XTC2 (Ex-Thick-Chick Club)

Hello all....

This website changed my life. ( : Sounds overly dramatic, but it is true. I hope to look back a year or so from now and think, "I am forever grateful......"  Anywho, I think my favorite part of cc, aside from all the great educational information, is the overwhelming support and friendship I've found here. I guess most of my life I've only trusted and truly befriended a handful of unique women---I hold my friends in the highest regard and do not take camraderie lightly. The women I have met here are seriously my spiritual twins! I always felt very alone in my weight loss journey----no more!

That said, I think my cc girls, and you know who you are, are the best! ( :   My buddies, my pals, my soul sisters =P Chat away to motivate yourself and others! ( ;

~~Olivia

thanks, jelly.  I am proud of me too. 

I think when HJ  ( )  gets back, he and you will be able to work out a real, living, GOOD relationship....  make that your goal.  To be done with/squared away with B so that when he gets back from Iraq, you can pursue your dream, girl.   YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.  

Jess~ hell no it's not wrong!!  Your hubby is a piece of crap and I really hope taht he'll be out of the picture soon both for your sake and for our sake because i know I want to come up there and beat the crap out of him!!!  And I'm sure I can think of a few other girls who would make the trip with me!!  Has there been any more talk on the house down the street from your parents?  By the way, I'm SO glad you're feeling better!!  Sorry, I didn't mean to minimize that point, I just get fired up when I think about your dumb hubby not even calling you while someone else is offering to bring you chicken soup.  As long as nothing but friendship happens while you're still legally married, there is nothing wrong with having those feelings.  You talk about seperating from B in your own place, but that doesn't always mean divorce.  Have you thought about that?

So D and I just went out to lunch with a co-worker and her husband and had a nice lunch.  Then in the car we're stopping at the gym to see if the aquatics director (my boss technically) is in his office since we've been playing phone tag for three days now.  So I drove past a parking spot because I saw one closer and D's like "why didn't you park there" and before I can even say anything "or there?"  I said "I see a spot up ahead (closer to the door) but when we got up there it had a fire hydrant there so it wasn't a parking place so I drove past and parked a few cars down.  I said "I'm sorry, I didn't know it was a fire hydrant" and he starts calling me bitchy and getting all upp-ity with me!!  I hate it when he does that!  As soon as I say "I'm not being bitchy" he says "you just proved my point."  WHAT?!  I'm not even allowed to defend my statement without being called a bitch?!  That just leades to me getting more and more annoyed because he just plasters this "told you so" type smile on his face and I want to freaking punch it off.  so he's being all pissy and I dropped him off and left without saying anything.  Idiot.

How funny that you mention the divorce word... I know it sounds really stupid, but divorce is so final... I guess part of me wants away from him so bad, but other parts of me just wants things to eventually work out. 

Although, I've though a lot about divorce, for now I am making the big baby step and just trying to get away from him... The more I distance myself from him, the easier of a time I am having to move beyond him and I...

I just don't know anything anymore, except baby steps...haha!!! 

As far as that house goes, I still need to do more research on it, and talk it over with my parents, but things have been so crazy lately...

NOT COOL, abbs.    ) :     SUPER SUCKY   (((((HUGS)))))

You have to do what works best for you, jess -- for you and boys....   I think taking any major step in the direction you want to go is GOOD.   (((HUGS)))

Oh, and FIber One bars should be illegal.  My tummy hurts.   ) :

O's right, Abby. What the heck happened to the sweet guy that brought you breakfast today???! Geez! I also get really angry if someone tells me that I'm "proving a point" when I am simply defending myself from whatever they've accused me of ~ must be something in our tones....LOL Do you think he likes to push your buttons??

Jess ~ So glad you are feeling better! What an awful experience to have :( And I still cannot believe that B didn't call you/check in/ or have the nerve to come home at 5AM when you've been so sick. WTF? And NO - there is nothing wrong with those thoughts or feelings. And if it so happens that you are ready to move on and you are both in good places when he returns, then so be it :) You are not doing anything "wrong" as a married woman by having a close male friend. (Not sure if HJ is real initials or short for something, but that's who I mean!! LOL)

 

Jess~ yes, agreed with O and Daizy!!  And baby steps are good, there's no need to take giant leaps in something like this.  You're already starting with the bank account and looking for alternative living arrangements.

Daizy~ yeah, he likes to push my buttons and it pisses me off.  I fall right into my routine sarcastic remarks which push his buttons so I guess we're kinda even on that front.  He'll be fine later

IS IT 4PM YET??!!!!  I want to go home and Fit but I know D will be playingh is dumb video game and won't want to give it up. 

And I agree about the F1 bars!!  I had two in one day and a tummy ache the REST of the day!! Lesson learned, 1 a day and NO more no matter how good they are! 

Went to Ruby Tuesday's for lunch and I got the salad bar.  I'm so picky, my ideal salad is iceburg lettuce, cheese, cucumbers and sunflower seeds.  It was HEAVENLY!!  I wanted a baked potato too but last time I asked for one they said they only served them after 5pm but then I saw two come out of the kitchen for another table!!  Guess they changed their policy!  Oh well, it was too late to order one, I'll remember for next time.  But now I'm craving a baked potato!  What is it with me and potato cravings??!!  I love me!

We have an Outback gift card so we might end up there some night soon, I also have been quietly craving a bloomin onion!

HJ = hot jason...haha!!! Too funny! 

Anyway - I can't believe D was being so grumpy at lunch, he has some serious mood swings somedays, that don't even make sense to me...

I too wish it was 3:30 atleast, man this day is going really slow, even though I've been super busy.. It makes no sense... Oh well.  

Fiber one bars, yes they definately live up to expectations...haha!!! 

4pm has never been further away!!  I wanna go home but I want hours too.  I want my cake and eat it too :P  Mmmm, now I want cake again!

Oooh....did you have to say CAKE, Abbs??! LOL Cake, with real frosting, not the whipped cream kind, is my absolute favorite thing to eat on this planet. Well, for sweet stuff, anyway

I can't leave until 4:30PM, which seemed to be dragging, but is now just 8 minutes away - YAY! Of course, I have to work tomorrow, so it's not such a big deal, but still....

I like the HJ!! That's good!

Fiber One bars do a job on me, too - as do Fiber One Pop Tarts, as I've learned today. I had one pastry as a snack this morning - they still have a ton of cals, but 5 grams of fiber - and it was good, but, boy - you'd think I was an old woman or a teenage boy! LOL

I hope you all have great weekends :)

Yeah, Fiber One should be banned.   SO good, but so bad.   lol

Hope your day is almsot over.  I am watchign the clock now.  5 more minutes until I get to go home too.   ( : 

have stellar weekends, girls!!!!!!!!! 

so my weekend sort of sucked. 

how were yours?

I am GETTING BACK ON TRACK.   I went from 154 to 161 in 2 weeks.    come on now....      No more booze, no more binging, no more skipping workouts

I will be better.   I have to be......... 

My weekend was freaking horrible...

I am sorry that yours was too Olivia!!!  We will overcome all obstacles in our way, remember that!!!

WE shall overcome.     ( :   

(((((((HUGS))))))

HI!!  I'm here!  I finally went to bed last night at 10:30, got sucked into Army Wives but finally turned it off around 10:50 and was just about alseep when D came clomping up the stairs talking to each kitty along the way (shouting it seemed like) and plopped into bed and wanted to cuddle.  I was so pissed but knew if I yelled at him I'd get even more upset so I just tried to fall back to sleep. 

I'm so sad I didn't get my decorations up yet but I WILL do it tonight!!  D's busy working on his take-home midterm which is taking him forever because this prof is just rediculous about his workload, poor D.  So that will leave me time to put up decorations! 

Holy crap did I get laundry done this weekend!!  Load after load, folded and put away!!!  My bedroom is SO clean!  I'll do another load Thursday night with clothes we wear this week that we want to take but I gotta start packing.  D's pretty incapeable of packing.  We got to Denver with no socks for him and one undershirt and possibly three pairs of undies for a week if memory serves me right.  But if I pack then he never has "the" shirt he wants.  I pack blue, he wants black.  I pack black he wants red.  Boys!!  I even lay it all out on the bed and have him 'ok' it before packing and still something is usually missing, the "prefect" shirt or whatever!

Jess~ wow, that was a crappy weekend!!  Hope you get some sleep soon so you can get "you" back to normal!!

Olivia~ You will get through it and you will be a better person for it.  We love you and we're here for whatever you need.  I tried to get on this weekend but my computer was installing updates and after I rebooted my internet wouldn't connect even though D's was fine so it was just my computer.  So we spend a few hours swearing and fiddeling with that an then it was time to go to bed. 

Peanut~ Hey sexy mamma!!  I get to call you a sexy mamma now cuz you're a mamma!!!!!  :P  Glad things are going well (even through sleep deprevation!) and you're enjoying this time so much!!  Where's Val lately?

Geez, Ring, you were on a spree! I have about that much laundry to do this week, too...ugh. If you're free, I'd love a hand! LOL Hope you get the glitch worked out with your computer, too.

Jess ~ Sorry to read about the car!! I am SO glad no one was hurt! And lucky it wasn't the good car, either - that must be a relief. Did you find it yet, though? I hear you on the sleep thing. I am exhausted and have no idea why. Go figure.

Olivia  ~ I just read your entries from the rest of the weekend. You have had a lot of hard thinking time, which is tough. Like Hershy said to you - this is like a death or a divorce and it will take time for you to work through it emotionally. I hope J was able to articulate what he might want to change if you gave it another go after a bit of a break. I think you need that to find out where your heart really is and what your heart really wants :)

Peanut ~ Saw your entry, great to see you in here! I'm sure being a Mom is just amazing :) And little peanut is beautiful!!

OK, gotta go inspect a couple schools - bbl for journals etc.

Man, I can't wake up today and I can't stop munching!!  I know better than to buy Quaker snackmix (chedder) but I did and now I can't stop munching on it!!  So I put it away and got out my lunch sandwich thinking turkey will fill me up, hopefully the sleepy-turkey effect won't hit too hard!!

I even turned off my heater to try and freeze myself awake.  The a/c guys came today and measured that the air coming out of the vent in our office was 59 degrees!!  I'm so mad I want to scream.  That's rediculously cold. 

Ok, back to work.  We were going to go to the gym but D had something pop up at work and then a 12:30 mandatory training so we ended up skipping the gym today, probably tomorow (he's going to lunch with work for a b-day for a co-worker) and wed we're meeting one of our friends for lunch.  So that leaves Thursday which will probably just not happen due to the fact that I will want to work through lunch and leave an hour early or "take my lunch hour at 3pm" in the comapny's eyes.  however they need to justify it. 

good morning, girls.  

I am sick and tired and sad and sorry......  I know it;s normal and all, but it is so NOT me.   what happened to being happy I was doing this?   He found a house and signed a year lease in a place with no pets.  good for him, right?  

I had the MOST awful bad dreams last night.  I kept waking up and feeling all disoriented, not wanting to shut my eyes again, but feeling exhausted and falling right back into the same dream.   ) :  

on the upside, nice jog this morning.   it is SO DARK now already though.....   

sigh.    at least the debate is on tonight so I will be occupied. 

have better days!!!!!!! 

Good morning :)

O ~ sorry about your rough night last night :( I guess it is good for him, but I know it's still hard on you both. I was happy that he wrote you a nice email and addressed things for you, in case you decide to try again later on or as a lesson for what he needs to do next time he finds himself in a relationship with someone.....You are doing really well for the amount of emotional upheaval you are experiencing right now. *hugs*

Ring ~ hope the flight went well. I think time is going by a little bit too quickly this week for my liking. I have too much to do to get ready for vacation next week - augh!

Jess ~ Did you find out about the car yet? Do you think you'll keep it or sell it for salvage? And what's happening at work?? Any movement on creating new positions yet?

Hi to Val and Peanut where ever they are!

you girls are so good and thoughtful and sweet.  I am so selfish ---  I rarely ccomment on your lives and you always do on mine.   Sorry.  I will try to be a better friend.   

Cause I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!   if I did not have cc and my friends here, I would truly be hating life.