wow dont do this like i did

So i just barley saw some pictures from last april

and im depressed.

I was so thin, i was like 115 and i thought i was fat, i dieted so much the point that it made me sick of it and gained 10 to 15 pounds. i just can't stay away from fries, chips, cookies, tortillas, and all that.

back in april i DID NOT, i mean DID NOT eat that stuff.

i was obsessed;

then... in july i got to 110 and i was so happy.

one weekend at the lake ruined it all.

then i slowly gained 20 pounds

i really need motivation

Aw, allibugg, you look good NOW, too. I don't think you need to diet at your age. You have a lot more growing left to do so please don't deprive yourself of nutrients by dieting. You will regret it later in life if you don't give your body all it needs to grow healthily now. You can always diet when you're an adult (if you need to - and i'm not talking crash diets), but you can't "catch up" on growing when you're past that time in life.

Also, completely eliminating foods you love will only make you want them more. Allow yourself treats once in a while. Maybe your wanting "fries, chips, cookies..." is because your body was deprived when you were dieting.  One more thing, you said that you were "so thin" but thought you were fat. This is a common problem for a lot of people: We just don't appreciate what we have till it's gone, and we always want something better, more. So, love yourself now. You're thin NOW, too :)

that picture was in july.

i gained 20 pounds

but thanks :]]

You're 13, though, aren't you? If so, you're not even close to being done growing yet. And how tall are you? Trust me, it's not a good idea to diet so young. I was just like you at your age (I'm 23 now) and I dieted and starved myself throughout my teen years. The result is that I am still the same size now as I was at the age of 12. My school height/weight charts show not only a gradual decrease in weight over the years, but a decrease in height, too. (I don't know the medical reason why but it may be related to bone loss???) I regret doing that to myself every day because I will always be short now. Short is fine, but who knows if I might've ever grown that extra couple of inches I now wish I had? People usually guess I'm about 15 or 16 years old, so some people don't really take me seriously because of that.

And isn't it healthy to gain about twenty pounds in your early teens? I'm pretty sure it's unhealthy NOT to gain weight around your age. If I'm wrong, I apologize.

You know those pictures in which you thought you were fat but you're not?  Well, the same thing is true now..... You think you're fat because you've gained 20lbs but you're not.  Your body is changing, growing and developing from a 'little girl' to a 'woman'.... that's normal, natural and you're going to gain weight in the process.  

Choose good quality foods, plenty of fresh vegetables & fruit etc., but also enjoy some chips and chocolate.... Learn how to cook healthy, tasty meals with fresh ingredients but also make room for a cookie or two.   A healthy diet doesn't mean existing on raw turnips and brown rice.   If you tend to obsess, find some balance.

Be active.... find activities you enjoy and participate.  Whether it's dancing, cycling or running round a track... find something you like doing and do it.

And finally.... happiness is not found in the bathroom scale.  If you're self-conscious about the way you look, if growing up frightens you or  if you're unhappy or dissatisfied in some way, talk to the people close to you and tell them how you feel.  If you're depressed, talk to your doctor... depression is an illness.   Find ways to boost your confidence that don't revolve around your body-weight.   Find things to challenge you mentally and that give you a sense of achievement and purpose.   What are your goals in life?  What are you passionate about?  Confident people are happy at any weight.   That should be you....

i've been through this a few times.. and the ONLY way to stop the cycle of going up and down (which is sooooo beyond bad for you!!!), is to force yourself to eat healthy.

but at the same time, allow yourself the occasional treat! what i've found helps the most right now, is putting notes for myself in places. i have notes in my purse, where my money is.. and on my cellphone display picture, telling me to not eat the junk food and go to the gym. (i'm in time-stress mode, as my wedding is coming up on the 24th..) so that's a good way to push yourself away from the bad foods...

also, a lot of pubs and restaurants have a healthier choice menu, so if you like going out with friends but dread the wings and pub-food, just order something healthier...

if you like bread, switch to dempster's wraps. the small ones have about 90 calories each, and taste great... you also end up using less sandwhich meat/topping/whatever on a wrap than you do bread.

getting in shape, is not about restricting yourself from things you love, it's about a lifestyle alteration, and finding ways to enjoy healthy foods...

also, don't focus too much on the number on the scale. if anything, invest in a scale that also measures body fat percent... because you can work out and eat healthy, but weigh yourself and notice the numbers go up.. but always remember---muscle weighs more than fat! i got a bit upset thinking that i gained two pounds. but also noticed, my bodyfat percent went down by two! so really, that's like losing weight. the numbers aren't always a deciding factor...

if you feel uncomfortable with "flabby spots" which i'm sure you don't have... but if you feel worried, do a turbojam video. they're amazing.. or even get a personal trainer, just for a month or two, and have them help you work through a program to tone things up.

the WORST thing a person can do for their body is to limit the amount of food they take in. in the long run, all this will do is cause their bodies to be in starvation mode, and you will gain weight after you get "fed up" of eating like a rabbit. you have to keep your metabolism up.

and a few great words of advice i've been given recently:

EAT BREAKFAST LIKE A KING, LUNCH LIKE A PRINCE, AND DINNER LIKE A COLLEGE KID WITH A MAXED OUT CREDIT CARD.

best of luck! if you have any questions, feel free to ask! having an obsession with weight has actually allowed me to learn a few things. :) don't stress too much lady!

<3

just a side note..

i see you're 13.

DO NOT RESTRICT YOUR FOOD INTAKE!

you're young. and should be eating quite a bit, because you're growing.

not saying you have an eating disorder... but with anorexia/bulemia, at such a young age (i was anorexic and bulemic from the age of 14...kids can be mean and call other kids fat, it's hard... i was overweight when i was 12/13....) but what happens, is it messes up your body.... in so many ways....

let's just say... i'm 24 now, and my periods are so irrregular that my chances of having a baby with my fiance are slim... and my teeth got so damaged from throwing up when i was in my early teens that i've actually had my wisdom teeth and molars removed because they were so broken...i had digestive problems for the longest time, and i STILL can't really drink milk on it's own because my stomach can't handle it...

if you start to find that you're starving yourself, and obsessed with losing weight, and think you're fat even though people tell you you're too thin--please seek some professional help...

Like most have said you still look good and you aren't anywhere near finished growing so calorie restriction isn't the answer. Noticing your eating habits have changed is a good thing, as well as your activity level. I would simply suggest being aware of you eating choices and try to make healthy choices while still having your treats. At this age dieting shouldn't be your focus but eating healthy is a good habit to start now before you become an adult with issues with food.

im not 13! :]

Soooorry about that then. I thought your profile birthdate was April 1994.

Original Post by allibugg:

im not 13! :]

Well, last January you posted that you were in 8th grade....so you're 14?

nopeeee! :]]

i'm in the same boat. 2 years ago i was super skinny, and i never had body issues although i did have an eating disorder, but not because i thought i was fat. and then over the past 2 years i gained 40-50 pounds, and i wish i could go back to the days where i wasn't watching what i ate. :(