wow. i am so discouraged right now.

what is the deal?

i have been working really hard. my heighest weight was 185 and i am now 165, i am making a lot of progress in my exercise, my old clothes are too big, and i think i look better. or at least, i thought. and that was a big step for me, actually liking what i saw. and most importantly, i was finally getting over the guilt that overwhelms me anytime i put something in my mouth.

i have been getting a lot of comments on my weight lately. my dad, my grandma, and my psychiatrist. i NEVER got comments on me being fat when i was 185, and now that i'm working hard people keep saying i look bigger, etc. i am wondering if it's because my body shape is clearly changing - i noticed it, i gained a lot of inches on my hips and my mid-section stayed the same. before i used to gain it all in my stomach like most kids (i'm a teenager now), and now after 20 lbs my stomach is rather flat but my hips and thighs are massive like most women who are trying to lose weight.

i don't know what i'm saying, i'm just discouraged. what is the point if i'm just going to be brought down by people? yeah, i did feel good about myself but one little comment from my grandma tonight just made my head explode. i struggle with inclinations to fast, overexercise, and purge and even though i logically know i do this as almost a "yo-yo diet" type thing and losing weight this way won't LAST, i still always have the draw.

how can i get over this!! i am so frustrated and i'm not discouraged in the sense that i want to stuff my face, i'm discouraged in the sense that i want to starve myself for three weeks and run 6 miles a night so it comes off faster and people will stop saying i'm bigger. like, i want to "show them". i've done this before but i always gain it back, i never stick with it for more than a month so i've never had a technical eating disorder i guess. but i don't WANT to starve because i know i'll gain everything back and then some, and plus i'll feel terrible while doing it.

kind words, funny stories, or similar experiences would be really helpful right now.

don't let the opinions of other people get you down. (i can't believe that your psychiatrist, of all people, would say something. wow.) i know it's easier to say it than to actually do it, but they have no reason to make rude comments. you've lost 20 lbs already, don't give up now just because they're being jerks.

you said that you noticed changes and liked what you saw, and that's what matters. don't let 'em ruin your happiness.

and please don't starve yourself! that will do way more harm than good. you'll feel so much bettter about yourself if you do it the healthy way. eat good foods and exercise a few times a week. the weight will come off, you've just got to be patient.

a few of my "friends" always used to make fun of me for being fat. i usually went home from school in tears. once someone told me that if i ever cut myself, i'd bleed mayonaise. i moved away from that town 3 years ago, and since then i've lost about 75 lbs. i went back there for a visit a couple of months ago, and when they saw me they were speechless. i didn't lose the weight to impress anyone, but seeing the shocked expressions on their faces was awesome, ahaha.

good luck! :)

20 pounds is honestly amazing. Do you remember all that hard work? And look, you lost twenty pounds! It's just so cool!

Maybe the people who are saying comments are worried or something? I have no idea. Do they think that by saying that then you won't yo-yo diet or do anything similar? I can't tell you for sure, but who knows humans are a mystery.

There is a point in this. 1) You will continue to look better, week by week. 2) You will be replacing unhealthy habits with healthy ones so later in life you will not have the same problems you faced before. 3) You will feel attractive at a healthier weight. (hopefully) 4) You can wear a bikini more comfortably. 5) You will be happier looking in the mirror. 6) You can actually exercise without popping a brain vessel. 7) You can wear trendier clothes. 8) You will be feeling happier because eating healthy and exercising go hand in hand with a more postive outlook on life. 9) Unhealthy eating or stuffing your face will make you feel like a balloon. And gulity. Bad Combo. 10) Because you deserve to be happy at whichever weight you choose to be. You, your health (both mentally and psychologically) are worth a million crap comments from mindless idiots.

There. That's all I have at seven in the morning. There are too many stories to tell about the people who yo-yo diet or battle binging/anorexia to say. Unhealthy ways=crap ending.

There's something about human nature where a person's own insecurity makes them want to see other people fail, or when they see other people succeed, they feel badly about their own situation.

The truth of the matter is I am sure you look better.   You are young, you are getting healthy.  Do not let petty remarks or jealousy get in the way of what you are accomplishing.  You are doing this for yourself firstly, not for the approval of others.

You know in your mind what its taken to get this far and what it will take to keep going.  As was pointed out previously, it gets better day by day and week by week.  No one can 'target' certain areas of the body to lose fat.  The body will use fat from wherever it wants, but what you can count on is eventually you will thin out and lose in the stubborn places if you stick with it.

You want to be healthy and enjoy life, not just to be a certain number on the scale.  Keep that perspective, be confident and others will pick it up.  If they try to bring you down its their issues not yours.  Thank them kindly for their opinion and move on. :)

Good luck and keep it up!

i appreciate all of your posts. they were just what i was looking for - this weekend i was sick so i didn't get to exercise, but i didn't starve or do anything ridiculous so that's the important part! i haven't fallen off the wagon either way, i'm so happy.