What is wrong with guys these days?

Honestly? I just don't get it.

I went to the movies today, and while my friend and I were sitting down having a smoke two guys walk by and wink at us and say, "looking good ladies." Then, another guy drives by and completely (and oh so obviously) checks us out. I mean look at the road buddy, there are people walking everywhere that you might hit. Then, a few minutes later a few guys holler at us from their car.

WTF!?

It's not like we were dressed skanky or anything either. I just don't understand why guys think that that is the cool thing to do now... like those guys who honk at girls who are walking on the street. What good can come of that? Do they think that will make us want them?

Men. They boggle my mind.

Just take the friggin complement =P.

No, they aren't doing it to seriously pick you up. They are just having fun. So should you! So just laugh/smile and go about your business cause you got compliments.

heh.  i was catcalled by two teenaged boys in a jeep the other day while walking my dog.  they came from behind, so didn't see my face.  i wanted to chase them just to see the look of horror when they realized how old i was ;)

Hahaha, obviously they aren't doing it to pick us up. But I don't know, I just don't get it I guess. I mean my girlfriends and I don't go around yelling at random guys all the time lol.

I guess chivalry is dead. :P

Pgeorgian: Hahahaha that's hilarious! Yeah, I guess it makes for funny stories to tell. One time I was walking down a street and a car slowed right down and a guy leaned out and actually slapped my ass. I felt quite violated. Especially because they were old and I was about 12-13 at the time! Haha, grossss.

ew - colorblind, that's awful!  you were totally violated.  blech!  evil, evil males.

Original Post by cruithear:

Just take the friggin complement =P.

Typical guy answer :)

to the OP - I don't get it either, do they expect us to go running after their car with a piece of paper in our hand with our phone number on it?

I think the only time I appreciated one of these comments was when I was waiting for a bus, and a guy my age walked by and just said "you look nice today". The worst was probably when I walked out of a store and heard an older man say "nice ass" - f u perv!

(do you see the difference cruithear? :P)

I don't get it either, do they expect us to go running after their car with a piece of paper in our hand with our phone number on it?

You're darn straight we do!!!

hahaha!  while I think I've outgrown this stage, i can honestly remember doing it with my friends (and thinking we were awesome for it!) just for the heck of it.  Sometimes its to get a reaction, sometimes just cause we're bored, sometimes cause we just think you're really hot and want you to know it (although we're pretty sure you already do!).

i'm kind of with cruithear on this one, as long as they aren't crude or grabby, just take it as a compliment, we really mean no harm

pgeorgian: I know, men are just evil. I think I should become celebate and wear a parka everytime I go out! Hahaha.

vicereine: Exactly. Like there are some comments that girls appreciate. There's a HUGE difference between a guy saying that you look nice, beautiful or whatever and a guy catcalling you or commenting on your ass and/or rack. Ahh...some men are just perverted. I'll never understand... lol.

You want creepy..try this on for size:

I was at the gym, doing weights for about 45 minutes.  There was a guy who always seemed to be on a machine near me, but I thought I was being paranoid.  Anyway, when I went to go put my dumbbells back on the rack he approaches me

him: you're doing really good
me: ..uh..thanks
him: I remember you
me: ..uh...okay..
him: August 3rd, 2006. 
me: ..uh..what?
him: I saw you at *gym where I used to always work out*
me: ..uh..yeah okay.  Bye.

And then I hightailed it to the opposite side of the gym, where I stayed until he left.  Can't have him seeing my car/license plate, following me home, etc.  This was just last week, by the way.  So..he remembers the exact date he saw me almost two years ago?  And felt the need to tell me?? 

But as for the typical catcalling type stuff, happens all the time, I just try my best to ignore it.  "nice ass!"  "nice rack!" "work it, honey!"  Oh well.

Eww... That is really creepy.

Yeah, I've had a couple really creepy guys like that too. Last year I was drunk at a party and got this really great idea that I wanted to go home. So I began to walk (read: stumble) home, until I realized that I didn't know the way and my house was about an hour away. Then this van started following me. I thought I was being paranoid too, but just to be sure I booked it to the nearest corner store. My cell phone was dead, and of course I had no change, so finally I managed to figure out how to call collect (it's hard to press numbers when you're really drunk lol) and got my dad to pick me up (it was 5:00am, he was not impressed). The van was still parked outside the store when my dad came. He wrote down the license plate and on the way home we flagged down a cop and got him to run the plate number. Turns out they were "human smugglers." Yeah... that could have turned out VERY badly.

And then there's the time when I was younger and was hanging out with a few of my friends late at night. Some guys started talking to us, gave us some beer and smokes, etc. One of them said he had just moved in onto *insert random street name here* and he wanted me to go to his house with him. I declined, then he asked for my number. I gave him the wrong one obviously. The next day, a letter arrived in our mailbox that said that a known sexual offender had moved into the house that he told me he lived at. That ALSO could have turned out VERY badly.

CREEPY MEN! Lol.

I'm glad you had some sense when you were younger. My mom told me she got in a car with a man asking for directions (I don't remember how old she was), they ended up going another way, my mom got nervous and was looking at the car door, he saw her doing that and let her out. Talk about lucky.

As a man, I have to say how sad it is to hear of these terrible stories.

The cat calls and sexist remarks are also pretty sad, but obviously on a much less serious scale!

I have to admit to having complemented a couple of ladies in my time, but not so graphic as to say "nice ass" or anything as infantile.  I have literally done this to only 2 total strangers in my life, on seperate occassions.  To say they were gorgeous, or sexy just didn't do them justice, they were perfection.  The combination of the way they looked, the way they were dressed, and even the expression on their face, was a wonder to behold honestly.

The last one was on a train, we were both on the same platform, boarded the train, and I waited to comment until just before I was getting off.  I said something like "Hi, I hope you don't mind me saying, but you have made my day, you look so beautiful you almost glow, you have been a ray of sunshine in an otherwise dull day, thank you for that."  I am happy to say she smiled rather than looked freaked out!  I told her I was getting off, wished her the best for the rest of the day and got off the train.

That was it.  Too freaky?  I don't know why I felt compelled to say something, it was just that they had such an impact on me.

As long as it's not too crude, I don't mind comments.  It helps keep me motivated and makes me feel like my effort is paying off.

Aside from random whistles and such, one encounter stays with me.  I was alone, stuffing my face (of all things!) at a Subway once.  A few tables over, there was a man.  We were sitting facing each other.  I'm pretty sure I arrived after him, and he wasn't ogling me or anything that I noticed, so when he approached me, I was a bit thrown off.  All he said was that I was the most beautiful thing he'd ever seen, wished me a good day, and left.  I watched as he drove away, just in case, but I never saw him or his car again.

That sort of thing makes me feel good.

For crying out loud!

An attempt to hide bragging that all these guys hooted/shouted at you and your mate, with supposed disgust!

It was just a bit of fun....lighten up!

I have an eww story... I was in a club with my ex, must've been about 19, and this random guy just came over and pulled at my top to have a peek inside... okay he was drunk, and I guess it was a compliment, as I wasn't dressed tarty or anything... the worst part of it was that my ex then decided it was a good idea to share a cigar with him. Why I'll never know... neither of us knew him, and I had hoped he'd do a little more than that to defend his woman.

Another time, about the same age, we were walking through a club on our way out, it was crowded and someone decided to grab my butt. It made me smile til I realised it wasn't my ex doing it as he was walking in front of me. I was so drunk it took me a minute or two to figure that one lol

The best two times was when me and my bf (before we were a couple) were getting ready for a halloween party. Me being me decided to go as the universe, dressed in black skirt and hand painted (not too) low cut black top. As I was rubbing body glitter on my chest, he was staring at me open mouthed and drooling it was hilarious!

And the second time, with said bf, I was at the hairdressers getting my hair styled gorgeous for the ball we were going to, frumpy clothes and no make up on so I wasn't feeling ready then. When I was done, he took one look at me and just said 'wow'. He was stunned into silence lol

Unfortunately I've never had the pleasure of being whistled at or randomly complimented, or even chatted up so as i'd notice :( but as long as it wasn't too lewd or offensive I'd probably take it as a compliment.

 

In general, you can't get too upset about guys being idiots and hootin' and hollerin'.

However, as some of these stories have shown, it can be somewhat alarming when a stranger in a car starts focusing on you - I was walking back from a party in college, half carrying my friend, when a car came from behind us, and the driver "hooted." We didn't respond, this annoyed him, he slowed down, stopped, and the passenger got out of the car, and started crossing the street towards us. We were close enough to campus that we were able to run (again, I'm half carrying my friend), get onto campus, and a guy we knew was going into a dorm, so we had him hold the door for us, and we were safe inside. Maybe the guy was just letting his friend out of the car there, but to us, we were very afraid of what they intended.

So although guys doing this are usually just being idiots, and in their minds may be paying a compliment, it can be scary to a woman, because we've all either heard stories or had experiences where the situation escalates. The "compliment" isn't worth the resulting fear.

OK so he got out of the car?.....keeping in mind that guys find the oddest things funny, do you not think that they get a little kick out of the fact that they know the have scared you?

I just wonder how any of you ever get into a relationship with guys when you run scared every time one shows any interest, going by the number of other threads that have been on here on the same subject.

 

Original Post by oit:

I have to admit to having complemented a couple of ladies in my time, but not so graphic as to say "nice ass" or anything as infantile.  I have literally done this to only 2 total strangers in my life, on seperate occassions.  To say they were gorgeous, or sexy just didn't do them justice, they were perfection.  The combination of the way they looked, the way they were dressed, and even the expression on their face, was a wonder to behold honestly.

The last one was on a train, we were both on the same platform, boarded the train, and I waited to comment until just before I was getting off.  I said something like "Hi, I hope you don't mind me saying, but you have made my day, you look so beautiful you almost glow, you have been a ray of sunshine in an otherwise dull day, thank you for that."  I am happy to say she smiled rather than looked freaked out!  I told her I was getting off, wished her the best for the rest of the day and got off the train.

Quite possibly one of the lamest things I have ever heard...

well ann, we don't get into relationships with the guys driving by, seeing as how they're driving :P - and the older man who said nice ass, no thanks. I think a guy coming up to you to try and chat, maybe a nice compliment, bit of flirting, is different than guys hooting and hollering as they walk/drive by :)

edit: I'm not afraid of them, I just think they come across as immature morons ;)