Wow. Since when is a size 6 too big??

This might turn into a rant, but bear with me.

I've been told that I "shouldn't wear size 4-6 trousers at 5'3", 110-114 lbs". (My weight fluctuates that much depending on the time of month.) Yes, I actually wear a size 4 or 6, depending on the cut and brand. My tighs are 20" wide at widest point, and I have an hourglass figure, medium bone structure, but I've never been told I should wear smaller trousers or that I am too big for my height. (Which was the implied meaning of this suggestion.)

I was majorly p1ssed off. I've just gotten my eating habits under control, finally, and the pounds that crept up through emotional eating disappeared. I've been feeling pretty good about myself - and now a "friend" comes up with this. Sorry, I am not a dainty, small boned l'il girl, and I don't want to end up with an ED just because my thighs could be smaller.

DOH! I just wish people would mind their own clothes size. Thanks for reading.

It sucks when the people you love say unbelievably insensitive and hurtful things.

that's effed up. I'm 5'1" and 120 pounds and wear a size 4. i've always been told i'm thin. don't let insensitive jerks get ya down.

A size 4 or 6 is AWESOME--next time someone says something about your weight or size, smile devilishly and smirk, and say "it works well for me!!" Screw them!! Let the wonder!

I am 5 4" and weigh 120 pounds and wear a size 2 or 4 depending on the store.

Don't listen to people who give you negative comments.  They are not worth it.  Maybe you should think about why they might be saying these things to  you.  They might just be jealous of you for some reason unknown to you.  Or perhaps, think about hanging around with more positive people.

Good luck.

I'm 5'3 as well and when I was 110 pounds I wore a size 7/8. So I can relate in this as far as the thigh thing. Screw what other people think all that matters is that you are healthy and YOU know YOU look good. :)

I wear a size 12/14.  I love my body, and just aim to be as healthy as I can be.  I want to lose some weight for health (both immediate and life-long), but I also know I am physically strong, a beautiful person both inside and out, that my husband loves me and adores me and is physically attracted to what I have to offer.  It's so much more than size.

I don't think a size 6 is "awesome" or "unawesome."  If someone is a size 6, then that's what they are.

My mother, from her generation, has been so brainwashed.  She has had weight issues her whole life, and talks about "being a good girl" because she resisted eating something or "being bad" because she "gave in."  It makes me want to cry, it is so sad.

We have to cut out the cycle of emotions and beating ourselves up and concentrate on proper health.  I think we have to actively resist the brainwashing in our culture, even when it comes from what we tend to think should be safe sources of reflections on our person (as in friends, lovers, family.)

I think people should consider themselves as whole people and reflect on not just where their weight is compared to a healthy level, but also whether they are leading a good life, are practicing kindness and thoughtfulness, pursue learning throughout life, and so on and so on.

If someone commented on my weight or anything like that, I would respond that I'm aiming to be as healthy as I can be.  Hopefully in that way, I could demonstrate to them that it is far better to accept yourself first and work on bettering yourself second, than to be critical first and let the emotions get in the way.

Assigning so much emotion to a number on a tag.  Just think about how insane that really is.  I teach physics, and I have a lab in which students must determine their own mass for some calculations.  I set the scale in metric units (kilograms, it is science after all.  And yes, you can tell by that I'm American :-)  )

I love the students' responses, especially the girls, they find out their mass/weight in kilograms, but they don't have a frame of reference to know if that's heavy/light/fat/thin, etc.  So they don't get worked up about it.  Sometimes they ask me what that (number on the scale) "means."  If it says 50 kg, then I respond, "It means you are 50 kilograms."

No more, no less.

Original Post by msheeran:

I wear a size 12/14.  I love my body, and just aim to be as healthy as I can be.  I want to lose some weight for health (both immediate and life-long), but I also know I am physically strong, a beautiful person both inside and out, that my husband loves me and adores me and is physically attracted to what I have to offer.  It's so much more than size.

I don't think a size 6 is "awesome" or "unawesome."  If someone is a size 6, then that's what they are.

My mother, from her generation, has been so brainwashed.  She has had weight issues her whole life, and talks about "being a good girl" because she resisted eating something or "being bad" because she "gave in."  It makes me want to cry, it is so sad.

We have to cut out the cycle of emotions and beating ourselves up and concentrate on proper health.  I think we have to actively resist the brainwashing in our culture, even when it comes from what we tend to think should be safe sources of reflections on our person (as in friends, lovers, family.)

I think people should consider themselves as whole people and reflect on not just where their weight is compared to a healthy level, but also whether they are leading a good life, are practicing kindness and thoughtfulness, pursue learning throughout life, and so on and so on.

If someone commented on my weight or anything like that, I would respond that I'm aiming to be as healthy as I can be.  Hopefully in that way, I could demonstrate to them that it is far better to accept yourself first and work on bettering yourself second, than to be critical first and let the emotions get in the way.

Assigning so much emotion to a number on a tag.  Just think about how insane that really is.  I teach physics, and I have a lab in which students must determine their own mass for some calculations.  I set the scale in metric units (kilograms, it is science after all.  And yes, you can tell by that I'm American :-)  )

I love the students' responses, especially the girls, they find out their mass/weight in kilograms, but they don't have a frame of reference to know if that's heavy/light/fat/thin, etc.  So they don't get worked up about it.  Sometimes they ask me what that (number on the scale) "means."  If it says 50 kg, then I respond, "It means you are 50 kilograms."

No more, no less.

 

Thank you for posting this... I love your positive attitude and strive every day to adopt self esteem like this. so thank you.

That is really messed up!!!  If it were me I would cut that person out of my life completely.  With "friends" like that you don't need enemies.  A size 4 and a size 6 are both small sizes and in no way too big.  I agree that some people need to mind their own clothing size especially if they are going to be negative and hurtful about it.

Original Post by msheeran:

Assigning so much emotion to a number on a tag.  Just think about how insane that really is.  I teach physics, and I have a lab in which students must determine their own mass for some calculations.  I set the scale in metric units (kilograms, it is science after all.  And yes, you can tell by that I'm American :-)  )

I love the students' responses, especially the girls, they find out their mass/weight in kilograms, but they don't have a frame of reference to know if that's heavy/light/fat/thin, etc.  So they don't get worked up about it.  Sometimes they ask me what that (number on the scale) "means."  If it says 50 kg, then I respond, "It means you are 50 kilograms."

No more, no less.

 

 Thank you guys for the replies. I appreciate the reassurance.

Msheeran, thank you for this message, you have a great attitude and I agree with you 100%. What made me mad was precisely that my "friend" implied that my personal worth, looks, or health was in some way defined by that number on the  tag. That a person my weight/height should be a certain clothes size.

Original Post by msheeran:

I wear a size 12/14.  I love my body, and just aim to be as healthy as I can be.  I want to lose some weight for health (both immediate and life-long), but I also know I am physically strong, a beautiful person both inside and out, that my husband loves me and adores me and is physically attracted to what I have to offer.  It's so much more than size.

I don't think a size 6 is "awesome" or "unawesome."  If someone is a size 6, then that's what they are.

My mother, from her generation, has been so brainwashed.  She has had weight issues her whole life, and talks about "being a good girl" because she resisted eating something or "being bad" because she "gave in."  It makes me want to cry, it is so sad.

We have to cut out the cycle of emotions and beating ourselves up and concentrate on proper health.  I think we have to actively resist the brainwashing in our culture, even when it comes from what we tend to think should be safe sources of reflections on our person (as in friends, lovers, family.)

I think people should consider themselves as whole people and reflect on not just where their weight is compared to a healthy level, but also whether they are leading a good life, are practicing kindness and thoughtfulness, pursue learning throughout life, and so on and so on.

If someone commented on my weight or anything like that, I would respond that I'm aiming to be as healthy as I can be.  Hopefully in that way, I could demonstrate to them that it is far better to accept yourself first and work on bettering yourself second, than to be critical first and let the emotions get in the way.

Assigning so much emotion to a number on a tag.  Just think about how insane that really is.  I teach physics, and I have a lab in which students must determine their own mass for some calculations.  I set the scale in metric units (kilograms, it is science after all.  And yes, you can tell by that I'm American :-)  )

I love the students' responses, especially the girls, they find out their mass/weight in kilograms, but they don't have a frame of reference to know if that's heavy/light/fat/thin, etc.  So they don't get worked up about it.  Sometimes they ask me what that (number on the scale) "means."  If it says 50 kg, then I respond, "It means you are 50 kilograms."

No more, no less.

 

 Every once in a while a post comes along that rings my bell.........this is one of the best!  Nice to hear a good answer.............who cares the number, the size.  I read posts in here that say I am 163 and I wear a size 8.............first of all I wonder where in the world they find a size 8 that fits 163 (a number that I am dealing with currently).........but the important thing is, why care?  Being healthy is the goal I have and throwing out sizes for clothes sounds very childish. 

I think that disc sounds like she is a great size, height and encourage her to keep up whatever she is doing...............and by the way if she finds a 0 that fits and she likes it ......buy it!  That goes for a 10 also.

Barbara

I once went into a mall to look for a pair of pants.  I hadn't bought any for a while, but I figured I was a size 8.

So I went into Store A, tried on an 8, they were WAY too big.  Tried on a 6.  Too big.  Tried on a 4.  Too big.  Wound up in a size 2 that fit (but by that point I decided I didn't like the colour).

Store B, I held up a size 2 and could tell there was no way in hell the pants would get past my calves.  Tried a 4 - way too small.  6 was too small. 8 was snug.  Would up in a size 10.

On other occasions, I've tried on "hiphugging flares" from a specific brand, and needed a size 29, but in the same brand's "relaxed bootcut" jeans I got into a 27.

So ... maybe your not-very-polite-or-sensitive friend has been shopping in a store that fits to one extreme or another.  Either way, it was not a great comment for him/her to make.