Hello all, I joined 6/01. a lot of my problems stem from low self esteem. Being overweight I feel that I don't like myself, my husband won't like me either (luckily he has never said that) But the mind is amazing. Plus we don't have the zing we once had and I want that back... I comfort myself with food. My husband thinks that he is taking care of us by paying our house payments, and maintaining the house, but the emotional part is not there, unless it is for the intimate portion of our life.
Yesterday I started the food journal and the log and I found that I am eating 3/4 of my calories before dinner!!! I thought I was eating healthy. so I guess tomorrow I have to start researching what to change...
Hope all that are interested send me a message I would love to know there are others going thru this and how they are dealing with it. Is it me being a "emotional female" I don't think so. anyway as work and time with my family permits I will be reading others profiles as I try to really win this battle once and for all.....
I found that I am an emotional eater, which surprised me because I didn't start to "put it together" until I journaled everything I ate in the log. Then I started to see a pattern between what I ate and what was going on in my life. I eat when I get bored, lonely, nervous, etc. (Only I eat most of my calories after dinner...I would sit down on the couch, start thinking, and hit the bag of chips or the chocolate. ) I've found that increasing the intensity of my workouts is helping me reduce my stress, which means I eat less.
I'm an emotional eater too - I find it's too easy to curl up with a book and some chips or cookies...and keep eating and reading. I lose all count of how much I've eaten unless I use CC :) I also eat when am bored, stressed..was laid off for a bit and really gained some weight on the bum/belly area as a result of this!
When I'm depressed I crave sugar and then afterwards I fell even more depressed because I feel guilty for eating so unhealthy, so I know where you're coming from.
I'm sure you're husband love you regardless of your size but you have to remember that different people show love differently. It sounds to me like your husband shows love for you by being a provider. Just remember that he wouldn't be married to you if he didn't love you and tell him how much you appreciate what he does but ask if he could also provide some emotional support. First, you need to decide exactly how you want him to provide emotional support, because even though he's married to you and lives w/ you and really should be able to figure it out on his own, he's a man and you will need to spell it out for him. Is it just observations and encouraging words that you need? Like "Wow honey you've done really well on your diet" or something more physical like occasional flowers? Let him know what you need from him and I'm sure he will work on it.
I feel the same way; i just had a baby and although i see that i have lost some weight..i dont feel pretty anymore and i have NO self esteem like i used to. my family tries to make me feel better but my husband NEVER tries to motivate or tell me anything. i really wish i had a motivator even though im doing good at movitating myself...he said he shouldnt have to and for sure reason that hurt my feelings?? my husband takes care of the payments, etc just like yours is so i know how you feel with the emotional part. anyway! all you have to do is find someone to motivate you and i WOULD LOVE to be or find a motivational partner. i got a Wii Fitness and its been helping SO much to exercise. i would highly advise that.
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