XTC2 (Ex-Thick-Chick Club)

Hello all....

This website changed my life. ( : Sounds overly dramatic, but it is true. I hope to look back a year or so from now and think, "I am forever grateful......"  Anywho, I think my favorite part of cc, aside from all the great educational information, is the overwhelming support and friendship I've found here. I guess most of my life I've only trusted and truly befriended a handful of unique women---I hold my friends in the highest regard and do not take camraderie lightly. The women I have met here are seriously my spiritual twins! I always felt very alone in my weight loss journey----no more!

That said, I think my cc girls, and you know who you are, are the best! ( :   My buddies, my pals, my soul sisters =P Chat away to motivate yourself and others! ( ;

~~Olivia

OK!!  I'm here!!  First of all, I bought a box of 100 calorie candybars!  Snickers, milky way, twix and 3musketeers.  SO good and seriously the perfect size!  I usually want more than two bites with the halloween size ones but not an entire candy bar so these are seriously perfect!!  Did I say that already?

Olivia~ ok, so here's me being totally nosey and feel free to tell me to myob but what did his reply e-mail say?  Where does he think you (as in personally and a couple) could have done things differently?  Do they co-incide with the things that you were feeling needed to change?  Again, not my business just asking. 

Daizy~ YES, this week is going by too quickly (except work of course) because I have WAY too much to get done before Friday morning!!  But I've gotten three things crossed off during my lunch house which is good, only 1,000 more to go.

Jess~ yeah that sucks about the car.  Why did they tow it to the police?  You had talked to the homeowner and he said it was ok to leave it there so ?? 

So I wanted a salad for lunch to go with my turkey sandwich.  I had to run to my swim lessons office to grab some stuff and chat with my boss and was next to the salad bar on base.  I ran over to grab a to-go box and apparently they don't do "to-go" salad bars.  WHAT?  She was like "you could order a salad and have it to go."  I was like 'no, the whole point was to make my own salad and put it in one of those styrophome containers right behind you'.  she looked at me like I had 6 heads and I just walked away.  WTF?  I'm paying for an all-you-can-eat salad bar and taking one trip's worth with me total so they're totally making out on that deal.  Whatever, people are just dumb.  So just had my sammich for lunch and a 3 musketeers bar, they're not my favorite but still good.

YUM ---  I would have to leave those at work though because    I have been known to eat the whole box or something.

He said all the right things.     Quit (or cutback) on WOW.  spend time with me.  listen to me instead of zoning out.   get in shape.   get on meds for the bipolar/depression.   less required time with his parents.   help more (any) around the house.   tease me less -- no nicknames unless I like them.   be romantic.  more sex.   less tv -- more active stuff together.    I was pretty proud of him actually...   I asked him to think of things I need to do better too ---  he said, slow down when you talk or repeat what you said if I hear you wrong /not at all.     true.    

OH --and abbs, it isn't nosey to ask your friends what's going on! :)   love you

Wow, it's great that he can at least see the problems and address them.  Most boys are just in denile.  But this is a good step!!  I'm very proud of you for writing the e-mail and for him writing back.  Usually anger has set in by now and from what I hear it either hasn't happened or isn't going to happen.  I would have expected an "everything you do is wrong and here are my examples" type e-mail from one of my ex's!  Good for him.  I'm actually rooting for you two BUT that doesn't mean that I don't think this step wasn't totally necessary and 100% support you.  I totally totally think you did the right thing, I just like to think in the future you can work things out together.  I like J (or at least the J from before all of this stuff) and you know how much I love you!  I just want you to be happy with your choices overall.  You did the right thing, please don't let that become lost. 

That being said, I just ate my 3rd 100 calorie candy bar.  THIS IS BAD!!  I'm actually better with leaving them at home and bringing just one to work than the other way around.  At home I'm busy making dinner or doing something so I'm way less tempted to snack.  At work I'm an eating machine, or lately I have been.  I feel gross just peeking in my trash can seeing all the junk I've eaten today!!

I was pretty sure all the niceness would stop as soon as he realized I was not for the meantime going to change my mind.   I was wrong....  he is still maintaining a loving and thoughtful demeanor.  He emailed all the people at his work with a nice email asking if they knew of anyone who might want to buy or rent our house or be my roommate.    who knew?   too late --- but I wonder, what if??  I want a a year from now to be complaining about how much a pain it is to move back into a house you've moved out of once....  I want it to work with him.  But I do some change.   and I need to see what is out there.....    

Candy is the devil.   At work I have to MAKE time to eat enough snac/lunch to get through the day.   I like that I have to not eat too much there.... corse I make up for it at home.  :P 

Hey!!  I just got back from my RFL meeting which totally pumps me up!!  I love my peeps and I have such a great committee! 

I've got a buffalo chicken hot-pocket style thing in the oven for dinner, I just wish it wasn't so late to eat, oh well.

Olivia~ I think it's great that he's being supportive of you needing time on your own and trying to help you find a roommate.  Sometimes we just need a HUGE wake-up call in life and this may be his.  No matter what, having you in his life was a plus for both of you so keep that in mind when you're down.

 

Ok, dinner's ready, chat with you all tomorrow morning!

yum -- was the buffalo chicken pocket good?  I love that flavor..... 

I know.... he is sweet and I love him.  I just need to be in love with a man I want to marry....   

I had a much better evening than the last few.  No tears and not too much booze.   Probably a little too much food, but that's ok.   I was 156 last week Wed and was 155.4 this morning, so it's coming along..... 

OMG Abs - I so love those 100 calories packs of snickers bars, yummy!!!

Anything per measured and caloried is best, because I am less tempted to eat more. 

To answer your question on the car accident situation, according to state laws, there are 2 types of accidents that require a police report (reportable accident) one being somebody was injured, or the car is not drivable <--- I didn't know that was the law.  So since I talked to the home owner and he said everything was fine, I just assumed everything would be OK... But the police drove by and seen my car there, that was clearly wrecked and not drivable, so he had it towed and was charging me with a boat load of crap.  Thankfully he changed his mind once I convinced him that I wasn't drinking and driving and it was an honest mistake and misconception of the law. 

Olivia- I think you are handling everything great! I wish we could be there for you in person, but just know that we are here in spirit and routing you on the entire way!!! 

Good morning ladies!!  Not much to report, just catching up on some RFL stuff in between people in and out of my office asking questions I can't answer!  I gotta buckle down and actually do some work today, I just don't wanna!

Olivia~ the buffalo chicken was pretty good, it was spicey though!  Glad your evening was better than previous!!

Jess~ glad you got the car situation taken care of!! 

I will comment in journals later, CC+ sucks at that.  I hate after I comment that I can't get back to my friends journals in one click, I have to go to my journal and then click on my friends journals.  Grrr.  I don't have time for an extra click!

Ring ~ Are you using IE to get on-line? If so, I find that I can use the drop down arrow next to the back/forward page arrows on the upper left side to drop down to where it says "daizymae's friends" and it takes me back to the last post I was at after I comment. It is a little bit faster than going back to the top and scrolling back down etc.

I looked for those candy bars in the store last night but didn't find them :( My butt is thankful for that, but I'm not! They sound good and like Jess, it's a lot easier to not overeat when they're already portioned out....

O ~ you sound good today! glad to read it :)

Jess ~ glad the cop was reasonable about it. Hope you get some sleep tonight! And yes, they split TBL up into two segments - one hour last night, one tonight - because of the debates. I don't think tonight's starts until 9:00PM though. I need to check that out....

 

ha, I am reply 1990.  what a year....

I bolted when J said he was coming to get stuff last night, but was too slow, so he pulled in behind me as I got in my car.  He looked so sad, but I left anyway, went to the park and avoided the scene.    Came home to roses, a nice note and $50 I need.   why now????      sigh.    but I didn;t cry.     He has some big date surprise planned for the 15th.  wish me luck.    I ate way too much yesterday evening, feeling sad and empty, like I  had a hole inside.   That feeling sucks.  It is part of why I  have always been a fat girl.  I need to get a handle on that ASAP.  

did have a nice jog this AM, but the workouts are not enough for the eating I did. 

) :      I am determined to have a good day at work and come home in a good mood.    Hope to get some laundry done and make that veggie soup I have been talking about for a week now.   *eye roll*  lazy girl.  

  have great Thursdays..... 

Girls, I'm sorry I never got to commenting yesterday and probably won't again today.  I gotta make this quick, I'm SO behind at work!!

Olivia~ He wants to date other people or YOU?  Sounds like you but I may have raed that wrong.  I'm glad you went to the playground last night, sounds like some much needed released childish energy!!  Sometimes that's the best!!  Good luck and I have skype but I gotta remember how to use it!

Jess~ Wow, that sucks about the kidney stones!!  And about your back.  Goodl uck getting that figured out so you can fix it.  Keep us posted.  And what's going on with the "other" stuff you have to tell us?  Is everything ok?

Daizy~ This day is flying by and I have TOO much to do!!  I guess that's not a bad thing but I will officially be on vacation at 5pm today and I'm SO excited!!  Goodl uck finishing up packing and I'll call you down in FL!

Sorry girls, I gotta split!  I'll try to get back on later but it's just one thing after the other today before I leave. 

I want him to date other girls.  he wants to date me. 

have fun on your vaca, abbs! 

 

 

good morning, sexy ladies!   ( :

I plan to have as happy a weekend as I can.   Hope you do too!!!   

I would be lost without your love and support. 

O ~ I can't imagine what must be going through his mind right now - he is making an incredible effort NOW. What happened? How could he not realize what was going on all of this time?

Ring ~ Doubt you'll see this, but I hope we see one another in FL! Have fun!!

Jess ~ I hope things are better today for you. How are you feeling?

Peanut ~ Hope you get some sleep this weekend :)

Val ~ Where are you? How did it go for Samantha?

I know, daizy, me too --  me too......   / :   Was he really that oblivious???    I guess I need to try harder to be a better communicator..... 

and I PROMISE to make that soup, so I can stop talking about it.  heck, if I don;t there won;t be much to eat at my house this next week =  weight loss.. . hhmm.  maybe I won;t make it.  =P  (j/k)

I am feeling fine, that's the crazy part, I don't feel as though there is anything wrong with me, until that stone starts to move again, then I'll be feeling it.

Anyway, why is it that guys are never on the same path as the girls in their lifes?  Makes no sense at all, but I guess that's life. 

You best be kidding O...haha!

I am going to miss you girls this weekend, and Abs & daizy next week,  : (

But I hope you guys have a great time!!!

I'm always on on the weekends, jelly.  holler if you need me!  ( :

I think it's something about the Y chromosome, I really do. Yikes.

I hope you guys have a great weekend ~ thanks for the messages today, too!

I'll miss you all :)

*hugs*

what a weird weekend.  

how are all of you? 

I would have to say it was a strange weekend also...

A few friends and I stopped by the bar that's attached to the hotel where I serve at, for a drink after we got off work.  HJ just happened to be there, with his friends.  I didn't see that one coming, as I've been trying to keep my distance from him (normally we'd all talk before hand about hanging out).  So I seen his one friend first and went up just to say hi, well he was happy to see me and ran over to get HJ, one thing lead to another and we ended up hanging out with them... So it was a nice time. 

Last night B and I took the boys out for a nice dinner.  We didn't fight that's an accomplishment, although, not one to be proud of.  Especially since the only reason we didn't fight was because I kept my mouth shut.  So annoying. 

It's just you and me today kiddo, unless Peanut or Val pop in to say hi, that would be nice too!!!