XTC2 (Ex-Thick-Chick Club)

Hello all....

This website changed my life. ( : Sounds overly dramatic, but it is true. I hope to look back a year or so from now and think, "I am forever grateful......"  Anywho, I think my favorite part of cc, aside from all the great educational information, is the overwhelming support and friendship I've found here. I guess most of my life I've only trusted and truly befriended a handful of unique women---I hold my friends in the highest regard and do not take camraderie lightly. The women I have met here are seriously my spiritual twins! I always felt very alone in my weight loss journey----no more!

That said, I think my cc girls, and you know who you are, are the best! ( :   My buddies, my pals, my soul sisters =P Chat away to motivate yourself and others! ( ;

~~Olivia

Ring ~ nice work getting the decorating all done! Can you post a photo of the house all lit up? We had something similar happen to us last year with our lights for the front of the house - I think we ended up with two different colors - it looked ok, but I was not happy about it. This year we are not certain if we can put lights up at the townhouse - we're kind of waiting to see what other people do....

I hope everyone else is well! It's so quiet in here!

 

good morning, daizy!    ( : 

I know.  I think we are all just busy this time of year. I know I am.  

Work is work -- only 10 days with kids and one with teachers.  if I can just hang on.....

You can!! The ten days will fly by - what is your last school date? Jeff has school until the 23rd then he's off through Jan 4th. I only get the 25th and 26th off, then the first. Sigh. I liked the academic world better, because when the college was closed, so was my lab! LOL I did find out we are getting out at 3:00PM on Christmas Eve this year, though, so that is good. I'll take whatever I can get.

When is your trip to see M next? Before or after Christmas?

 

( :   I know.  we have some perks --- but so many frustrations too!  =P  

I think, if it works out, the 28th-30th, I will see M.   We'll see......  He is really......distant lately.   I know he has a lot on his mind --- between the very sick ex gf/roommate with MS, a huge spider bite on his hand, all the end of the semester projects and papers that are torture every time, and finishing an incomplete in prontmaking he had to take because he missed so much school taking the ex to the hospital and doctor  BUT  I need some of him too.    Maybe I want too much from a man who cannot give it to me.........     I am feeling defeated where men are concerned.    and I would never make a decision about J based on feeling lonely, but he has been so sweet lately.  We already made a date for New Year's since I will be back from STL then.   Weird....     I feel very selfish. 

NO! You are NOT selfish! This is what people do! They date more than one person to figure out what they are really looking for! I am glad that J is being so good, whether or not you decide that he's the right choice for you. You spent many years with the man and feelings don't dissolve overnight.

Ugh - the spider bite sounds like the worst part of M's issues right now to me. I hope it clears up quickly. I don't think you know yet what he can give you - but I think it's good that you'll have a chance to talk it out with him. His life is pretty complicated right now with the sick ex gf - I feel bad for him that he's being held hostage by her. Threatening to do something to herself to keep him around is way beyond manipulative. I can't even think of a good word for it....But, that said, you still deserve to know if there's a potential for anything with him, if that's what you decide to pursue.

I think you just have to roll with it all right now and see how things unfold. You cannot possibly have any answers overnight and you don't need to. All you really need to do is take good care of YOU. The rest will fall into place.

And BTW, I would not change jobs with you or jeff in one hundred thousand million billion trillion years. I taught school briefly and totally sucked at it. Teenagers scare me. LOL I give you HUGE PROPS for choosing teaching as a career. It's obvious you love kids to choose that as your career - and that is what they need - people who love them enough to deal with their craziness :)

I agree with Daizy, you are NOT being selfish, you are doing everything you can to ensure that you are as happy as possible which is what this world is all about.  It sounds like M has a lot on his plate right now but he needs to make time for you as well, you're not just a hot piece of ass every few weekends!  Uprooting your life to move to STL and be with him is a little drastic at this moment in time but him finding 20 mins a day to talk/chat/text with you is totally different.  I know you said you weren't phone people but you have to have a way to keep the communication flowing which is the corner stone of any relationship. 

Well we did get to the gym which made me feel better.  I had taco salad for lunch and an orange.  Then I finally broke down for the cookies but they were very good and worth it.  I'm munching on a banana now and then home to beef stew in the crockpot for dinner.  Hopefully it's good, I got the recipe online and it always makes me nervous when I do that. 

J~ I hear you on another day another dollar.  We're really going to be right this month and of course it's christmas.  I have no one completed yet of crouse.  My mom and his mom are half done and so is his sister.  But we still have my dad, his dad and his sis' b/f.  They do $$ amounts, like spend $50 on a person for all b-days and christmas.  I'm totally cool with $20 limits for her b/f and myself since we're not "family" and it's a little rediculous that we have to spend $100 on his sister and her b/f.  That's a lot of money.  I'm going to ask him if he would mind if I e-mailed her and asked if the s.o. could be reduced to $20. 

But I'm glad Sugar is ok and will be better soon. 

Work is work.  Someone offered me a doughnut and of course I accepted and now it's sitting like a brick in my tummy and I'm burping up that grease burp which is gross. 

Hope you're all having a great day so far!

I'm glad she is ok too, but so expensive.    ) :  

I agree ---  $20 is plenty for people I do not care about.....  I think $50 is a lot.   especially when I have $0 for myself, let alone for other people.    

I am feeling Scrooge-ish.   Can you tell? I mean, I guess I need/want gifts I can use like cash and gift certs to WalMart or for food, but gimme a break. 

I am burnt out at school too.    Feeling sort of like getting drunk and staying in bed. 

Hi all!  Our computer was not available this weekend...mostly because my husband was hogging it.  How is everyone?

I am ok ---  how's life for you, val?     everyone else? 

Well, I did that.   Drank and went to sleep early.  We should have had a snow day and didn;t, so I was mad this morning.   It's freaking freezing. 

My spaghetti squash turned out AWESOME and J's chicken parm was good too.   We watched Stepbrothers.  ---   pretty funny if a little dumb.  

This morning makes 4 days again I skipped working out.     ) :    I suck .

hope you ladies are in better moods than I ----  I am hungry and my head hurts, and I just wish it was the last day of school before the break NOW.    / : 

I would like to say I am starving right now...boo.  How is everyone?  I am wrapping 250 presents today!  It should be exciting!

250 presents Val? Is this something for work or did you just go overboard ;)

I just ate a yogurt parfait, so I am no longer starving, but I was.

J ~ glad you had a good night last night. You need to stop beating yourself up for skipping workouts. You do so well all of the time. And most hard core workout people take a week off after 8-12 weeks of the same routine to give their system a rest. No worries!

It's raining and weirdly warm here today. It was -9*F two days ago - today it's 59*F. Go figure.

CC just ate my post, I hope it gained a pound cuz it was long!  here's the short version:

J~ only 8 more days until your break, you can make it!  As Daizy said, a few days here and there let your body refresh, you do so much that a break is sometimes needed!

Val~ that's a lot of presents!

Daizy~ we're also eerily warm here too!  Today is 60 and rainy but I think it's going to get cold again, weird. 

Peanut~ hope P is napping normally again and you have a better night! 

Maybe a journal later, busy at work. 

ALL~ can you send me your address and last name so I can send out christmas cards?  PM me or e-mail me ringnebula511@gmail.com.  (J~ I have yours)

It is for work.... but still its 250 presents hahaha

Weird.  You get to know what time people will normally post their journals and it's very weird when they don't.  My J always has her journal posted by now!!

Anyway, I'm in a really pi$$y mood so I'll try and keep it out of here today other than boys suck.  Just throwing that out there.

It's back to cold-er but still not COLD cold and rainy today.  Well 'misty' is more like it, it's not really rain but enough that you need your wipers on but even on the lowest speed they make that horrible noise so you're left to turn them on and off manually when it gets wet enough to wipe quietly but before it gets so wet you can't see through it.  It's a fine balance. 

Val~ did you get all your presents wrapped?  Were they all the same present?  I actually enjoy doing the same thing over and over again, I get to a point where I don't even have to think which i kinda like sometimes. 

We're having our 'office' holiday party and so our secretary C and I are trying to figure out how much of everything we need and our "boss" starts telling c she needs to invite so-and-so who doesn't even work in our building!  We tried to explain that this is for building 2110, not everyone you work with, but he just doesn't get it.  We have this fight every year.  So I told C to invite them all and when we run out of food because we only budgeted and bought for OUR building, they could stand back and watch the rest of us that actually DO work here eat.  Humph!  I'm making scalloped corn or creamed corn as some people call it. 

Ok, enough outta me for a bit.  chat with you all later!

Funny Ring, I thought the same thing about J's journal! I hope she's ok :) She's one of the first people who post!

It's the same kind of rainy crap up here, but it's cold too. It was 33*F when I was driving in. We're expecting an ice storm later. Yuck!!!

And yes, boys can suck :( I hope he apologizes!

Val ~ did you get all the presents wrapped yesterday??

that means my journal privacy options are screwed up.   ) :   I did post one.  can you not see it today? 

can you see it now?  I changed the filter.... 

I have 110 to go today.... But I promise I am gonna journal at about 11...  So, that will be done too!

I have to workout today, I skipped yesterday.... where is J?  Weird!

Yep J! We can see you now :)

Does your school have an indoor track? I know how sucky it is to run indoors, but would it be a change of pace to do so for now? It's FAR TOO COLD for me to jog outside here: 33*F I just can't take it. I'm a wuss, though. And the treadmill gets boring so fast...ugh. I feel your pain! Maybe the endorphins from working out will help with the blah feelings?

Val ~ nice work yesterday! More than half done! WOW!