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my hubby still gets pouty time to time because I had to tell him this.

but I NEED SLEEP!

I felt smothered! I even suggested 2 twin beds ROFL. Suggest something outrageous, so then when you say "okay, well if we just sleep right next to each other touching without being all over each other, how's that sound?" then it doesn't sound as bad.

*shrug* he'll still be hurt, but how can he not understand? Just make sure he knows that its not anything to do with attraction,etc (they are SO SENSITIVE !) and you just need a little more space to sleep well.

Now we have a pillow we call each other's names and I rest my arm on mine when I'm facing opposite (or else it falls asleep) and he cuddles with his. This has been working out well.

I'd say you just need to be honest with him and TELL him that you appreciate his closeness, but you're having a hard time getting good sleep when he cuddles you.  Do you seriously think he'll be offended by that?  I wouldn't be; I'd rather know that it was a problem for my wife, and that she could be honest with me about it. 

Original Post by flonklar:

I'd say you just need to be honest with him and TELL him that you appreciate his closeness, but you're having a hard time getting good sleep when he cuddles you. 

 I'm going to second the wacky idea that you talk to him about the problem.  It's so crazy it just might work.

After 29 years I still pout because I don't get as much cuddle time as I would like.  However, my DH doesn't sleep well that way, and I would rather have a well rested happy husband than a grouch.

We compromised.  I get about 5-10 minutes of cuddle time when we get into bed.  Then we move to our separate corners.  (Unless of course cuddling leads to something more athletic than sleeping.)

Talk to the guy about the problem?  Hmm.  That's so crazy it just might work!

Ok, sorry - I have to get the sarcasm out of my system.

Definitely tell him you enjoy spending time with him but you just can't sleep like that.  My husband is a cuddler AND a snorer - I'm a touch me not.  We deal with it.  You can try to just suffer in silence and hope you get used to it, or you can tell him the problem and ask him to help you solve it (Men like to fix things).

Good luck!

Tell him exactly what you just said to us! You adore him, he's awesome, but snuggling is turning you into a cramped, sleepless zombie.

My fiance and I have a Cal King bed specifically so we get our own space - and from time to time, one of us DOES go sleep in the second bedroom (restless, can't sleep, want to read a book before going to bed, have a cold... anything that might keep the other person up.) We think nothing of it - we know we love each other, and cuddling all night isn't our thing. We prefer to sleep :p

When I tell this to committed cuddlers, they gasp as if we are destined for divorce - "How can you not cuddle?!" To some people, it is a super important part of a relationship. But for others - like those who need peace, quiet and no touching in order to sleep - it is an intrusion into your REM cycle/sanity. So speak up! Let the man know you need some shut eye.

Ha Ha...this isn't as bad as what my fiance does. He constantly turns over from side to side (which I noticed I'm doing as well.) But he has this one big a** pillow he has (that he won't share with me! He's very close knit about his pillows and not sharing which I hate...and it's the best damn pillow! Lmao.) and he throws it from side to side as he turns over and over. Sometimes the damn pillow smacks me if he turns my way. Or he pushes me right to the edge of the bed.

He also does his nightly reading since he's a very avid reader, so the lamp next to the bed is usually on when I'm trying to sleep. I've grown accustomed to it, but still....

ANYWAY....sorry about that, my own little rant. Ha Ha. :/ I would suggest you are just honest with your guy. Maybe compromise something. Snuggle a couple of minutes before falling asleep. So that way he gets some time in of snuggling and then you can get the rest of your night to yourself.

My OH is a bit of a snuggler too and I cannot fall asleep like that.  I had to just tell him.  We always have a hug together but generally for sleeping we face opposite directions which we now affectionately term "bum sex" (not rude!!) where we lie outwards with our bottoms touching.  :o)

Just tell the guy before you kill him.