Is it worth my period? please help :( i need it back!

ok, i woke up today to see it was 14th Jan, the day of my last period (have it marked on last year's calender) a year ago, and havent had one since. Its been stressing me out for the past year. i lost heaps of weight and my period and having regained the best health ive ever had.....still no period.

there must be countless threads on this issue, none fully answered. I know theres heaps of ways to regain a period; fats in the diet, gain weight, excercise....

but i am 124pound like my doctor wanted me at, which is the 68th percentile for my age while my height is at the 58th......am im heavier than everyone else i know, its disturbing. Don't get me wrong im happy with myself and love my life its just even after this i still dont have my period. i felt great at 120 and wouldnt it be healthier given my height?? 165cm and 57kg. like i said my weight is at a higher percentile. i believe that maybe this weight was set for me in fear that i may relapse, which is like next to impossible :P iim affraid to excercise and put my body under strain. im getting enough fats, im not particularly weak, im fine, i dont get it.

i probably will, once i get my period back get down to 55kg, which would match up to my height at the 58th percentile, i know its only 2 kilo (like 5pound) but its still something.

my nan and mum are both 5 foot 4 and my dad not much taller, so i dont think i have much growing to go, so id rather just be nice and set at 55kg. every part of me is ssoooo glad i have gotten rid of my ED and have an all round happier lifestyle, but to be honest the fact im heavier than average im affraid may set me back into my ED if im not careful, i think its the fact ive lost my period thats keeping me from that. im not sure but im really in need of some reassurance.

thanks sso much for reading all this and for all the help youve given me in the past :)

The one danger, no matter how recovered you feel you are (and I must admit you do seem so very much so) is that with ANY history of an ED you have a danger of possibly slipping back to that mindset. That "last few pounds", "just a few more" ideal.

As for your period returning... be patient, hun. You're doing and have done all the right things. Keep eating plenty of fats, don't stress your body too much with exercise... though if you are truly worried, mention it to your doctor. I would also discuss about the possible weight loss with your doctor, too, because they will be best to tell you if that is at all wise. Personally I think you're at a lovely weight right now and have fought so hard and well to reach that.

You should never ever miss your period often because that is a very dangerous thing to do. If you have been living a healthier lifestyle, it will definitely return. No worries. :)

Heya holbee,

Very glad to see you're maintaining a healthy weight. 

I also recently reached a healthy BMI for my height, but have not got my period back yet.  In the past, I got my period back when I was still underweight while trying to gain (silly billy that I am, I relapsed that time). 

Give it time.  Ellie's right about eating plenty of fats and not overexercising. 

Just wanted to add that you're not "heavier than average", as you posted.  Methinks that's a hangover from ED.  You're at a fantastic weight right now, and don't need to lose any. 

Again, happy to see you haven't given in to ED.  You're an inspiration to all.

All the best,

Mel. xox

maybe its just your body adjusting? unsure, i only get 2 periods ayear, and thats how it is, watch, it may come back a again

Thanks all :)

i've (once again) asked my mum to take me to the doctor about my periods so that should shine some light on it.

with that little bit of weight i wish to loose, i am worried it'd start off my ED, so ill just let it go, it doesnt matter, who knows i could have some growing yet to do :)

my only problem is i need to be patient, and ive heard that simply stressing over not having a period can prevent it from coming back. whether thats true or not ill try to not let it bother me, although it is very hard.

i suppose it varies, i just hope im not doing anything wrong, curious as to what the doctor will say, possible will just be for me to wait. im happy where i am and will leave it at that

im going to just let my body be what it wants to be!

thanks again :P

Holly ox

My period was never all that "regular" before I lost weight, but after losing 80lbs, it pretty much became non existent. I am still "overweight" (5'5" and usually weighing in at about 155) but I've maintained my weight for over 3 years, and my period still hasn't returned with any consistency. I usually get it 1-2 times a year, even if I take BC, which should force me to get it. Right now it's been 6 months since my last, but my doc says it's just my body's nature...and it's not anything to worry about. So if you talk to your doc, and they say all is good, don't worry about it. Trust me, not everyone has the perfect 28 day cycle, as all literature on the subject would have you believe.

You're most welcome, Holly. 

Stress can delay or prevent a period occurring, so, yes, relax and try not to worry.  Give your body a chance to realise that you're no longer in, and have no plans to return to, ED mode, and it'll crank up the reproductive system soon enough.  Same thing as for the brain and metabolism.  Just takes some time for everything to settle back into the old healthy routine.

All the best.

Mel. xox