some days she's hell to be around.  - About a month ago, she said some comments that really stuck.  I was about 140lbs at the time, and considering I'm 5'8, thats not too bad.  I was dead hungry, so I went into the kitchen and got some peas out of the freezer, and ate them frozen (i know, weird habbit!) She walked in, and said "My god, Ally, why are you stuffing your fat face again?" then burst out laughing.  I didnt see the funny side.  - Then, the next day, She was trying to make me eat a crossaint after I'd already had breakfast.  When I wouldnt, she got annoyed, and said, infront of about 5 of my friends "Ally, pull in your stomach.  Its so bloated you look pregnant." I nearly died of embarrassment.
-There have been worse, but I think its the ones from family that cut the deepest.

Insults from complete strangers aren't much better though... what gives anyone the right to insult or comment on our bodies? From anyone it's inappropriate... People are so ridiculously cruel sometimes...

"Lose 30 lbs and you'll be hot!"

alicandra  - yes, comments from family hurt the most.  My Mother (and yes I am Brit too), said "you are so fat and ugly its no wonder you haven't got a man in your life".  But I do have a man in my life, but I don't tell her my business!   Another time I was sitting in the kitchen having a cuppa when a neighbour turned up.  Mother Dearest prodded me in the side and said to the neighbour "just look at my fat daughter, she is twice the size of us".    I am 5'5" and currently at 165lbs, down from 178lbs, dress size 14.  Okay so I do need to lose some more weight, but comments cut to the core!

Hmm... I've lost track of the things my parents have said to me that have made me feel crap but I remember two occassions that really hurt.

1. Walking through my local train station when I was probably about 16 - these two teenage boys (younger teens than I was) were walking past and one of them turned around and said "My god, look at her!" and they both laughed. That hurt becase it was the first time a complete stranger had ever insulted me. I'd been bullied a lot but it was always by people who knew me and I figured they just didn't like me. To be judged purely on my looks was a bit of a shock.

2. Probably around the same. I had a boyfriend I'd been with for about 3 years at this point and someone said to me "I bet you have to give [Sam] love potion to get him to stay with you. Why else would anyone date such a fat bitch?". (His name wasn't really Sam). That was pretty distressing.

i was about 30 pounds heavier in high school, and had very little confidence. one day i walked into study hall with a friend of mine who happened to be chinese. there were some upperclass guys in the class who were always making stupid comments towards her because she was chinese. so i gave them the dirtiest look i could. of of the kids looked at me and said "what are you looking at, you ugly a$$ed skank?" it crushed me then, but i think i've gotten the last laugh. wish he could see me NOW!

I can relate to "ADIFTIME".  I was so skinny that my father's "term of endearment" for me was Wormy. 

Then some sob in gym glass gave me the name "Milk Bone Dog Biscuits".  Some other gems - Spagetti Leggs, Bones, Bony Maroni, Stick Drawn, BOAS (Boobs on a stick.)

When overweight, in new orleans with friends we were all getting off the elevator and some guys were out side and were saying "hottie, hottie, hottie" as my friends got off, then they said "nottie" when I got off.  It was pretty funny but hurtful. 

i know it hurts to hear crap like that from people but think of this too - but some people are just a$$holes, and will always find a niche, any perceived chink in your armor to bring you down if it helps to "lift them up"  -  totally because of their own insecurities. In high school i was slender, tall, and fawned over by most of the guys, but yes, i do have quiet a bit of freckles and some people just dont dig that, so once i had an argument with some little brat and his parting shot was " shut up you stupid ugly bitc* , god, dont you realize what a dog you are with all those spots all over you"......  and this little s.o.b was covereed with freckles himself!! grrr that stuck for a while, it wasnt until i was 19 and dating a super hot male stripper that i got over that idea and started to feel pretty again (and on im not joking.. talk about an ego boost:)   since I've been fat, the worst insult has been from my mom (overweight herself) who told me i have gooten fat and had bigger thighs than her - we only talk once a month, i cant imagine why....