XTC2 (Ex-Thick-Chick Club)

Hello all....

This website changed my life. ( : Sounds overly dramatic, but it is true. I hope to look back a year or so from now and think, "I am forever grateful......"  Anywho, I think my favorite part of cc, aside from all the great educational information, is the overwhelming support and friendship I've found here. I guess most of my life I've only trusted and truly befriended a handful of unique women---I hold my friends in the highest regard and do not take camraderie lightly. The women I have met here are seriously my spiritual twins! I always felt very alone in my weight loss journey----no more!

That said, I think my cc girls, and you know who you are, are the best! ( :   My buddies, my pals, my soul sisters =P Chat away to motivate yourself and others! ( ;

~~Olivia

Wow I just totally posted the 2000th post, how crazy is that??? 

that IS weird.    AM I crazy for trying to be friends with J during this process?   He cannot work him way back in to my house.   He has his own place for a YEAR.   I am going to see what happens with M. 

Not at all - I think it's a smart thing to do, seriously why would you want to be enemies....

I think it's very mature of both of you to have such a great outlook on it.  Seriously, friendship sometimes is much more valuable than the relationship itself. 

You can't just stop caring about someone, no matter what.  It just means that the journey of being a "couple" has ended, doesn't mean never talk each other again.  Just be leary of motivates behind the "friendship" and don't cross boundaries.  And know that when you end up serious with someone, your friendship may grow further and further apart, due to the committment with another person. 

he wants so badly to be with me now.  it hurts that he didn;t care before....

hey -- I am sick of being sweaty all the time.  I have tried 4 diff deoderants and always have sweat rings now.   ) :    GOSH   does yours work well?    (LOL -- tmi)

HEY --- and I am GLAD to hear you and B had a nice night with the boys!

I had that problem too this summer, it seemed as though no matter how hard I tried to, my pitts were wet... I started using clinical strength by secret I think, but that was really expensive. 

So I just got something different and been using that for the past month, it works really well and is about $3 cheaper, I'll tell you exactly which one it is tomorrow. 

As far as B and I go, it wasn't anything like the times we use to have together, which makes me sad, but I think it's because I've realized that I don't want that anymore. 

Have you ever felt like there has been so much disappointment and hurt that your relationship is beyond repair no matter what, because there will always be that over your head?  That's exactly how I feel and it sucks, because no matter what I am always going to love him, just lost my love and respect for him.  Did that make sense? 

I think it's more that we've lost our friendship that we once had, and as much as I miss that friendship, I've realized that we are 2 different people these days.  He was my best friend, sad to say that it doesn't even seem worth it to me to keep the "best friend" thing going, as long as we will always remain "friends" we'll be OK...

Olivia - I feel numb towards it all now, do you know what I mean?

silly stuff first --     I never used to sweat like the fat hog I was.  ONLY in the last year have I started sweating like a teenage boy.

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YES< I do know what you mean and it makes perfect sense for you to feel all THAT.  B HAS DONE YOU WRONG FOR FAR TOO LONG, JELLY!  I wish I did not understand, but I do.....   Keep your chin up.    You deserve the best man in the whole world.    ( : 

(((((((HUGS))))))

 

WHOA-  ok now I know I am not so good always with the forums due to bein a cc slacker....but when I don't sign on for 10 pages....phew.... 

Olivia-  I missed this but do tell me more about M.  And no it is not weird to be friendly with J, just because you are not in love with him and he may not be the right one for you does not mean you don't love him and want him as a friend.

Jess-  I totally feel your numbness.  I was there.  But I think you are so strong for standing up for yourself.

 

I am proud of both of you.

thanks val.   we just miss you when you are gone.  ( : some of us have lives 0---  not me, but you do.  :  P

M is my hgih school sweetheart, the one that got away, the one I have always wondered about, the one "what if....?" in my life.....    The one to whom I have compared all others and no one ever measured up....     Getting another chance....  is awesome.   TOo bad he is 5 hours away in St. Louis.....    dan g it. 

I am retarded.   See journal for proof, but I need a swift kick in the butt.   I really loathing myself right now.   and that sucks. 

FIVE DAYS WITH NO CHATTING??!!  I'm in shock!  What's going on girls!  I'm BACK!!  I missed you all but we didn't have internet and I just enjoyed eating SO MUCH on vacation that I felt kinda guilty about signing on and we were just so busy!  But we had a wonderful time and it was just what we needed, both personally and for "us".  This week really helped our relationship I think, no fighting and really spending time and really talking, not just "how was your day, what do you want for dinner?". 

SO!!  Now to try and catch up with you a little.

Olivia~ I have read all of your journals and I think you are doing the right thing.  You need YOU space without J but you are attempting to keep your friendship with him which would be great if it culd happen.  I hope it does but you have to know when to cut the cord if it becomes a hinderance.  But for right now it seems to be working out for you which is good.  It does suck that he took the bed though, you need to get that replaced asap, a good nights sleep is very important in these trying emotional times.  Keep doing what you're doing and letting yourself heal however you need to do that.

Jess~ First of all, just wanted to comment on your journal from either today or yesterday about your future goals.  They're great!  It sounds like you've made a plan for yourself and I hope things workout for the best for you.  I've heard you mention the military before so I know it's not a spur-of-the-moment decision but it is a huge one.  I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do and no matter what, those boys LOVE their mom and are proud of you!!!  I know we all are!

Val~ I agree that you need to be the pigeon occasionally, don't feel bad for standing up for yourself because you deserve it, everyone does.  We can only give so much before we need a little in return and sometimes people just take us for granted.

Daizy~ I'm SO sorry we missed you in Epcot!!!  We were on the Energy Ride which is 45 mins long so the timing just sucked!!  My phone was on vibrate because of the ride or I would have gotten it about 15 mins earlier and we totally could have met on your way out of the park!!  Again, so sorry about that, stupid technology!  But it sounsd like you had a much needed peaceful vacation which is good.  We had a great time too!

Peanut~ hope things have calmed down with D and A and you're able to get a little more sleep!!  There will be hard days and then there will be moments when his little smile will just burst your heart with love and you will forget about all the sleepless nights and "emotional" fights with D.  You're a great mom already!

Well, still have tons of work to do so I better get back to it!!

Good morning ladies!!  Where is everyone lately?  I will talk to myself if you are all busy, I just hope I don't start talking back!

Today I had cheerios for breakfast and a few grapes and then a 100 calorie Kit-Kat for a snack.  I need something more substansial before the gym though.  Turkey sammich for lunch and an apple.  Not sure what afternoon snacks or dinner will be though.  D has class tonight so I'll be able to watch some soaps to get caught up and unpack. 

love you, abbs -- good to have you back. 

I am just having a hard time getting around in time in the AM to comment on journals and posts like usual.  Not enough sleep will do that to you.   =P 

Your vaca sounded awesome!!!    ( : 

I jogged and lifted this morning.   exercise is good.   it keeps me sane.   no groceries yet cause I got home at 5something last night.    TONIGHT -- FOOD!    : D   yay!

Wow sorry!  Been in my own little world of work, ugh!  Huge audit going on 11/4 that I am preparing files for, talk about stress, : ( 

 

Ok Olivia, i need more details.  How did he see this personal ad?  Is it really your ad or someone else's?  Are you going to be able to pay the mortgage on your own?  It sucks that he's now in his "anger" stage but it's good too, for your at least.  I think you should take this time to just focus on yourself and let him be angry for a while.  It will wear off eventually and you can either get back to your friendship or just move on with your life. 

Jess~ good luck getting ready for your audit!!  I'm sure everything will go fine!

Daizy~ are you all unpacked and organized in your new place?  My suitcases are still packed from vacation!  I think it's like once I unpack, vacation is really truely over, I dont know but I avoid unpacking like the plague. 

Peanut~ You gotta schedule in picture time!  We want more pictures of P!!

Val~ how is everything going?  Are you feeling any better?

it's mine.  I was bored and lonely and dumb.    just wanted someone to talk to.   He thinks I lied about everything.    I'm confused.   which sucks.   I am so sure most of the time. 

haha some of you have me totally laughing.  I love this thread.  I feel good.  Just not giving in to the virus that the whole world has right now... 

Olivia- M sounds amazing, and that makes me happy for you, but now there is S, and J, and I am starting to get confused   In any event I bet it feels good that you know that J was not the end all be all!  Also, what about this personal ad.....what did it say how did he find it.  How did he know it was you?

Peanut-  I love you... call me and come over soon.

Ring- Glad you are back.  And that you had a great trip!

Jess-  How is the audit going...

Daisy-  How is all the unpacking going?

 

I am looking at a dog right now that my husband says i can have.... he is ADORABLE... I am excited to see if he is still available for adoption!  I love dogs.

 

S is just a friend.   ( :     J is the ex, M is a maybe.   =P 

It's on yahoo.  some guy he works with showed him, with a pic, so....   no excuses, but I was bored and lonely and it seemed like a good idea at the time.

And really what is stopping you?  He had his chance...

him making me feel hella GUILTY.