the x-gf :(

how do you feel if you see your boy friend's x-gf??

and I asked him  a long time ago .. : she is more beautiful than me , is'nt she?  ... he said "yes she is"

I hate this feeling.. I feel too bad when I see her..

how to handle it?

Well, there isn't much you can do other than try to find a way to feel better about yourself. Sorry to be all "mom" on you, but I am a mom. I don't know why you asked him that, or why he stupidly answered but forget it. I mean SHE is the ex, right?

and my husband is Australian so all his stupid exes are over there thank God.

I try not to compare myself to others. 

No matter who you are, where you are, or how pretty you are, there is going to be someone that is prettier than you are.

The word beautiful can mean many different things.  She is his ex for a reason. 

I have been around people that I thought wow she is very pretty.  After getting to know that person, they quickly became the ugliest person I had met.  I have also been around people that I thought werent good looking at all and after being around them for awhile, they were very attractive.  It is all in the personality and how you carry yourself. 

Of course not all pretty people have a bad disposition and not all the not so pretty people have a good disposition.

Everyone  has flaws, dont compare yourself to others.  You will never measure up.  You can on the other hand, look at how far you have come in your personal growth to be the best person that you can :).

hahaha spirochete

If I was you, it'll be better

I hate when I see her or when he just say her name

Wait... your boy straight up told you that she was more beautiful than you are? What the HELL kind of bf is that to begin with? No matter HOW beautiful the X is, aint no man supposed to be tellin' his woman that his x is prettier. That just aint cool. I completely understand why you'd feel like shit after that, especially if he still keeps in touch with his ex. Not cool.

manicdieter  .. thank you.. I think that I shoud remember only good times with him

mztenderheart02

not straight up ... I asked him :( stupid me

I'm in touch with her but he is not in touch with her anymore

what a asshole. sorry for my language but even if you asked him....he shouldnt have said that.

i have seen my bfs ex many times because she used to frequent the clubs we were at. i was starting to get pissed cuz i never saw her out before and all of a sudden she popped up everywhere. even if i didnt feel like going out...i felt as though i had to go because i knew she was going to be there.  at least hes introduced me as being his gf and she moved away so im happy heh.  she was ugly anyhow.. i couldnt get over her tapered pants and big white shoes. seinfield was on my mind when i saw that.

Lemme tell you a little story. :)

Once there was a group of about 8 girls and 1 boy. The boy was unattractive, arrogant (but intelligent), selfish, rude, and whiny. He also hated all other boys and made it nearly impossible for us- oops, I mean THE GIRLS to hang out with them. :)

After about a year of the girls hanging out with the rude boy on a daily basis, all but 2 fell for the guy. One flirted nonstop, one kept her feelings hidden, one blatantly asked him out, and one even made out with him. He refused all of these girls.

I don't know what makes a person attractive, but if he can REJECT all these beautiful, intelligent and kind girls, you have got to be considered attractive dating material to guys out there!

PS: aimee was NOT one of the names of these stupid, stupid girls who fell for the buttface.

;D

umm... i don't think you should be with anyone who thinks your anything less than the most beautiful girl he's ever dated (inside and out)

I've never met any of my boyfriend's exes but have seen a few pictures. They were very pretty and also looked nothing like me. I'm mixed but they had blonde hair, blue eyes, in good shape. It was hard to see. But he never mentions them and he chose me over other pretty girls that were 'after him'

You need to be with someone that builds you up, not tears you down. I don't know what he could possibly be thinking, unless he's just trying to make you feel like you are lucky to have him so you won't leave him

I think your bf just said what he said because he really didn't like being asked that question. I also don't think he was being serious.

You exposed your insecurities, and he played into them.

It's not as if only pretty girls can have bfs. If that was the case, I'd never have a bf!! It's really not about how one looks when it comes to relationship. I've seen my bf's exes also (in fact I worked with one and in the same club with another). All of them tall and skinny and pretty - but they all had flaws that were just incompatible with him. Some were inconsiderate, some promiscuous. Any guy would take a girl with great personality over a hot girl with ugly personality. So don't you worry about how your bf's es looks. She may be pretty in pictures, but for all you know, she might be the most crappy person. You are with him now and that's all that matters.

-Lemon Jello

I am sorry, but I don't understand this at all, unless you think you are only your face, your beauty. You're not! You have soooo much more to offer than eyes, nose, cheeks, and chin!

yeah thanks all for support

you made me feel a lil better

I'm sorry but if my bf ever claimed that one of his ex's were prettier than me... he would be an ex very fast.  

yeah, my boyfriend would never have the balls to tell me that an ex was more beautiful. it wouldn't matter how many times i asked the same ridiculous question. he simply knows better. frankly, i'm surprised that not every single man out there does not know this very important rule.

whether your boyfriend meant it or not, i mean, come on... isn't it just common sense? what the hell is wrong with this guy???

Do you mean that I have to leave him???

I think that he loves me more than everything in the world... :(

Hehe, if he loves you, then that settles everything. Maybe he was just joking, or maybe he's just blunt. In the end, it's all about you two, not what happened in past between your bf and his ex.

-Lemon Jello

it's not that you have to leave him...  it's the fact that most people wouldn't stand being with someone that degraded them.  I wouldn't... and in the world of relationships there are rules.

One of these rules being you never tell your significant other that anyone is more attractive than them.  :)

It's possible he could have been joking... especially if you pushed him hard for a response... or if he sounded like he was joking.  The fact alone that you mentioned that he said that sounds like he wasn't joking though.  I don't know.  I wouldn't take it. 

you don't have to leave him, unless you want to. has he done other things to make you feel bad about yourself? if he has, then you need to leave. but if it's just this, it really depends on if you can get over what he said. some women can let these things slide, others can't. i definately can't, at least not till i've talked about it to death. i can never keep these feelings bottled up, so i talk about the things that are bothering me until i'm satisfied to the point where i can let whatever it is go... or till i realize that it just isn't going to work out. actually, have you tried talking to him yet about how he made you feel??? that's the 1st thing you need to do. maybe you'll learn that he was joking, and he'll learn to never do it again! or maybe in your conversation, you'll realize that he's a prick from the things he's telling you, and you'll realize that you need to just walk away. yeah, i would talk about it, and then take it from there. he just might be horrified to know what he did to you. you deserve at least that much.

the problem that I started comparing myself with her so.. I'll never compare